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Although you made a mistake by not ascertaining your genotype after you got to know hers. She will think that now that you have a good job you want to dump her. Despite this risk, I'll advise you to not proceed with the union.

Now that you stand advised, do the needful. Invite her and show her your laboratory test result from the preemployment screening. Ask what she thinks about it. If she fails to spot it, tell her the test confirmed you as being of AS genotype. Watch her reaction. Don't tell her you have made a decision yet. Move on to discussing other inconsequential stuff.

Next, you discuss it with someone both of you revere.


Finally, you break it to her with some emotional intelligence.

Good luck!

maasoap:


And it is equally giving some men sleepless nights. Two of my guys are due for marriages but the supposed good girls always turned out to be AS just like my guys. It is a serious matter

It's better to cry now and smile later, than smile now and cry a river later.

You no well bro.. AS and AS is a suicide mission for your unborn kids

I had the same experience like you but now am happly married with a different woman with 3 boys & 2girls. The advice I recieved that helped me in making sound decision I want to share with you.
1. I was told by one advicer that whatever love I have with this AS woman will disappear as soon as one SS child is born. I was also told that the pain of disconnetion is short lived but the joy is long lasting.
2. My medical doctor said to me on this issue that your SS child will hate you both parents for not considering his/her feeling before getting married.
3. The financial cost in taking care of SS child, emotional pains of seeing your child suffering in life and guilt conscience that you both would have solved this problem had you parted ways would torment you through your married life.
4. My doctor earlier, shared a experience with me of 2 married AS medical doctors with all their children SS. It was love at first but now it's pain. That sometime all the children will go into crisis at the same time. That the doctors were tired.

So, I made my decision in 2005 with the help of Jehovah my God and I am happier.
Please, make sound decision for your tomorrow.

you don't need to shatter her heart by telling her she will think that u knew and has been playing her. just take her to hospital and do the genotype test together let the doctor do the remaining talk.

Ereolamide:
Bro you don't have to get worried at all. Follow these instructions carefully:

1. Keep your genotype a secret, don't tell her. If she insists, get the test done, alter the S in your result to A with a black Biro( black ink must be used in cases such as these).

2. Proceed with your wedding plans, get married to her since you love her so much. Women are very gullible she won't suspect a thing she is in love with you already.

3. You don't have to bother about your kids genotype, the lucky ones will turn out fine while the not-so-lucky ones will bear the SS genotype, you can also alter their genotype with a Biro and profess positive affirmations into their lives.

Note: You have to be 'churchious' to get your desired result.

4. With this, everything will be alright, and if things turn out otherwise, be rest assured that you'll be fine since you and your wife won't be the ones to endure the pains and crisis that come with sickle cell anaemia, the children will bear their cross bravely from hospital beds to hospital beds

I believe my advice is matured enough, I even checked my spellings, grammar and punctuations for extra marks.

Thanks and God bless.

Ereolamide:
Bro you don't have to get worried at all. Follow these instructions carefully:

1. Keep your genotype a secret, don't tell her. If she insists, get the test done, alter the S in your result to A with a black Biro( black ink must be used in cases such as these).

2. Proceed with your wedding plans, get married to her since you love her so much. Women are very gullible she won't suspect a thing she is in love with you already.

3. You don't have to bother about your kids genotype, the lucky ones will turn out fine while the not-so-lucky ones will bear the SS genotype, you can also alter their genotype with a Biro and profess positive affirmations into their lives.

Note: You have to be 'churchious' to get your desired result.

4. With this, everything will be alright, and if things turn out otherwise, be rest assured that you'll be fine since you and your wife won't be the ones to endure the pains and crisis that come with sickle cell anaemia, the children will bear their cross bravely from hospital beds to hospital beds

I believe my advice is matured enough, I even checked my spellings, grammar and punctuations for extra marks.

Thanks and God bless.

. So wicked

BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,

As I type this message, my heart is heavy.

Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.

I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very ive to say a few.

Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.

With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?

And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.

I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!

Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.

Now, my questions are:

1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?

2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?

3.) Please, what do I do?

Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.

Matured and very serious advice needed.

Thanks.

I started falling in love with my wife after confirming that she is AA while am AS.


Having SS kids is not what anyone should pray for. The bravest will shake and love will fade.

My mom and dad are both AS an they had 7 children who all turned to be AS or AA no SS

etrange:
Sorry, bro.

I think your question should be "how best do I part ways with my girlfriend whose genotype does not match with mine?"

lmao bad chaid!

chinli:
My mom and dad are both AS an they had 7 children who all turned to be AS or AA no SS

lie

BroAchival:


Ok, So how best do I part with her, then?

