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Fuckyoumod:
Oga... Your not coming out plain.

You never caught her cheating from your story.

Everything in your story is based on suspicions.

Go get your facts right.

go and sleepi!!you worst Nigeria

madridguy:
Hope you've browse her server very well?

If yes, dump her and get a good girl

If No, try and mark your own and move on.

From your narration, your GF is a public toilet. Kiss the bitter truth.

Boys so infidelity dey vex una. Una never serious. Every one dump her. Look for good girl. Na who go come marry bad chicks. ABI how many good girls dey in mist of 5 babes

BlackAfrican:
Hello NLs,
I'm too emotionally drained to make sound judgement so I need your contribution on this issue.

I found out recently that my gf has been living a secret life online. My findings suggest that she may be cheating on me... Why? She's been communicating with an ex that practically broke her heart in the past...

She's also frequently communicating with another guy on Facebook who has repeatedly called her my love, honey, sweetheart and other romantic pet names and she has reciprocated most times.... At a point, the guy said he was naked and waiting for her at home... And she said she's coming... I guess they took the conversation offline...

She's also been chatting with several other guys... the ones I saw on FB indicate they're either asking her out or she's outrightly flirting with them...

On WhatsApp, only God knows the content and direction of her chat with other guys...

The painful part is I found out she's been having this online/offline double life by accident... That's a story for another day...

When I confronted her with my findings, she's been claiming she has nothing with any of the guys and that I should forgive her for hiding her online life from me...

I feel betrayed... I doubt if she'll ever change... I just want to move on...

What should I do?

Naija girls were written_off even before they were born..

Trust a naija girl at your own peril.

Every naija girl has more than 5 sexual partners.

Stay away from relationship and prepare to die young..

Relationship favors girls.

If you need sex there are a lot of brothels in Nigeria go there and ease yourself.

Cholls:
my brother

get smart

Cholls:
my brother

Considering that if you didn't go through her phone, you won't have known that they are fucking your babe behind your back. I was in your shoes just 3 months ago. All these people shouting move on like you are a bus driver, am sure they have not been with a girl they really wanted. It's not easy bro, the best you can do is break up right away, and then spend the next month or two getting yourself back together. It worked for me.

Dami12345:


You are right, he should wait till he marries her and finds out like this guy, but of course you will say he still didn't catch her naw, maybe its a miracle.

do u know I am ur fan now

BlackAfrican:
Hello NLs,
I'm too emotionally drained to make sound judgement so I need your contribution on this issue.

I found out recently that my gf has been living a secret life online. My findings suggest that she may be cheating on me... Why? She's been communicating with an ex that practically broke her heart in the past...

She's also frequently communicating with another guy on Facebook who has repeatedly called her my love, honey, sweetheart and other romantic pet names and she has reciprocated most times.... At a point, the guy said he was naked and waiting for her at home... And she said she's coming... I guess they took the conversation offline...

She's also been chatting with several other guys... the ones I saw on FB indicate they're either asking her out or she's outrightly flirting with them...

On WhatsApp, only God knows the content and direction of her chat with other guys...

The painful part is I found out she's been having this online/offline double life by accident... That's a story for another day...

When I confronted her with my findings, she's been claiming she has nothing with any of the guys and that I should forgive her for hiding her online life from me...

I feel betrayed... I doubt if she'll ever change... I just want to move on...

What should I do?

If you want to die, continue with her.

ndindiatu:

Boys so infidelity dey vex una. Una never serious. Every one dump her. Look for good girl. Na who go come marry bad chicks. ABI how many good girls dey in mist of 5 babes

SPOTTED

BlackAfrican:
Hello NLs,
I'm too emotionally drained to make sound judgement so I need your contribution on this issue.

I found out recently that my gf has been living a secret life online. My findings suggest that she may be cheating on me... Why? She's been communicating with an ex that practically broke her heart in the past...

