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After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by Nobody: 1:03pm On Oct 10, 2019
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage.

When a couple gets married, they are almost always faced with the inevitable pester from friends and family:

So when are you having kids? The older you are, the more pressing the question seems to be. Ticktock, ticktock.

So, what do you guys think?

For those that followed due process...

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greatmarshall(m): 1:06pm On Oct 10, 2019
Hmm... It depends on how long you choose to wait

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donbachi(m): 1:21pm On Oct 10, 2019
for those wey follow due process...na wen d belle enter....cos marriage for no happen if not for "I don get belle" for some people.

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jenifer007: 1:28pm On Oct 10, 2019
My brother taking in should not be delayed all because you want to enjoy yourselves as couple..The joy of marriage especially in Africa is having children.It is better you start trying immediately after marriage because you will be surprised by the time you are ready,conception might also tell you they are not ready too.

Body differs

Delay is dangerous

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sisisioge: 1:36pm On Oct 10, 2019
grin grin grin grin

You're right...the older, the more pressing. I will be doing mine 2 minutes after getting married if God humors me fa. Twins...one boy one girl...EOD. They should be bright, happy and beautiful o.

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donstan18: 1:48pm On Oct 10, 2019
I don't know for women, but I strongly believe that children are one of the major reasons why most men settle down.

Reason the day a man becomes a father is more memorable than his wedding day.

So I think it's proper not to wait for anything before making babies, especially these days where 70% of slay queens are womb-less. Start immediately to help you know if you married a fertile woman or not.


In fact, any lady that fails to take in at most, 2 months after wedding should be questioned or sent packing.

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mzhorlah(f): 2:05pm On Oct 10, 2019
It depends on the individuals involved. As for me, I will enjoy my husband well before inviting any third party(babies)

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Godtschild: 2:40pm On Oct 10, 2019
jenifer007:
My brother taking in should not be delayed all because you want to enjoy yourselves as couple..The joy of marriage especially in Africa is having children.It is better you start trying immediately after marriage because you will be surprised by the time you are ready,conception might also tell you they are not ready too.

Body differs

Delay is dangerous

How is the bolded possible?

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Godtschild: 2:45pm On Oct 10, 2019
Thank you. We decided to wait for a year and we went off birth control on our first year anniversary. The kids came in quick succession lol now our lives are not the same again. We always reminiscence our first year.
mzhorlah:
It depends on the individuals involved. As for me, I will enjoy my husband well before inviting any third party(babies)

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Richdad50(m): 3:01pm On Oct 10, 2019
shocked

Advantage
It is always good to stay for a year with your bride before getting her pregnant. This gives you the opportunity to properly enjoy each other sexually and interactively. You will have enough time to extend the fun of courtship into marriage before the stress and distraction that comes with children.

Disadvantage
The contraceptives taken to avoid pregnancy takes a while to wear off. This can invariably cause you stress when you are ready to take in. So be prepared.

Richdad

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CrazyMan(m): 3:02pm On Oct 10, 2019
You must do everything you can to start having kids immediately you get married and must not delay it at all as the chances of pregnancy drop significantly for the woman as their age begin to increase.

However, make sure that you and your partner are physically fit and fine to be parents.

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philip0906(m): 3:02pm On Oct 10, 2019
1. Your bank
2. Agreement between you and your wife
3. Please don't bring any child into this world when you don't have enough to cater for him/her
4. As I dey hustle wey to marry no even dey agenda, if you bring pikin enter this world wey you no fit train am, he turn nuissance come climb my fence say he wan thief, i go shoot am down

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Lordjb: 3:02pm On Oct 10, 2019
Okay
phranklyn92(m): 3:02pm On Oct 10, 2019
1 month
hezy4real01(m): 3:02pm On Oct 10, 2019
Fire down immediately and pray God bless u

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anochuko01(m): 3:02pm On Oct 10, 2019
PERSONALLY, marriage is mostly an avenue to enjoy unrestricted and safe sex, necessarily for producing babies. So depending on how early i marry, i'll try to get used to first having a wife, before dealing with wife and kids.
At least one year.

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RealLordZeus(m): 3:02pm On Oct 10, 2019
As long as God decided they will wait! A lot of people go into depression because of their inability to birth a child 2-5 years after marriage! It's not a good thing to be childless, but I think it's normal if you don't have.
After following normal medical procdure and everything looks fine but the child is not coming, thenits best to leave it to God's hand and move on with other thing in life.
If my wife decided to leave because of childlessness, then Au revoir, but I can't divorce a woman nor take a second wife coz of such.

I don't pray for such situation but if I find myself in it, I will humbly wait.

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SoftP(m): 3:02pm On Oct 10, 2019
Too many funny and drunken questions here on nairaland.

I'm sure very soon, some body will ask; How can i s*x my wife

&offcourse, we have too many MOD's who takes delight in pushing trashy to FP

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Homeboiy: 3:03pm On Oct 10, 2019
She go even get belle before I pay her bride price

If not

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jaxxy(m): 3:03pm On Oct 10, 2019
Whatever time is comfortable with u and ur plans for ur family. The right Thing is planning for ur babies not having them by intentional accidents.

A year or 2 after marriage is ok to start.

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bivanJohnaliuz(m): 3:03pm On Oct 10, 2019
How lonq Sarah waited in the bible for her kid?? ....... As for me, immediately after the weddinq, Gbam! Kpanshinq don start.

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NONNYG: 3:03pm On Oct 10, 2019
You're here asking how long? When some marriage dey start with "I'M PREGNANT"grin

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CallMeDrino: 3:04pm On Oct 10, 2019
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TONYE001(m): 3:04pm On Oct 10, 2019
It depends on a lot of factors - finance, time, among others.

Some may start off immediately. My wife and I started off pretty early. We are five years now and our first son is four. I have a colleague who would rather wait for some two years due to some personal reasons.

So, I don't think there's a standard time. It depends on the factors you are exposed to. But, if you have all the necessary resources, starting early should be considered. Unless you and your spouse elect to delay.

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Oyikoha(m): 3:04pm On Oct 10, 2019
No need to wait
But in planning the childbirth you give 3yrs difference

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Angelfrost(m): 3:04pm On Oct 10, 2019
In a sane society, that's the couple's sole prerogative... No one bothers to ask such questions, except very close family and confidants.

A couple should have decided these things prior to engagement.

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Amarabae(f): 3:04pm On Oct 10, 2019
When they are mentally, physically, and financially ready.

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