Any suggestion from you?

with that result that more than a concrete reason to part with her

Don't marry each other

This question is a vital question to ask on the first date, if you guys aren't compatible then they'll be no need for a second date, that way nobody gets hurt but now there's even a title attached 'fiance', please don't marry, find your match, to avoid 'had i known' yarns.

Advice yourself�

In this day and age, I wonder why two educated adults who probably own smartphones can't be smart. Genotype and blood group should be first things to be discussed that will determine if to proceed from friendship or not. No, they won't, they will come bug us with advice.

Genotype issues and awareness is all over the internet, where una dey since?

Isn't it better both of you are happy in separate homes than be in sorrow as couples?

You can actually go ahead with your plans. We have amniocentesis and chorionic villus sampling. These are ways of checking the genotype of a foetus and it is normally done at early stage of pregnancy. There's a diagnostic center in Benin and several others in Lagos that do the test. It costs between 200k to 300k. The world is actually moving. Thanks to science.

Or you'll both visit a fertility clinic. They'll do a process by which the unborn baby's genotype is detected at 3 months old. After which, if a carrier....... Terminate........ But if found ok, na to born pikin be that. Do your research and good luck

iRyan:
Visit your doctor and discuss it with him when you are ready to have kids, he will guide you on the options. It might be financially draining especially if you don't have insurance.
My sister and her partner are both AS. They have two kids and both are AA.

It won't be easy but let her go. My neighbour is a victim during dis last holiday d girl was in d hospital she collected blood and she was placed on oxygen and she's deir only daughter

Just run.

Let her go bro, I did same 5 years ago and today am happily in another relationship, no woman has the monopoly of beauty and virtue..there are other amazing women out there, someone you’ll still find one. Thank me later

Break up.... Before you'll start burying own kids instead of the opposite

BroAchival:


Ok, So how best do I part with her, then?

Any suggestion from you?

Thank God you known earlier, just take her to the lab, do the test together, look at the results together, then ask her to choose between marrying you and having sorrow of ss children for life or drop you and marry an AA and been happy. God has spoken through the test, don't tempt God so the decision is in your hand,good luck

Ashraf123:
You can actually go ahead with your plans. We have amniocentesis and chorionic villus sampling. These are ways of checking the genotype of a foetus and it is normally done at early stage of pregnancy. There's a diagnostic center in Benin and several others in Lagos that do the test. It costs between 200k to 300k. The world is actually moving. Thanks to science.

Na only you dai current.
The rest of the idiots above are just talking their own.

salt1:


So these labs run CVS test

yes

Ereolamide:
Bro you don't have to get worried at all. Follow these instructions carefully:

1. Keep your genotype a secret, don't tell her. If she insists, get the test done, alter the S in your result to A with a black Biro( black ink must be used in cases such as these).

2. Proceed with your wedding plans, get married to her since you love her so much. Women are very gullible she won't suspect a thing she is in love with you already.

3. You don't have to bother about your kids genotype, the lucky ones will turn out fine while the not-so-lucky ones will bear the SS genotype, you can also alter their genotype with a Biro and profess positive affirmations into their lives.

Note: You have to be 'churchious' to get your desired result.

4. With this, everything will be alright, and if things turn out otherwise, be rest assured that you'll be fine since you and your wife won't be the ones to endure the pains and crisis that come with sickle cell anaemia, the children will bear their cross bravely from hospital beds to hospital beds

I believe my advice is matured enough, I even checked my spellings, grammar and punctuations for extra marks.

Thanks and God bless.

Sarcasm

etrange:
Sorry, bro.

I think your question should be "how best do I part ways with my girlfriend whose genotype does not match with mine?"

I am the 500th person to like your post.

I read through some comments B4 dropping mine, I've thought about dis B4, and my advice is different and very difficult.

You sit down with her, tell her about ur genotype, and then ask her if she loves you enough to sacrifice her ability to give birth, for you.

I'm getting to something, calm down, tell her how bad it'd be if u both had an SS child, and then skillfully bring up d idea of both of u sterilizing urselves. Which means dat u get a surgery or something,and at d end of it all, both of u will be infertile, and then you'll both adopt kids when u're married.

It's a very tough decision to make, it's not chin chin and it's a very hard pill to swallow
If u really love her, and she loves u too, consider dis option

Person dey ask this kind of question for this IT world? Nawa ooo! Since you eat with your anus, go ahead and marry. I am AA. I prayed and married AA to avoid stories for my children. I will advice and encourage them to do so.

Well.. D mistake has been made already.. As a medical practitioner.. My advice is that you ve to let her go.. You can ve an SS for both first and second child.. You can also be lucky not to ve any of dem as SS.. The fist m sure you dnt wanna take.. Find a way.. End d relationship.. Take care.

The risk***

BroAchival:

Ok, So how best do I part with her, then?
Any suggestion from you?

Now you're talking