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It still baffles me why women have to change their names because of marriage, who introduced this tradition? ,for instance my name is Isabella Peters and I want to get married to Mr Phillips, so after marriage I'm going to change my name to Isabella Phillips or Isabella Peters Phillips??.
This has to stop, I keep wondering why feminists don't include this in their agenda

Then men have to stop paying bride prices too


Respect the FTC and dont attack him

Lol, that's better, in my culture, they give you a new name altogether. You'll no longer even be "Isabella", you'll be "Lorraine"

They say it's because marriage is a new identity. Whatever you did under your "old name", is now put behind you, including the name itself. You're turning on a new page as a new being, someone's wife. It's always funny watching new brides when they're still coming to with their new given names. You'll be calling them & they won't respond because they still haven't gotten used to them.

The new names are usually nice & meaning though.

XhosaNostra:
Lol, that's better, in my culture, they give you a new name altogether. You'll no longer even be "Isabella", you'll be "Lorraine"

They say it's because marriage is a new identity. Whatever you did under your "old name", is now put behind you, including the name itself. You're turning on a new page as a new being, someone's wife. It's always funny watching new brides when they're still coming to with their new given names. You'll be calling them & they won't respond because they still haven't gotten used to them.

The new names are usually nice & meaning though.

that's very demeaning, changing your entire identity because of marriage

TheUpsetGirl:



that's very demeaning, changing your entire identity because of marriage

Yeah, but to be fair, they do that to guys as well. After they come back from circumcision & "become men", they also get a new name.

TheUpsetGirl:



that's very demeaning, changing your entire identity because of marriage

you must stay upset forever. bringing useless topics. Devil's agent

Because the sad reality is that, a woman is beneath her husband. A woman is also nothing without a husband.

But since you have been silly enough to ask this question, why not ask yourself why the child you bore has your husband's name too.


Modified: Those mentioning my moniker just to insult their parents, please no one is obliged to endorse my view. If you don't like my comment, just move over to the next one. Everyone is entitled to air their opinion.

And for the record, I don't reply mentions cos I don't have the strength to argue

Hope Mr Philips have agreed not to pay ur dowry.

TheUpsetGirl:
it still baffles me why women have to change their names because of marriage, who introduced this tradition? ,for instance my name is Isabella Peters and I want to get married to Mr Phillips, so after marriage I'm going to change my name to Isabella Phillips or Isabella Peters Phillips??.
This has to stop, I keep wondering why feminists don't include this in their agenda



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RadicallyBlunt:
Hope Mr Philips have agreed not to pay ur dowry.

bride price--------->man's side to woman's side
dowry----------------> woman's side to man

dont get it twisted.

ubunja:

bride price--------->man's side to woman's side
dowry----------------> woman's side to man

dont get it twisted.

So its women who pay dowry.

I hear you

Its not mandatory to change names based on which custom you refer to.
I have a double barrelled name ( both parents ) so does my mother. She did not change her name she added my father’s name to hers. The same for both grandmothers. That’s us it’s not common.
Coverture Law is one reason this applies to any English speaking country including former colonies. It’s not practiced in Spanish, French speaking countries or some Asian countries. From an African perspective how else can you be identified if it were not for your name? You leave your father’s home and become part of his family, their wife, daughter and mother so the name is changed too. According to Sinnah it’s prohibited for a Muslim woman to change her name after marriage.

I don’t see a Nigerian man taking his wife’s s surname do you? In this country a name is everything it opens doors or closes them shut.

And you had to use foreign names to make an illustration? What happened to Ojo, Okafor and the rest

XhosaNostra:
Lol, that's better, in my culture, they give you a new name altogether. You'll no longer even be "Isabella", you'll be "Lorraine"

They say it's because marriage is a new identity. Whatever you did under your "old name", is now put behind you, including the name itself. You're turning on a new page as a new being, someone's wife. It's always funny watching new brides when they're still coming to with their new given names. You'll be calling them & they won't respond because they still haven't gotten used to them.

The new names are usually nice & meaning though.

Wow, what an interesting culture.

