NewStats: 3,261,619 , 8,174,532 topics. Date: Thursday, 29 May 2025 at 07:33 PM 4j255p

Bilabong:
If we can't marry them, there should marry us na...

Groom prize is allowed.

emmaodet:


Definitely No. I believe in "All hands on deck" policy.
Rub my back, i rub your back type of relationship.
I don't encourage laziness or idleness from any gender.

But you see, the problem is the men are drawing things back. Although most women have taken the bulls by the horn and paid their own bride price. Tonto Dike did it.

eni4real:
You are mixing it up..

Girls will always marry earlier than guys.
Just because you are not ready does not mean someone else is not ready!!

Girls usually don't have to be financially capable for marriage before they get wedded.

It is one of the gift of nature to them!!

You will continue to hustle until you feel ready for marriage responsibilities!!! But girls will get someone who is ready to take up as many financial responsibility to make a stable family!!

(Woe unto that woman that disrespect such a husband tho )

Money is deciding factor here ... If, as a guy, you are rich at 22, you may settle down sef

This is why there is so much poverty and too many under nourished suffering children in the land.

A woman who doesn't have any skill or income is neither ready nor suitable for marriage. And if they marry, over time they get abused or ultimately divorced! You can see it abound in society.

25tolife:
Why did people alway troll you, u must be popular here and alway looking for trouble. Lol

Popular that i dnt know bt i know I'm kinda controversial

Where is it written that women shouldn't make money..

I pray for all men seeking for a comfortable life, that God will bless them richly. whatever be their wish and desires, may God Almighty grant it according to His holy will, Amen!

Ndubuisipaul1:
At the age of 25 I was mocking a man that got married at the age of 33 I told him that he married too late. Now am 32 I don't even know when I will get married because of lack of money.

Many of our Nigerian girls are not married because ,we guys don't make money on time to marry them. Am 32 no girlfriend ( because I cannot sustain them ) and no plans of marriage , and you are blaming the ladies . Will tree marry them?

Meanwhile I am a professional photographer, and videographer.

Your case is even better, my younger brother is 37 yet nothing to tangible doing for him to get married.

UndauntedYOCA:

Lol, no one bro. I just believe in fairness. While this cannot be imposed on anyone, this is my own perspective on how relationship/marriage should be like. I also have brothers and I know what it feels like to be drained by people who are solely dependent on you. If I be man, I no go wan marry woman wey no fit help me at all. I no go like liability at all biko.

You are right sis.
That is what i do tell most ladies on NL that the load on men is too much but they always try to shy away from responsibilities.
They want a workhorse, a donkey that needs to work to please a woman until he drops dead and they move to the next workhorse.
There was a thread created few days ago about a federal worker earning above 100k and his jobless wife complaining about living a struggling life and need to scale up.
Most ladies on that thread accused the man and told him to double his hustle. Haba, you wan kill man
Most ladies nowadays are Wicked and Unremorseful cheats on top sef

Nooil:


But you see, the problem is the men are drawing things back. Although most women have taken the bulls by the horn and paid their own bride price. Tonto Dike did it.

Hmmmmmmm
It's well

op finally spoke the truth, and the ones always using women to cover up their inadequacies are bashing him. for this, the op is gonna find a good wife soon.

That's how its done
The problem with you people is you have this narrow view of life. You have manged to make money your God. Its only with money you are allowed to do certain things or enjoy the basics. Only people with money should be treated with dignity thats why the country is a shithole.
In oyinbo land and even among Lebanese in Niggeria, I have seen instances where young couples live with either the parents of the bride or groom while they save up tp rent or buy a house. That way the couple share the experience of building a home togethe. But not in that shithole. Only people with money should marry. Marriahe na poverty alleviation program[/quote]

Audiodonation:
I am married at the age of 29 as a Banker.

Nothing in my .
Debt everywhere
No rented house
Was squatting with my friend
Yet my wife said she would marry me, as her name Grace will speak for me. (Na only once my woman don straf in her entire life).

