NewStats: 3,264,688 , 8,184,419 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 03:51 AM 4k5x72

Huston1:
Please Nairalanders I need help because I am loosing my patience.
I have been married to my wife for 6years and I have never had dinner before 9PM. Sometimes I'm served dinner past 11pm. My wife doesn't have any job yet. I wake early every day because I have to bath and dress our two kids up in the morning while she makes their breakfast and prepare something for the lunch boxes. I drop the kids at school and go to work from there. I return home before 6pm and dinner is never ready. I have complained and complained and she makes adjustments for two days each time I complain. I got angry at a point and told her I will not eat her food after 7pm. That week, she acted on my instruction and I really ate at 7pm or just before 7:30pm. That is the only week I enjoyed dinner early. I have even developed pot belle due to eating late.
I got home early today and she started picking vegetables to make soup at about 3:30pm. This is 8pm and I still haven't eaten. I am so angry. I really see her busy working in kitchen but I don't know why it takes so long for the food to be ready. Not that she attends to the kids. I assist the kids in their homework and prepare them for bed. I'm very angry. Please advise.

It is simple. The tv or the decoder is marrying your wife. Do away with the decoder and you'll win your wife back

She probably likes late night.

Does she watch telemundo?

buhari is baba go slow....now I think I have found mama go slow.....5 hours to cook vegetable soup!!! this should be in Guinness book of world records

oyomii:
She probably used to eat late while she was at her parents' and got used to it. I think the threat thing might work bt u guys shl'd talk abt it sha. And pray too

Nigerians and religion, what has prayer got to do with this?

Sell It!

Bro u don marry one chance wife

Some women are just born into late meals, even if you send them packing when everything is settled you might be lucky to get your meals on time for say 1 or 2 weeks but she will eventually repeat her old pattern again only good counselling ang Gods grace can change them

At least she cooks lol

You can't fin help on issues like this here , I advice you, you consult the appropriate quarters.

You know what to do, aren't you a man , I may be wrong eat out for dinner, by the time she knows you aren't eating her meals, she will buckle up if she has conscience.

Huston1:
Please Nairalanders I need help because I am loosing my patience.
I have been married to my wife for 6years and I have never had dinner before 9PM. Sometimes I'm served dinner past 11pm. My wife doesn't have any job yet. I wake early every day because I have to bath and dress our two kids up in the morning while she makes their breakfast and prepare something for the lunch boxes. I drop the kids at school and go to work from there. I return home before 6pm and dinner is never ready. I have complained and complained and she makes adjustments for two days each time I complain. I got angry at a point and told her I will not eat her food after 7pm. That week, she acted on my instruction and I really ate at 7pm or just before 7:30pm. That is the only week I enjoyed dinner early. I have even developed pot belle due to eating late.
I got home early today and she started picking vegetables to make soup at about 3:30pm. This is 8pm and I still haven't eaten. I am so angry. I really see her busy working in kitchen but I don't know why it takes so long for the food to be ready. Not that she attends to the kids. I assist the kids in their homework and prepare them for bed. I'm very angry. Please advise.

check to know if your wife is a nairalander... Then youre in trouble

Did you not date her before marrying her? You ought to have seen all these before marriage. Now you are married there is nothing that can be done except you handle the situation maturely and resolve it internally by yourself.

a woman is like Nigerians put in one box, they want good husband but they don't respect the man who is as good as they defined good man. Jonathan is not outrightly bad but he became bad trying to please Nigerians. but with Buhari, they are crying even though the man is laying foundation for the same house they all dream of.
my point; women sometimes need that man that will set certain rules with punishment attached to it.
set time when you want your food ready and stand by it any violation of such should attract punishment such as eating outside for some days(she will tell u that u are doing urself but believe me it hurt them to their bone), suspend her pocket money etc but don't beat and make sure there is food at home.

OP, ur wife is possessed by Snail Spirit..

Social media distraction is at work, Facebook, What's app, Tweeter etc

I feel for the OP.

