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Myrepublic:
So training a lady in school is not important to her? Many have trained ladies,who later ask that question, after they met a richer guy..

I have seen this happen to someone close to me. The man trained the lady in school after he married her. Years later, the man lost his wealth and started struggling financially. What did the woman do? She started sleeping with Yahoo boys, in exchange for footing her bills.

Going to school was not what she truly considered valuable, instead it was having a man be her financial . Things would have turned out better for the man if he had saved or invested the money he used to train her in school.

But then again he wouldn't have really known at that time how less important going to school was to the woman considering how she was asking for it.

endsarrrs:
Men are the biggest mistakes to women

Share your experience.

lavylilly:
This message reflects a deep sense of cynicism, pain, and frustration—likely shaped by real experiences—but it also contains several harmful generalizations that deserve to be challenged for a more balanced and constructive perspective.

Is this your writing?

Buying the illusion of waiting for her as a virgin till marriage.

Another sharp guy pop the cheery.... Cold

No my aunts

Theama:


Is this your writing?

I invested too much, everything.
Too much. Too much emotion, love, effort, money.
Nothing came back to me.

That's also why divorce is harder on men. Much harder than on women. You invest everything, get nothing, and lose everything.

Talismann:
no woman, I repeat no woman will ever love you unconditionally. It has never and will never work that way. Even your own biological mother will dance to the tune of that child who provides the more for her. Don't allow anyone deceive you. As a man, it's better you live with that truth or die in self denial. Even God will despise you if you can't solve issues in his house or useful to him.

Now that being said, there a few real, trustworthy ladies.but the paragraph above is still engrained in their DNA regardless.

As a man what to do. You need to make money, you need to keep working hard. A man paying his bills earns serious respect from everyone.

Once you can't pay the bills, even your dog will whine and grind it's teeth at you when you can't buy it's food.

Avoid gold diggers btw, you should get a woman who is purposeful and going in the same direction with you obviously. But live with the fact that the moment you can't provide anymore, things will likely go wrong.

One love

Which of the god are you referring?

As a Christian, such statement is not true about Jesus Christ

Please state the god you know or meant when making wide fallacy

I have read most of the replies here, and all I can say is that; most men here are broken, and haven't healed from whatever pain, or trauma a lady they once dated caused them in the past.

Inasmuch as, I would say women shouldn't generalized all men as being scums, I would also say that single men should not generalize all women as being the same.

We meet different people with different personalities and whatsoever else they are silently fighting that they often times don't talk about or heal from.

Hence, its paramount that each gender gets to treat each other based on the present, not based on how another person has once treated them in past relationships.

This way, one doesn't loose or miss out on someone who could have been their soulmate, or a destined partner.

It's true that some men are demons, and that some women will help you see shege and won't care. But if one keeps treating every lady or guy that comes along based on past experiences or hurt, then the rate of divorce in the next 5/10 years will be way higher than now with no love, loyalty, commitment, or true friendship.

Anabosee:
Giving her 10 missed call back then when I was jobless and simping. Now I have a good job I don't even have time to call family not to talk of one girl...... now them say I am not romantic....I nor send

Anytime a woman tells you are not romantic, just know that she is telling you re not mumu enough.

I go abadon myself dey chase like he goat for wetin?
Make romantic die. The modern women are like Wells with bottomless bit.

JustcallmeFavou:
I have read most of the replies here, and all I can say is that; most men here are broken, and haven't healed from whatever pain, or trauma a lady they once dated caused them in the past.

Inasmuch as, I would say women shouldn't generalized all men as being scums, I would also say that single men should not generalize all women as being the same.

We meet different people with different personalities and whatsoever else they are silently fighting that they often times don't talk about or heal from.

Hence, its paramount that each gender gets to treat each other based on the present, not based on how another person has once treated them in past relationships.

This way, one doesn't loose or miss out on someone who could have been their soulmate, or a destined partner.

It's true that some men are demons, and that some women will help you see shege and won't care. But if one keeps treating every lady or guy that comes along based on past experiences or hurt, then the rate of divorce in the next 5/10 years will be way higher than now with no love, loyalty, commitment, or true friendship.

women are only loyal to what they benefit.they are incapable of loving genuinely.know this and know peace.

goran3310:
I invested too much, everything.
Too much. Too much emotion, love, effort, money.
Nothing came back to me.

That's also why divorce is harder on men. Much harder than on women. You invest everything, get nothing, and lose everything.

Hmmmmmm

donogaga:
Men, what are your biggest mistakes with women?
Share them so that other men can learn and not repeat them.👇👇👇

Trying to make he happy and comfortable

ClassicEvilSpir:
I thought I was impressing her by giving her things, meanwhile there were bigger simps giving her more. Nowadays, I invest less, but receive more. Women do not respond to logic most times.

Most women doesn't respond to logic. For the few that do respond to logic, they have embraced the book... Act like a woman, think like a man.
Simple and cute.

