NewStats: 3,261,551 , 8,174,369 topics. Date: Thursday, 29 May 2025 at 04:09 PM 3x4w5u

Liliantalks:
please the real Igbo men that treat women like queens ,, there was a family i knew in anambra, the wife sold rice b4 she got pregnant, while she was pregnant, the woman will cook and the man will help her sell the rice in the night after his work , and give his wife the money ... ur wife would be pregnant n I allow her to work ? Okay o I hear you

Truth be told, I'd never allow my wife to stress even at the slightest while pregnant.

But that doesn't mean, I'd date a parasitic woman without life goals, that her life revolves around a man's wealth. No sane man wants that anymore.

James4bright:


Heavy pregnant women work out. I saw a video of a woman who was about to give birth that day, she tried as much as possible to do some little dance exercise that day. Her delivery was safe and perfect.

Those girls are just unproductive.

And it eases labour, there was a colleague of mine as well that actually gave birth within 10minutes because she does all these exercises.
Many women that are very active during pregnancy usually experience shorter labour

James4bright:


Truth be told, I'd never allow my wife to stress even at the slightest while pregnant.

But that doesn't mean, I'd date a parasitic woman without life goals, that her life revolves around a man's wealth. No sane man wants that anymore.

that was never the point .

Liliantalks:
so it’s not an achievement to feed myself when people can’t provide two square meals , talk about shelter and cloths. Lol other women seting their standards for men are most times achieving it , if the fact I said that’s the woman I want to be , hurt ur feelings. Then I Am sorry... call me whatever u please . I stand by my words

Safe to say men is your god. Without a man you are nothing but a piece of dust

Raydans:

Safe to say men is your god. Without a man you are nothing but a piece of dust

so dramatic

ModestGal:

Well, money is not constant, some people are poor that never planned to be poor. Some people could have injuries that could prevent them from so and so. I don't discriminate people due to money, but the first preference from a man is looks, others follow. Because the Children MATTER MOST. A rich man could decide not to give you money again, we've seen such stories, some good men change, some men pretend to be good and later turn stingy, different stories.
But for children, they would always be yours and would always love you and you won't ever be replaceable in their heart and if you are lucky to have a rich guy, then it would be an added advantage

thing is are you beautiful? you girl will want a drop dead gorgeous Man but your looks is always zero. plus the fact that some of u are dumb keep bringing unintelligent children into this world. Maybe u don't know a beautiful woman gives birth to a beautiful kid. if u are not good-looking yourselfm forget about having a fine man

Liliantalks:
that was never the point .

I want to be fucking rich with a woman with the same goals.

Nigerian women aren't that smart. You only see their intelligence when it comes to lying to a man just to collect enough stipends for their luxury spendings.

Date a Nigerian woman and watch yourself fall to the ground.

alert01:


thing is are you beautiful? you girl will want a drop dead gorgeous Man but your looks is always zero. plus the fact that some of u are dumb keep bringing unintelligent children into this world. Maybe u don't know a beautiful woman gives birth to a beautiful kid. if u are not good-looking yourselfm forget about having a fine man

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, black can be good to me, and yellow is beauty to you. My Point is marry who your heart attaches to, not money. Because you get to see them everyday, you get to live with them every, you see them in your children. Some people like big eyes, some likes small eyes, the features I like is different from what you like. Pretty to me might be ugly to you vice versa, putting your own pretty (features you like) or what your heart desire before money is crucial to a healthy relationship, but still, your own choice to do whatever you like. Peace

Liliantalks:
so dramatic

I don't have anything against you setting standard for the kind of man you want. Everybody does. But my advice for you is to be a deserving standard yourself and empower your self not to be a subject to a man. That way your man compliments you and there no limit to what both of you can achieve

MedicH:
Let me talk about financial standards. You all want a man that will be extravagant, throw parties, buy all the buyables and all that. A man that earns a lot of money and has a lot of money and also willing to spend a lot of money while u lots, well nothing really to write home about. Things is there are only 3 categories of men that can do that at boyfriend level.

Men with no sense of responsibility to self and to family.

Men with ill gotten wealth

Men with inherited wealth.