She's also frequently communicating with another guy on Facebook who has repeatedly called her my love, honey, sweetheart and other romantic pet names and she has reciprocated most times.... At a point, the guy said he was naked and waiting for her at home... And she said she's coming... I guess they took the conversation offline...

She's also been chatting with several other guys... the ones I saw on FB indicate they're either asking her out or she's outrightly flirting with them...

On WhatsApp, only God knows the content and direction of her chat with other guys...

The painful part is I found out she's been having this online/offline double life by accident... That's a story for another day...

When I confronted her with my findings, she's been claiming she has nothing with any of the guys and that I should forgive her for hiding her online life from me...

I feel betrayed... I doubt if she'll ever change... I just want to move on...

What should I do?

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Do you want to get HIV or AIDS from her first before you can man up and move on? Even with all the evidence at your disposal, you are still soliciting for opinions.

Unbelievable! There is no need going through any lady's FB or Whatsapp messages. Just assume she is cheating until proven otherwise and you will live longer.

I suggest you stay with her. Every lady needs someone she can walk all over.

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My simple advice is that u should call d relationship off immediately she is a cheat but b4 doing that try and catch her red handed.

BlackAfrican:
Anyone with useful tips on how to move on please share.... I'm so drained emotionally and can't stop the tears streaming down my face even as I type this....

Quit that relationship. Those actions of hers won't stop, not today, not when you marry her, and not when she gives birth. Old habit dies hard.

I suggest you look for someone else with better attitude, character and finesse that will make life worth living for you, cause once you marry this particular girl, you will experience x2 of what you're suffering now. She will offer you a lifetime of misery! Who wants a stubborn, nagging, disrespectful woman with an over-bloated ego as a wife?

You need to re-consider this cause it seems you're gradually becoming a victim of emotional deficit. And the hard truth is that you both are not meant for each other.

NothingDoMe:
Lol. I'm sure it's a typo or she's not so good with English. Or maybe she's just so into King James Version so She loveth thee.

KJV got Mii laffing


Its not a typo not an error

Benita27:
LMAOOOOOO

You were a side nigga!

I wasn't

Ex are dangerous
I've been able to still smash most of my ex after breakups even if they are already in a new relationship.

Smoke weed, Get high and forget love shiit

women r prostitute na. In their life line almost 50% average of dem have sex or get romances from several men

BlackAfrican:


I saw her conversations on FB and they're not palatable...

Throwback

she hid her other phone from me so I can't see the contents... when I discovered by accident, I ask her to unlock the phone but she refused... it led to a quarrel and I smashed the phone.... we later apologized for that episode.... two months later, I find out she's gotten another phone with which she goes online and she's been deliberately keeping it from me...

these are facts not assumptions

Lol...
Reminds me of my Ex that claims she is a virgin.
Always hiding her phone from me then.
I use anger and gave her insult of her life on one occasion she tried controlling me with harsh words.
I couldn't just understand why a cheat like her would look like stock fish and be selling what exactly in the name of cheating?

Fuckyoumod:
Oga... Your not coming out plain.

You never caught her cheating from your story.

Everything in your story is based on suspicions.

Go get your facts right.

What exactly is your definition of cheating?
Is it only when you catch your partner naked in bed with someone that you will call it cheating ?

These acts of cheating man dey read daily, is being in a relationship really worth the time?

Dey dia dey ask qtns. Went through my girl's own and saw where she denied being in a relationship. We are done as I type now.

Trust women at your own peril.

BlackAfrican:


I'm drained emotionally... Of course I can't continue with such a person...

And to think that she's a girl I plan proposing to end of this year and get married before mid next year just breaks my heart...

Guy, I have tried forgiving this shii...MANY TIMES..!

The last girl pulled baby mama stunt on me in the end after forgiving her like 3 straight times I caught her red-handed.

DO NOT FORGIVE..
STOP COMMUNICATING WITH HER.

CUT HER OFF and her as the demon you should NEVER relate with in anyway.

Except you want to TRAIN OTHER PEOPLE'S CHILDREN.




