NewStats: 3,262,948 , 8,178,608 topics. Date: Wednesday, 04 June 2025 at 07:44 AM b4ii

Hello nairalanders, I need your opinions on this matter.

My boyfriend of 3 years who is now my fiancee (we are talking marriage already) is constantly talking to his ex girlfriend (who is now married).

They discuss all manner of things, ranging from how she misses him and wished she had waited for him.

Trouble started when he told her he was planning to settle down (I still wonder why he told her) ever since she's always coming up with pots of lies against me. She claims someone told her so many things about me.

She fabricating lies isn't my major concern because I know once something good is about to happen the devil comes in many ways than one to destroy it.

I've told my man all about my past life and everything in it, recently he accused me of withholding some information of my past. The ex girlfriend had a chat with and told him things I don't even know about.

Nairalanders this lady is married, why is she poke nosing into our affair?? If she loved him that much, why did she marry another man?? Why is my man giving her audience Is he still in love with her I know she's obsessed about me. Her constant chats with him, makes him accuse me of things I've never done in my entire life.

I told him we should suspend the marriage until he's done with his investigation since he doesn't believe me cos he said if he finds out something I did in my past in the future and I didn't tell him it will be a problem.

s pls push to front page.

All of you need help.

From the emotional infidel married woman to the yeye boyfriend who keeps an ex as a close friend and you that have the intestinal mucosa to stomach all this crap.

I will pray for you all.

P.S This is no way an insult. If you feel insulted, I apologise.

Why is he communicating with someone's wife like that? . If u were the one communicating with ur ex like that how will he feel? Honestly its just a matter of time bfr they bang each other that's if they've not banged self. Sit your man down and talk to him, let him know how u feel, but if he's still stubborn, marriage no be by force o cus it ll probably spare u pain in the future.

first I want to ask some questions,no offense but how old are you(I hope you're not that old and desperate)...I mean this harmlessly I swear,why does he constantly chat with his ex?? is he believing the thing his ex tells him over what you tell him about yourself?? we might never have all the facts about your relationship but you need to be serious...sit down with him and talk to him about this...pls...that thing is problem...what is his ex's problem understand that he's the one allowing his ex get to him...na his problem not yours...but deal with this fast

What is your "SUPPOSED" fiance still communicating with his Ex for? Also to the extent of she (His Ex) fabricating lies against you & he believed her & still coming to accuse you about unfounded allegations...

I think you've a boy for a fiance & if you go ahead & settle down with him, the issue of this Ex will keep raring it ugly head & she will keep interfering in your marriage...
It's your daft Fiance that's the cause of all these & i don't think you should settle for someone who isn't over there Ex

You're just talking about your boyfriend ex
What is the relationship between u and dat ur boyfriend ex??

Because if she didn't kwn u before she left ur boyfriend, I don't think she supposed to kwn much about u

Maybe u ladies are into some secret something before

Hmmm

Na by force to marry?

Young girl, do not sell yourself short. Do not allow a man to start ordering and giving you an ultimatum, worst of all when he isn't even married to you yet and boldly disrespecting you by keeping in touch with a married ex.

You know what they say about Father Charles' law? Once banged can always be rebanged so long as it is in the bangee and Bangor's mind.

You've got to give yourself some respect even if the stupid guy was your meal ticket by walking away, standing your ground, and telling them both to go Bleep themselves for all you care.

Anything wey you tolerate now you go deal with a million of am when you don marry and trust me, you fit lose your life or insanity at the end of it all.

Rubbish.

Ditch him, he is not your man.

If you get married to him, he may still listen to the lies from his Ex about you.

The only reason ppl and things keep getting wrong is simply because ppl seem to have forgotten the "GOLDEN RULE" carry your yeye boyfriend ask am how e go feel if na u dey do this kind tin to am. Don't be scared of him not marrying u because u nvr can tell that guy might shock u like buhari inside marriage look before u leap.

Okay

Op,
i think you are smart to suspend the wedding plans.
your fiance is still greedy. looking for who to devour.

if he really has anything for u, he should not be talking to his ex
cos if they were so good together, why did they not marry

As far as I can see, Your man isn't a husband material.. He still has some feelings for his ex probably more than he has for you. Even if you love him, you have to find a way out of that relationship because love and marriage are two disparate things. Your gut tells you there's danger in marrying him. Our guts are mostly accurate and true. When your gut tells you there's danger, chances are there is. Don't ignore it and quit that toxic relationship for good. You would be doing yourself a lifetime favour and definitely avert a lot of sorrows. Never sacrifice your happiness for anyone. Love is good but happiness is better. The lesser the negative people in one's life , the more peaceful it will be. Your loyalty belongs to those people who never made you question theirs. Quit now before it's too late.



P. S. I don't judge people until I'm perfect.

From ur story ur fiancee is not over his ex, why does he still have her in the first place let alone still have close communication.
Don't be surprised they are sleeping with each other, marriage doesn't change anyone.

Who marriage epp?

You are about to marry a boy

0. Alleged victim's side of the story
1. Alleged perpetrator's side of the story
2. Truth

You want to marry this kind of man Is it that some people don use their brains or what

ur past is now hurting ur present if you are well cultured nobody will paint you colour

how did you spent your youthful days

there might be element of true in what she's saying check ur self first

Hmmn
Sorry, you are not in any relationship to begin with

Which kin fiance be dis one?

You better run for your life before you enter one chance marriage and start getting punch up and down, he is a boy

E get why

On a more serious note. Many guys do this, but, they respect their fiancee and do it codedly...

This woman is probably his first love/ bestie and painfully you have not measured up to her in his eyes....

Now dump his ass. Yes, Do it! It should knock some sense into him, if it doesn't, you're better off without the controlled idiot of a guy...A simp at best

M

Your guy is not a real niggar, let me drop these here

Never ever try to get back with your ex. (A glass once broken can never be restored)

2) Don’t keep on annoying him/her after they leave you, respect the decision. Annoying them time and again will cut the final few threads which are there between you both.

3) I know it will be tempting to curse them or abuse them if they had dumped you, but just he/she was the person whom you loved the most, so just stay calm.

4) Never ever have any false hopes of them returning back to you, it will make your future miserable.

5) Don’t keep on thinking about what she’s doing, or if she’s dating someone else now? Why the hell do you care about the person or be possessive about the person who left you halfway.

6) Cut from him/her completely, staying in is bad for both of you in the future.

7) You can never get the feeling of your first love on anyone else for sure but believe that there is definitely a person born for you who will love you more.

Never ever try to interfere in your partner's personal space. (Interference in partner's social media is the main reason for many problems in relationships nowadays.)

9) Once you have broke up, never try to think about physical intimacies or the good times which you two had, it will slowdown the process of your recovery, instead think of all the things which were not right in the relationship, this will help you to recover faster.

10) Memories will always flash in and out when you bath, try to sleep, while you shit etc.. but trust me time will heal this, when new memories are created these will go to the archive (definitely not erased though :')

11) Career is more important than love. Yes if you keep worrying about your ex, you will never progress in your career, in few more years your ex might be rich and well settled whereas you would be in the same place , So stop the shit and start focusing on your career.

12) Finally what is yours will always be yours and true love will always return back, if it didn’t then it wasn't really true love.

Nomaro' uno...

Sorry....but women lie too much