The standard of men Nigerian women want therefore becomes stupid men, thieves and scammers, and men from wealthy, not even rich homes. That's it.

Ask your self, how many of these men are in Nigeria? Wake the fvck up.

Godoverevery:

It very easy to know frustrated ladies.......am a man and I can tell you for a fact...if you are worth it a man will definitely spend on you.
You are looking for a guy who will spend is hard earn money on you while you stay at home browsing all day.....
This the reason why I stay away from ladies raised by single mother.... most are always kinda Bleep upstairs.... Get a job and buy the things you want and stop crying over someone else money...no man owe you any shit apart from your husband.

in between they are stingy to you because you have no value and you only have your pussy to offer....
#men say no leeches#

you don finish talk!

@lilliantalks
wot happened to ur dad?
Wot did ur mum say abt him?
Sorry if this question sounds offensive.
The truth is, nobody would want to settle down with an irresponsible man or woman.
Its a good thing to set standards bt make sure u ar up to ur standard too

maximusprime2000:
when will Nigerian ladies stop this emotional blackmails that we men are indebted to them from heaven. as if you are cripple, slowpoke or better still, bedridden. What brought this upon you all? is it society, economic sabotage,religion or culture. cos i am confused here. It wasn't like this in other places inside life. an innocent man/boyfriend should be paying mumu dowry for every taste of ur community borehole. see if ur supposed boyfriends gives u money, it act of benevolence cos hes not indebted to u and u all knows this, so why all this foolish entitlement every now and then. if you thinks ur pvssy is made of gold and priceless than a mans d**k. Then u should go and fvck urself. depression is badder than bad and common sense is gettin uncommon everyday. ...justs another bullshit post from a frustrated alot. spit..

Drfernandez:


You are always on every thread shouting money money money and saying that men without money are useless. Now I put it to you, if truly you and your father are not useless, post assets declaration forms of you and your father and post your bank here, I will send you $5,000 within 30 minutes if it is established that both of you have assets worth at least $200,000. Do it or shut up.

efosky1246:


Rich is relative. I don't use that term.

Are you telling me that as a man. You do not have an idea of the kind of life you want for yourself and your family? Ok, take the woman out of the picture(you obviously can't imagine an outsider chopping your money ), what kind of environment do you want your children to grow up in, what kind of school do you want for them?

I agree with you, not everyone will be financially successful. But If you believe that no matter how hard you try that you won't achieve it.

There is really nothing much that can be done.

Bro, I am not talking from a place of spite here. I don't get a Kobo coming on here.

I wasn't born into wealth. I have experienced what it means to not have, but looking back, I don't think I did nothing extremely extraordinary that you as another man cannot do.

The problem is that most men just live everyday as it comes. They have no plans and some that have do not have the discipline to follow up on those plans.

If you want a change, make it happen.

Look around you. Men build roads, buildings and in extension civilisation and that translates into the family as well,

A man creates his reality, then his woman and by extension his family lives in it.

So the question is what reality do you want?

Do you think the poor don't have dreams or vision to be rich, have you ever seen anybody that chooses to be poor?.. Because life has been fair to you doesn't mean it has been good to others. Even the beggars on the street have dream, the bankers that work 9-5 and paid peanuts have dreams, a civil servant have dreams. It's not always about hard work or hustle as you call it.
It takes grace, especially in a country where the minimum wage is below $100.

Lemme tell you, nature has a way of balancing everything, no be everybody go get money na reality.. One can even be rich today and lose everything tomorrow.. From your point now, if a man loses his source of livelihood his wife should abandon him right? Nothing is guaranteed in life, what happened with building together?
Nobody come life come work for anybody, we die different day, even our children life is different from ours..
I'M A REALIST

Raydans:

Safe to say men is your god. Without a man you are nothing but a piece of dust

jelraj:

Do you think the poor don't have dreams or vision to be rich, have you ever seen anybody that chooses to be poor?.. Because life has been fair to you doesn't mean it has been good to others. Even the beggars on the street have dream, the bankers that work 9-5 and paid peanuts have dreams, a civil servant have dreams. It's not always about hard work or hustle as you call it.
It takes grace, especially in a country where the minimum wage is below $100.

