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First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage.

When a couple gets married, they are almost always faced with the inevitable pester from friends and family:

So when are you having kids? The older you are, the more pressing the question seems to be. Ticktock, ticktock.

So, what do you guys think?

For those that followed due process...

Hmm... It depends on how long you choose to wait

for those wey follow due process...na wen d belle enter....cos marriage for no happen if not for "I don get belle" for some people.

My brother taking in should not be delayed all because you want to enjoy yourselves as couple..The joy of marriage especially in Africa is having children.It is better you start trying immediately after marriage because you will be surprised by the time you are ready,conception might also tell you they are not ready too.

Body differs

Delay is dangerous

You're right...the older, the more pressing. I will be doing mine 2 minutes after getting married if God humors me fa. Twins...one boy one girl...EOD. They should be bright, happy and beautiful o.

I don't know for women, but I strongly believe that children are one of the major reasons why most men settle down.

Reason the day a man becomes a father is more memorable than his wedding day.

So I think it's proper not to wait for anything before making babies, especially these days where 70% of slay queens are womb-less. Start immediately to help you know if you married a fertile woman or not.


In fact, any lady that fails to take in at most, 2 months after wedding should be questioned or sent packing.

It depends on the individuals involved. As for me, I will enjoy my husband well before inviting any third party(babies)

jenifer007:
My brother taking in should not be delayed all because you want to enjoy yourselves as couple..The joy of marriage especially in Africa is having children.It is better you start trying immediately after marriage because you will be surprised by the time you are ready,conception might also tell you they are not ready too.

Body differs

Delay is dangerous

How is the bolded possible?

Thank you. We decided to wait for a year and we went off birth control on our first year anniversary. The kids came in quick succession lol now our lives are not the same again. We always reminiscence our first year.

mzhorlah:
It depends on the individuals involved. As for me, I will enjoy my husband well before inviting any third party(babies)

Advantage
It is always good to stay for a year with your bride before getting her pregnant. This gives you the opportunity to properly enjoy each other sexually and interactively. You will have enough time to extend the fun of courtship into marriage before the stress and distraction that comes with children.

Disadvantage
The contraceptives taken to avoid pregnancy takes a while to wear off. This can invariably cause you stress when you are ready to take in. So be prepared.

Richdad

You must do everything you can to start having kids immediately you get married and must not delay it at all as the chances of pregnancy drop significantly for the woman as their age begin to increase.

However, make sure that you and your partner are physically fit and fine to be parents.

1. Your bank
2. Agreement between you and your wife
3. Please don't bring any child into this world when you don't have enough to cater for him/her
4. As I dey hustle wey to marry no even dey agenda, if you bring pikin enter this world wey you no fit train am, he turn nuissance come climb my fence say he wan thief, i go shoot am down

Okay

1 month

Fire down immediately and pray God bless u

PERSONALLY, marriage is mostly an avenue to enjoy unrestricted and safe sex, necessarily for producing babies. So depending on how early i marry, i'll try to get used to first having a wife, before dealing with wife and kids.
At least one year.

As long as God decided they will wait! A lot of people go into depression because of their inability to birth a child 2-5 years after marriage! It's not a good thing to be childless, but I think it's normal if you don't have.
After following normal medical procdure and everything looks fine but the child is not coming, thenits best to leave it to God's hand and move on with other thing in life.
If my wife decided to leave because of childlessness, then Au revoir, but I can't divorce a woman nor take a second wife coz of such.

I don't pray for such situation but if I find myself in it, I will humbly wait.

Too many funny and drunken questions here on nairaland.

I'm sure very soon, some body will ask; How can i s*x my wife

&offcourse, we have too many MOD's who takes delight in pushing trashy to FP

She go even get belle before I pay her bride price

If not

Whatever time is comfortable with u and ur plans for ur family. The right Thing is planning for ur babies not having them by intentional accidents.

A year or 2 after marriage is ok to start.

How lonq Sarah waited in the bible for her kid?? ....... As for me, immediately after the weddinq, Gbam! Kpanshinq don start.

You're here asking how long? When some marriage dey start with "I'M PREGNANT"

It depends on a lot of factors - finance, time, among others.

Some may start off immediately. My wife and I started off pretty early. We are five years now and our first son is four. I have a colleague who would rather wait for some two years due to some personal reasons.

So, I don't think there's a standard time. It depends on the factors you are exposed to. But, if you have all the necessary resources, starting early should be considered. Unless you and your spouse elect to delay.

No need to wait
But in planning the childbirth you give 3yrs difference

In a sane society, that's the couple's sole prerogative... No one bothers to ask such questions, except very close family and confidants.

A couple should have decided these things prior to engagement.

When they are mentally, physically, and financially ready.