Its in their agenda but they can never win

MissRaine69:
Its not mandatory to change names based on which custom you refer to.
I have a double barrelled name ( both parents ) so does my mother. She did not change her name she added my father’s name to hers. The same for both grandmothers. That’s us it’s not common.
Coverture Law is one reason this applies to any English speaking country including former colonies. It’s not practiced in Spanish, French speaking countries or some Asian countries. From an African perspective how else can you be identified if it were not for your name? You leave your father’s home and become part of his family, their wife, daughter and mother so the name is changed too. According to Sinnah it’s prohibited for a Muslim woman to change her name after marriage.

I don’t see a Nigerian man taking his wife’s s surname do you? In this country a name is everything it opens doors or closes them shut.

that's sad. why are the men not adding our name to their names when they get married?

TheUpsetGirl:





that's sad. why are the men not adding our name to their names when they get married?

In Nigeria?
Some men still have issues with a married woman working that mindset alone is telling.
Some men do add their wives surname to theirs but not in this society.

this isn't a question you ask on social media,your village people are there to answer you naw

XhosaNostra:
Lol, that's better, in my culture, they give you a new name altogether. You'll no longer even be "Isabella", you'll be "Lorraine"

They say it's because marriage is a new identity. Whatever you did under your "old name", is now put behind you, including the name itself. You're turning on a new page as a new being, someone's wife. It's always funny watching new brides when they're still coming to with their new given names. You'll be calling them & they won't respond because they still haven't gotten used to them.

The new names are usually nice & meaning though.

Are you for real? Where are you from, please? Never heard about this before.

PrimadonnaO:


Are you for real? Where are you from, please? Never heard about this before.

South Africa. Xhosa tribe.

Would you like it the other way round?

Before it used to be always man on top during sex but now you stand at the top, you can't propose love to a guy let alone marriage, if you could then do, what do you want, you want our dick and give us vagina?

marunga:
you must stay upset forever. bringing useless topics. Devil's agent

Thank you for this comment. One cold stout for you

XhosaNostra:
Lol, that's better, in my culture, they give you a new name altogether. You'll no longer even be "Isabella", you'll be "Lorraine"

They say it's because marriage is a new identity. Whatever you did under your "old name", is now put behind you, including the name itself. You're turning on a new page as a new being, someone's wife. It's always funny watching new brides when they're still coming to with their new given names. You'll be calling them & they won't respond because they still haven't gotten used to them.

The new names are usually nice & meaning though.

where do you come from?

This girl is getting worse than nwamaikpeo

TheUpsetGirl:
it still baffles me why women have to change their names because of marriage, who introduced this tradition? ,for instance my name is Isabella Peters and I want to get married to Mr Phillips, so after marriage I'm going to change my name to Isabella Phillips or Isabella Peters Phillips??.
This has to stop, I keep wondering why feminists don't include this in their agenda



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The actual question is why does a woman have to answer a man's name as the surname even when she is a child or married. Why can't it be a woman's name as the surname?

swiz123:
Because the sad reality is that, a woman is beneath her husband. A woman is also nothing without a husband.

But since you have been silly enough to ask this question, why not ask yourself why the child you bore has your husband's name too.

Bros u even try to answer the foullll.
My question 2 her is that must she marry?
Marriage is not meant for everybody, is a matter of choice.
Na pride dey worry Op and pple like her no dey respect husband thank you.

amakadihot87:
where do you come from?

South Africa.

XhosaNostra:
Lol, that's better, in my culture, they give you a new name altogether. You'll no longer even be "Isabella", you'll be "Lorraine"

They say it's because marriage is a new identity. Whatever you did under your "old name", is now put behind you, including the name itself. You're turning on a new page as a new being, someone's wife. It's always funny watching new brides when they're still coming to with their new given names. You'll be calling them & they won't respond because they still haven't gotten used to them.

The new names are usually nice & meaning though.

LMFAO @the bolded . These days, very few actually use those names outside of their husband's parents home

Lionessza:




LMFAO @the bolded . These days, very few actually use those names outside of their husband's parents home

Oh, really? Wow, times have changed.

what does changing one's name have to do with feminism??

A name is a name. The most important thing is who you are, and what you have to offer.
Most women change their surname, or add their hubby's surname cause they are proud to be associated with the family.


there's nothing wrong, whether u change your name or not, it's got nothing to do with feminism. stop making mountains out of molehills biko.

I didn't just changed my last name...i also changed my middle name to his first name


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