Lemme tell you, nature has a way of balancing everything, no be everybody go get money na reality.. One can even be rich today and lose everything tomorrow.. From your point now, if a man loses his source of livelihood his wife should abandon him right? Nothing is guaranteed in life, what happened with building together?
Nobody come life come work for anybody, we die different day, even our children life is different from ours..
I'M A REALIST

You're quite realistic but more of a pessimist than being optimistic.

And you'll still build with your woman even if you're fairly successful, with the right woman, your fortune will multiply bountifully but the basics required to survive should be set in place by you. Failure to do this would definitely create issues no matter how good the woman is.

You are the head for a reason. Not by virtue of your dick but by the responsibilities placed on you.

However, To each his own. Whatever rocks your boat, flow with it.

Proper title: Don't ever let your children lack a father figure.
Why? The dist crap written by OP is what happens to them too.

efosky1246:


You're quite realistic but more of a pessimist than being optimistic.

And you'll still build with your woman even if you're fairly successful, with the right woman, your fortune will multiply bountifully but the basics required to survive should be set in place by you. Failure to do this would definitely create issues no matter how good the woman is.

You are the head for a reason. Not by virtue of your dick but by the responsibilities placed on you.

However, To each his own. Whatever rocks your boat, flow with it.

I'm realistic because I believe in happiness regardless of whatever situation life places one self. If you encourage all women not to marry struggling dudes, many will remain single and die old.. Biological clock is not friendly and I know most of them don't wish to be baby mama's.. Not every guy is gonna make it, except we wish to lie to ourselves. Everyone deserve to be happy. I don't even believe in bringing children to this world to suffer, if the couples can only manage with one let them go ahead. Happiness is the priority.

It's sad many women will end up unhappy for the rest of their life, many don't marry men they are attracted to they just want financial security such as the OP.. After having children, they feel empty at the end. I've seen such things happen.
People like OP don't end up marrying who they want but who is available.. They sacrifice their happiness

Na for chineke

James4bright:


I want to be fucking rich with a woman with the same goals.

Nigerian women aren't that smart. You only see their intelligence when it comes to lying to a man just to collect enough stipends for their luxury spendings.

Date a Nigerian woman and watch yourself fall to the ground.

u are very funny for that statement, like u are more sensible than many Nigerian women out there , or more sensible than men who marry Nigerian women , if u want to marry a foreign woman please do , but that Nigerian women are not smart because u don’t hv money to give them or whatever ur thought might be , throw that to the bin .

InfinityFabric:
Proper title: Don't ever let your children lack a father figure.
Why? The dist crap written by OP is what happens to them too.

ehen?? What does a father figure got to do with anything, and who told you I don’t hv a father figure ? People without fathers r doing okay and many are doing way better than me , so what’s ur point ?? Nairaland and senseless men , na 5&6

jelraj:

I'm realistic because I believe in happiness regardless of whatever situation life places one self. If you encourage all women not to marry struggling dudes, many will remain single and die old.. Biological clock is not friendly and I know most of them don't wish to be baby mama's.. Not every guy is gonna make it, except we wish to lie to ourselves. Everyone deserve to be happy. I don't even believe in bringing children to this world to suffer, if the couples can only manage with one let them go ahead. Happiness is the priority.

It's sad many women will end up unhappy for the rest of their life, many don't marry men they are attracted to they just want financial security such as the OP.. After having children, they feel empty at the end. I've seen such things happen.
People like OP don't end up marrying who they want but who is available.. They sacrifice their happiness

like marrying a struggling guy is a ticket to happiness, ain’t they even worse . I hv dated a struggling guy and it was still not worth it . Since I set my standards against meeting struggling men , and fixing myself in the right places , I met better people.

Just know that most men are not like women, who wont touch it if they dont want it.

So if u set the standard way higher than what even you represent, and u keep giving green light to men way ahead of u in everything, this men wont say No, they will basically just use and dump U

It will take a couple of cycles before u realize that you are being very realistic.

You want him very fine and attractive, are you very fine and attractive too?
You want him very wealthy, where is your own wealth?
You want him hardworking and resourceful, are you equally this?