And stop being heartbroken. Just focus on your work and forget girls or now. (if you need to get-off, pay Olosh-O and get it over with)


P. S: a neighbor's boyfriend was complaining he suspected her... Well i tried to defend her...

Turned out the girl was actually doing it with her boss as he had suspected. (her friends told me!)

My Guy don't continue a relationship once the trust is broken.
It never ends well. You are not MARRIED TO HER.
Go and read deut. 24.

dairykidd:


Guy if u can live with the fact that she's fvcking someone else & u don't have any problem with that then stay there but if i were u i would move the fvck on... Its that simple

You and that your Queen succubus are grossly unserious oh. Before she mentioned your name finish you don respond. So many lazy Buhari kids on nairaland. Love doctor kor, witch doctor ni. You kuma come dey feel high say you don earn MBBS on nairaland from the department of love and counseling.

madridguy:
Hope you've browse her server very well?

If yes, dump her and get a good girl

If No, try and mark your own and move on.

From your narration, your GF is a public toilet. Kiss the bitter truth.

Gbam

lenghtinny:
Well Issa natural something for girls to keep To-do list of boyfriends these days....

You should have zero your mind before checking your so called girl online activities because there's a 99.99999999% probability that you will find what you seek.

Nowadays, the average Nigerian girl is a public property. She's only yours when she is with you

I am beginning to think this is so true..Trust a 9ja girl at your own peril

ndindiatu:

Boys so infidelity dey vex una. Una never serious. Every one dump her. Look for good girl. Na who go come marry bad chicks. ABI how many good girls dey in mist of 5 babes

let them marry to Jesus. they can't eat their cake and have it. we men can eat our cake and have it because we are cake bakers.

stop going on a serious relationship with ladies from 25yrs below, average of those girls will murdered your heart. they're only for date..



take them serious at your own peril. you will go on a date with them and other guys will be expanding the hole u think you're protecting

Move on bro

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BlackAfrican:
Hello NLs,
I'm too emotionally drained to make sound judgement so I need your contribution on this issue.

I found out recently that my gf has been living a secret life online. My findings suggest that she may be cheating on me... Why? She's been communicating with an ex that practically broke her heart in the past...

She's also frequently communicating with another guy on Facebook who has repeatedly called her my love, honey, sweetheart and other romantic pet names and she has reciprocated most times.... At a point, the guy said he was naked and waiting for her at home... And she said she's coming... I guess they took the conversation offline...

She's also been chatting with several other guys... the ones I saw on FB indicate they're either asking her out or she's outrightly flirting with them...

On WhatsApp, only God knows the content and direction of her chat with other guys...

The painful part is I found out she's been having this online/offline double life by accident... That's a story for another day...

When I confronted her with my findings, she's been claiming she has nothing with any of the guys and that I should forgive her for hiding her online life from me...

I feel betrayed... I doubt if she'll ever change... I just want to move on...

What should I do?

Dude, let's face it. MOST ladies are at it these days. NO MAN can claim his woman isn't doing it. I'd advise even married men not to be so bold to claim exclusivity. I know what I mean. Some of us are in the position to see all imaginable orisirisi.

So long you're not married, kindly accept that you're only a shareholder. Even if married, still only by Grace of God.
An averagely pretty lady on social media will be hit on by several men daily: rich, poor, average, handsome, local-based, foreign-based, stingy, generous, etc.

How many girls nowadays can resist all these men ALWAYS?

Around 35% of firstborn kids belong to another man outside. All those women who get pregnant and they quickly organise wedding before belly gets big. As a man if no DNA test done, OYO.

About 25% of all kids belong to another man outside.

A late wealthy relative of mine had kids with his wife in Nigeria. It later turned out all the kids were not his. He died mysteriously soon after. Only the kid he had with a European lady abroad is his (DNA proven). His 9ja wife had all the SUVs and money to use but still cheated recklessly.

By the time many girls are 16, they have learnt that men are the easiest way to make money. Their taste only increase with time.

In of promiscuity, women tower above men these days. Easily.