Hire a cook or let her prepare the food in large quantity and store in d freezer. Must you indicate that she's jobless? You think its easy to manage the home? You don't even have a problem. We are complaining about the increasing price of rice and u are here complaining about late dinner

Huston1:
Please Nairalanders I need help because I am loosing my patience.
I have been married to my wife for 6years and I have never had dinner before 9PM. Sometimes I'm served dinner past 11pm. My wife doesn't have any job yet. I wake early every day because I have to bath and dress our two kids up in the morning while she makes their breakfast and prepare something for the lunch boxes. I drop the kids at school and go to work from there. I return home before 6pm and dinner is never ready. I have complained and complained and she makes adjustments for two days each time I complain. I got angry at a point and told her I will not eat her food after 7pm. That week, she acted on my instruction and I really ate at 7pm or just before 7:30pm. That is the only week I enjoyed dinner early. I have even developed pot belle due to eating late.
I got home early today and she started picking vegetables to make soup at about 3:30pm. This is 8pm and I still haven't eaten. I am so angry. I really see her busy working in kitchen but I don't know why it takes so long for the food to be ready. Not that she attends to the kids. I assist the kids in their homework and prepare them for bed. I'm very angry. Please advise.

ADVICE TWO :

Buy food from Mega Chicken order it while you're on your way home. Make sure you eat it in her presence with your kids. Turn the radio on and listen to sports news and act like ur not there. Don't complain with her just sacrifice and do it for sometime reduce the money for feeding by 50% tell her its for your feeding thats why u had to make the reduction and wait for her reaction...

opribo:
Did you not date her before marrying her? You ought to have seen all these before marriage. Now you are married there is nothing that can be done except you handle the situation maturely and resolve it internally by yourself.

What does dating have to do with preparing dinner
Is dating same with live in lover

Broz, why u dey reason Like Judas Iscariot..

Huston1:
Please Nairalanders I need help because I am loosing my patience.
I have been married to my wife for 6years and I have never had dinner before 9PM. Sometimes I'm served dinner past 11pm. My wife doesn't have any job yet. I wake early every day because I have to bath and dress our two kids up in the morning while she makes their breakfast and prepare something for the lunch boxes. I drop the kids at school and go to work from there. I return home before 6pm and dinner is never ready. I have complained and complained and she makes adjustments for two days each time I complain. I got angry at a point and told her I will not eat her food after 7pm. That week, she acted on my instruction and I really ate at 7pm or just before 7:30pm. That is the only week I enjoyed dinner early. I have even developed pot belle due to eating late.
I got home early today and she started picking vegetables to make soup at about 3:30pm. This is 8pm and I still haven't eaten. I am so angry. I really see her busy working in kitchen but I don't know why it takes so long for the food to be ready. Not that she attends to the kids. I assist the kids in their homework and prepare them for bed. I'm very angry. Please advise.

9. One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it. Marriage works when both husband and wife work together as a team to build their marriage.
10. Don't take your spouse for granted. Don't take advantage of your spouse's meekness and goodness. Don't mistake your spouse's loyalty for desperation. Don't misuse or abuse yours spouse's trust. You may end up regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.
11. Beware of marital advice from single people.Regardless of how sincere their advice may be, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real life experiences. If you really need Godly advice,seek it from God-fearing, impartial and prayerful mature couples whose resolve has been tested by time and shaped by trials.

Bishop David Oyedepo Teaching On Some Hard Truth About Marriage>>>http://www.todaynewsreview.com/p/484/bishop-david-oyedepo-teaches-on-some-hard-truth-about-marria

Bro, u get gate man?