One week into our agreement and commitment of been together forever....... I got a deal of 178,000 been my commission for a purchase of a car.... Na so I rent and moved into my own rented apartment. (I didn't mention that d guy who accommodated me gave me 3 days to leave with my wife), and my miracle happened with a space of a day and d second day I moved out.......

I am happily married, own 3 cars now, a 4bedroom bungalow in Lagos(Dopemu), a father of one and now an SBO in an old generation bank. .
(Started)Nov 2016 - April 2019(Achieved all).








All these stories are not to show off, but to let you know you can start from scratch; from somewhere......... Once you marry/see your own woman (Wife) you will know.......... No pastor, prophet or prayer needed.......



Just start from somewhere....

Lovely story. You found your Grace, very few women out there are willing to take a leap of faith.

When I was in d poly fellow female students like me used to look down on we guys because of d discrimination in Bsc - HND, today I have a Bsc and most of them are still stuck with HND.

Many women can't see beyond their noses, to them it's either today or nothing.

Ndubuisipaul1:
At the age of 25 I was mocking a man that got married at the age of 33 I told him that he married too late. Now am 32 I don't even know when I will get married because of lack of money.

Many of our Nigerian girls are not married because ,we guys don't make money on time to marry them. Am 32 no girlfriend ( because I cannot sustain them ) and no plans of marriage , and you are blaming the ladies . Will tree marry them?

Meanwhile I am a professional photographer, and videographer.

Your opinion or just a flashed thought....but not a FACT!

AlhajaChinyere:


Idiot, don't mess up the thread with your half baked political and economic knowledge. Aniofia!

Only idiots know who idiots are.
I’m sure you agree with this basic truth.

Lol
My dear the best time to marry is when you are financially stable. Nor go do urself!
If I get a Chance, I will create a thread to notify young struggling men about the dangers of not just getting married, but borrowing money to wed using my elder brother as a case study. Marriage favours ladies more than guys, it's a fact. But then again its not easy to give birth, which is also d sole responsibility of the woman alone.[color=#000000][/color]

You are right, but this is just one of the reasons... There are so many others bruh!

Petyprincess:

Popular that i dnt know bt i know I'm kinda controversial

well me ,i chop ban steady, i like attacking people.

ogechchukwu:
Please don't blame guys for women problem..
Is theirs .

Most of the women are looking for already made men ,,rich... to merry ...looking for cooked food not uncooked.


And with the Late of poverty in our country now ..

Is only few made ones are available..

Moreover..marriage is not meant for everyone...


Alot will remain unmarried..

Hence looking for rich


Dont want look for what to do on thrre own ..
Nigeria women are lazy idiots..

No mind dis nairalander dey wount see dis comment to like,what about the guyz who has the money even ready to settle down but the ladies is only after the money,abeg na 50/50

MOnkeyBabe:
then make the move to get married ontime so you don't have to shoulder the responsibilities of GiRlfriends. I won't say don't do nothing for her. But let it be ReaSOnaBle within limits. Ask how long they speculate getting to know you. Anyone that talks about spending over 3 years especially when you meet them on a freQuent BaSis,. FoRGet it. She's not there for marriage but something else like the bag I.e. money.
Same way if I meet a man and if he's talking about getting to know me for years, that serves as a REd flag that he isn't ready for maRRiaGe but just wants SeX.
For me, if I see someone for a few hours almost everyday for at least 6 months and I really like them, I won't hesitate in getting married. Once they are comfortable, smaRt and with future prospects , it's fine. I don't need a DanGOte.
I think Guys are to Blame too. They don't wife up on time. They'll be waiting for GiRls to BeG TO PUt a RinG on it. When the GiRl isn't even CRaZy about finances. Their esteem or ego won't let them.

I think one of my major issue in a relationship is that am good at snubbing both over important issues, I can one of my ex's once told me that she can't continue with me because I don't even show any atom of jealousy it makes her feel not wanted even though am very caring and lovely.