Many women are damaged goods right now because they stretched their hands way too high during their young years. They could have gotten a committed meaningful suitor if they stayed within range of their own capacity too

Rgade:
You make it sound like an achievement. Buying things for yourself.

Ooh you're minding that half-witted girl. The level of entitlement you see put on display by all the leaches is just mind boggling. I avoid them like plagues tho

tunjilana:
Just know that most men are not like women, who wont touch it if they dont want it.

So if u set the standard way higher than what even you represent, and u keep giving green light to men way ahead of u in everything, this men wont say No, they will basically just use and dump U

It will take a couple of cycles before u realize that you are being very realistic.

You want him very fine and attractive, are you very fine and attractive too?
You want him very wealthy, where is your own wealth?
You want him hardworking and resourceful, are you equally this?

Many women are damaged goods right now because they stretched their hands way too high during their young years. They could have gotten a committed meaningful suitor if they stayed within range of their own capacity too

truth is I hv been dating guys bellow my standard, because I hv this believe I should be humble, and no discriminate , as far u like him ,,, but I hv realized they ain’t even better ... so yes I am beautiful, financial okay , hardworking and resourceful, well educated also . I want men doing better than me. Not men in my level even .

Liliantalks:
yes it is ,, cause many girl don’t do as much as I do for myself . 90% of girl have a man taking care of their bills

Good, so instead of talking about your standards in men, why not set your standards in the female friends you keep seeing how unproductive 90% of women are.

Reading through this thread I realised that there is too much poverty in Nigeria and many of these nairaland boys are just poor and struggling that's why they get touchy and agitated anytime girls say they cannot be with broke guys.
Deep down in your hearts you men know that Nigerian traditional marriage roles and even religious laws mandated husbands to be providers for both their wives and children but because you are poor or too lazy to work, you want to make it seem like a woman should be the one feeding you.

Me myself I am realistic oo, I know the country I live in and the mentality of the people in it.
I know that Nigerian men are very egotistic and they do not see women as equal to them
And they expect submission and obedience from their wives.

You men cannot expect the same women that you lead and give orders to on a regular basis to also be the ones providing for you or feeding you and then still be the ones primarily responsible for taking care of cooking, children, cleaning etc.

If your sisters or daughters bring such a man to you and asks if she can marry him you will never agree because you know how unfair the entire situation will be to her.

Personally I wish Nigerian marriages had more of companionship and equality with both partners contributing to home life and breadwinning but in reality that is not the case because men in Nigeria are raised to believe that women should submit and obey them and are inferior to them.

freethinker01:

Ooh you're minding that half-witted girl. The level of entitlement you see put on display by all the leaches is just mind boggling. I avoid them like plagues tho

Like the entitlement ehh.
You will hear a girl say, "I don't even ask you for money". Like you should clap for her.
I've never seen such entitlement to someone else's money.

Liliantalks:
like marrying a struggling guy is a ticket to happiness, ain’t they even worse . I hv dated a struggling guy and it was still not worth it . Since I set my standards against meeting struggling men , and fixing myself in the right places , I met better people.

Whatever works for you sis..
no preference for life.. I pray you meet your standard b4 your clock starts thinking. Lemme guess you are still young and have age on your side..

Let's see what you will say when you clock 35 still searching for the standard you set for yourself.. Of course marriage is not for everybody and you can always be happy without it.
Life no go shame us

Liliantalks:
... and who told you I don’t hv a father figure ?

I'm 101% sure u don't.

People without fathers r doing okay and many are doing way better than me

There's a difference between father and father figure. There's a reason I mentioned the last part, and there's a reason u goofed.

People without fathers r doing okay and many are doing way better than me

U don goofed m8.

, so what’s ur point ?? Nairaland and senseless men , na 5&6

Bitterness towards men, sounds familiar!

https://video.twimg.com/ext_tw_video/1278043385685737481/pu/vid/320x568/70kidyTemXvRODml.mp4?tag=10

Rgade:

Like the entitlement ehh.
You will hear a girl say, "I don't even ask you for money". Like you should clap for her.
I've never seen such entitlement to someone else's money.

As in, it's so pathetic and annoying. I blame bad parenting tho.