Huston1:
Please Nairalanders I need help because I am loosing my patience.
I have been married to my wife for 6years and I have never had dinner before 9PM. Sometimes I'm served dinner past 11pm. My wife doesn't have any job yet. I wake early every day because I have to bath and dress our two kids up in the morning while she makes their breakfast and prepare something for the lunch boxes. I drop the kids at school and go to work from there. I return home before 6pm and dinner is never ready. I have complained and complained and she makes adjustments for two days each time I complain. I got angry at a point and told her I will not eat her food after 7pm. That week, she acted on my instruction and I really ate at 7pm or just before 7:30pm. That is the only week I enjoyed dinner early. I have even developed pot belle due to eating late.
I got home early today and she started picking vegetables to make soup at about 3:30pm. This is 8pm and I still haven't eaten. I am so angry. I really see her busy working in kitchen but I don't know why it takes so long for the food to be ready. Not that she attends to the kids. I assist the kids in their homework and prepare them for bed. I'm very angry. Please advise.

Advice three crack a joke but seriously. Approach your in-laws and tell them the possiblity of a new wife is very high and the decisionis now becoming a top priority,just a text message to her parents will do.. You will see the result

smellingmenses:
she is on go-slow strike!

Start eating outside. Buy food outside and bring them back home. She will get the message.

crackhaus:

There's probably a scientific equation somewhere in there, hence the delay... I think.

Looks like she uses 2 candle sticks to cook cos I really can't understand why it takes that long. Even when u start cooking by 4pm, by 6 max, u should be eating. Talk to her, hussy!

She has been infected by Buhari syndrome..."Go-Slow"

afroLAD:
You should be angry - a hungry man is an angry man.

Some women just don't understand that the way to a man's heart is through his belly. When you start eating from #ediblecatering now, they will be crying.

Its not just about being hungry but it is a terribly bad practice. When you eat late (closer to bed time) you labour the digestive system that is preparing to shut down in accordance with your body clock, leaving a lot of the food undigested and moving it staight to your waste processing department which is a strain in those organs. Also because your activities are winding down the energy from the digested food is unutilised and is converted to fat.... the very dangerous residual belly fat. Anything after 7pm is courting long term trouble. Due to the lack of electricity for light and preservation our fathers ate early and as such kept slight figures even at old age and reduced activity. These days with industrialization, electricity and electric powered conveniences including entertainment folks literally eat their way to dawn..... and serious pong term medical problems.

you took this right out of my mind! OP just find out and kill the root of the problem and you will get food at the right time.

On the other hand, try and assist her during the weekend to cook en-bulk and freeze for use during the week.

Try and gradually make her understand the dangers of you eating late. Let her know of your friends who stay back after work to eat before getting home at night. She surely won't like that idea when you end up in some woman's bed

Yomieluv:
do u have dstv?

She's addicted to telemundo..

Don't pay for subscription, and watc how you eat even before 5pm..

crackhaus:
I really can't wait to see how our beloved resident defenders of women spin this one around...assuming your story is true of course.

If it were up to me though, I would say divorce her dammiit.
What insolence!

yorhmienerd:
The last time I visited a relatives place, it was the day Barca vs Bayern played last, I came back around 11pm expecting to meet food setup and the kids sleeping but was suprised to see the kids watching telemundo while the father is suggestin they cook BEANS, that day I slept around 1am

Chai! Beans at night?

I cannot even eat beans after 4pm. Na wa o.

It depends on how she was brought up, try to stay away from eating her food for a while each time she prepares food tell her not to bother about u, u have eaten somewhere am a woman I know how dis things happen sometimes. dat will get her angry, she will surely adjust an do right thing.

uwagimboo:


What does dating have to do with preparing dinner
Is dating same with live in lover

Broz, why u dey reason Like Judas Iscariot..

No now, if he dated her I mean real dating not Facebook dating O, he should have noticed the signs and then he decided to take the plunge. Now that he has a family what do you expect us to say on Nairaland, for him to pursue his wife, no way he will stay in there and deal with the situation. He is the man after all. So far the woman listens sometimes then there is still hope for remedy.

byvan03:
Just start coming home with takeaway pack, eat and go to bed. She will get the message.

[size=15pt] best advice so far,,, OP take this and you'll see a change in 2days max [/size]