TSBO:



Mehn.... Too much sense in one post..

Well done.

Lol, thank you so much!

emmaodet:


You are right sis.
That is what i do tell most ladies on NL that the load on men is too much but they always try to shy away from responsibilities.
They want a workhorse, a donkey that needs to work to please a woman until he drops dead and they move to the next workhorse.
There was a thread created few days ago about a federal worker earning above 100k and his jobless wife complaining about living a struggling life and need to scale up.
Most ladies on that thread accused the man and told him to double his hustle. Haba, you wan kill man
Most ladies nowadays are Wicked and Unremorseful cheats on top sef

Well, I didn't see the thread but do know that we all are different hence, we reason differently. Some ladies might see my comment and still tag it as eye service, lol. While a lot of ladies have this annoying entitlement mentality, there are many out there who earn their own money and are ive, however, some of those ladies aren't even as valued as they ought to. They are not respected.

Nooil:


But you see, the problem is the men are drawing things back. Although most women have taken the bulls by the horn and paid their own bride price. Tonto Dike did it.

tonto neva paid her bride price. Stop spreading fake news

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UndauntedYOCA:

Well, I didn't see the thread but do know that we all are different hence, we reason differently. Some ladies might see my comment and still tag it as eye service, lol. While a lot of ladies have this annoying entitlement mentality, there are many out there who earn their own money and are ive, however, some of those ladies aren't even as valued as they ought to. They are not respected.

You are right again.
The one with cap has no head to use it while the one with head has no cap to wear.
What a life

Ndubuisipaul1:
At the age of 25 I was mocking a man that got married at the age of 33 I told him that he married too late. Now am 32 I don't even know when I will get married because of lack of money.

Many of our Nigerian girls are not married because ,we guys don't make money on time to marry them. Am 32 no girlfriend ( because I cannot sustain them ) and no plans of marriage , and you are blaming the ladies . Will tree marry them?

Meanwhile I am a professional photographer, and videographer.

Marriage is a capital project. Ladies understand

madridsta007:


Only idiots know who idiots are.
I’m sure you agree with this basic truth.

Anuofia, get lost!

better to die for something than live for nothing.
every relationship need money to survive no be say the lady must get money ' u .

guy make u hustle legit.no free puna for jungle.

Ndubuisipaul1:
At the age of 25 I was mocking a man that got married at the age of 33 I told him that he married too late. Now am 32 I don't even know when I will get married because of lack of money.

Many of our Nigerian girls are not married because ,we guys don't make money on time to marry them. Am 32 no girlfriend ( because I cannot sustain them ) and no plans of marriage , and you are blaming the ladies . Will tree marry them?

Meanwhile I am a professional photographer, and videographer.

if you found the person. go marry her. if you are waiting till you are rich or have money, you may never marry. the right wife will bring blessings your way.

nkwuocha1:
True words!

I think and forsee many men getting married this year.This pendamic will push a lot of marriageable adults to quickly get married and begin to have children,evil if it's just one child.Too many death among youth this days especially 29-42 years.

Na Bleep up for guyman or guywoman to just die like that,no marry no pikin.So Wetin you come world come do?

Marry and leave something behind,no one knows tomorrow.

And leave something behind not minding if it will be abused.


Typical African man reasonin

Liposure:
tonto neva paid her bride price. Stop spreading fake news

Oh really? So she was lying?

AlhajaChinyere:


This is why there is so much poverty and too many under nourished suffering children in the land.

A woman who doesn't have any skill or income is neither ready nor suitable for marriage. And if they marry, over time they get abused or ultimately divorced! You can see it abound in society.

Such girls may have skills but don't have the money yet!!

Guys, on the other hand, dare not enter Marriage with mere skills! Money must be available in the ; not just potentially!

That is the reality in the country!!

You will see ladies married before final year in school or already married before NYSC or pregnant sef !!!

Guys can't really do that.. Only few percentage Will survive on that!!!