Ruke1991:
Buying expensive things for any woman or throwing cash at them is the biggest mistake any man can make in this life or in the life after. Allow women to struggle and pay their personal bills alone, so that the stress can help them break the follow-come coconut in their brain. Until that coconut is broken, women cannot know the dignity of labour and their brain can never be useful

Who go date u?

Zocalite:


Which of the god are you referring?

As a Christian, such statement is not true about Jesus Christ

Please state the god you know or meant when making wide fallacy

Deuteronomy 16:16-17

If that verse no do you, when you reach church on Sunday, raise up ya hand ask ya pastor for more

Greydebz:
This sounds very toxic 🤨

explain "toxic" or are you using words you don't understand?

lavylilly:
This statement actually carries some hard-earned wisdom—particularly about how relationships are tested during adversity and the importance of loyalty and consistency. But it also contains a subtle misprioritization of human connection by sidelining love, and presents advice that, while seemingly grounded, can become overly transactional or emotionally guarded if taken to the extremeYou're absolutely right that adversity reveals character, and when someone shows you disloyalty, you should believe them the first time. Betrayal isn’t something to excuse, and self-respect means not staying in situations where trust has been broken. >Unfortunately, love has become transactional in the world we live in today, a tit for tat!!

But let’s challenge one key idea here:

“Love is not the most important thing because it’s an emotion that comes and goes.”

That’s a half-truth. > Love is a VERB!! Someone can claim to love you and still betray you and find it justifiable to themselves.

Yes, feelings fluctuate. ion ebbs and flows. But real love isn’t just an emotion—it’s a commitment, a decision, a practice. You can’t build loyalty, friendship, reliability, or consistency without love as the glue. When love is reduced to "just a feeling," you lose sight of its discipline. > I agree, however humans attach love mostly to emotions/ feelings hence the ebbs and flow. You can be angry with your partner does not equal you loving them any less.

And here's the nuance:
Loyalty and consistency are built on love, not separate from it. If someone is loyal but doesn’t care about your emotional well-being… that’s a business partner, not a life partner. > I disagree, love does not equate loyalty and consistency because again we are humans and emotions drive a lot of our decision whether right or wrong. Love/ Trust can be a by product of Loyalty & Consistency.

Also, love inspires growth, forgiveness, and connection. It's not something to undervalue just because it’s vulnerable. The healthiest relationships are built on both love and loyalty—not one replacing the other. >Correct, Ideally.

So yes—men should be wise, look beyond chemistry, and value long-term traits like consistency and trust. But don’t swing so far in the “rational” direction that you end up emotionally unavailable, or worse—incapable of true intimacy.

Final thought:
Don’t throw love out the window just because someone failed you. Heal, learn, choose better—but don’t confuse wisdom with emotional shutdown. The best relationships are a balance of heart and mind—not one at the cost of the other.

aribisala0:
Lions eat meat and goats eat grass.

I am a lion and cannot apologize for that . If you don't like it why not go chew some grass?

Haba wetin i do you now?
Why u dey vex with me

LeeSmart:

Haba wetin i do you now?
Why u dey vex with me

Honestly............

I no vex at all,just being real

I do not pretend .

At any rate why should you care if anybody vex with you. Why are people so weak these days

What matters is what you think about yourself not what any other person thinks or says.

Love yourself

advanceDNA:


Y'all will be forming fake fairness as if your babe is monitoring your comments on nairaland

Must a thread be about both men and women at the same time.??..What's stopping you from opening a thread about women's regret...?? Instead of coming here to tackle someone

You are just creating unnecessary gender war..yet ..when you see all kinds of women and girls empowerment programmes...women scholarship, widow empowerment....y'all never come out to ask "what about men"??...abi boys/men no need help....?

Ruke1991:


It's not about brokenness
As a simp (what you call big boy), giving gifts undeservingly to random ladies to win their love means you contribute to the growth of the population of entitled ladies in the society. That attitude of trying to buy love also smacks of low self esteem.

Get my point, only broke guys would complaints about money spent on ladies. And moreover, big boys don't date low class babe's.

JustcallmeFavou:
I have read most of the replies here, and all I can say is that; most men here are broken, and haven't healed from whatever pain, or trauma a lady they once dated caused them in the past.

Inasmuch as, I would say women shouldn't generalized all men as being scums, I would also say that single men should not generalize all women as being the same.

We meet different people with different personalities and whatsoever else they are silently fighting that they often times don't talk about or heal from.

Hence, its paramount that each gender gets to treat each other based on the present, not based on how another person has once treated them in past relationships.

This way, one doesn't loose or miss out on someone who could have been their soulmate, or a destined partner.

It's true that some men are demons, and that some women will help you see shege and won't care. But if one keeps treating every lady or guy that comes along based on past experiences or hurt, then the rate of divorce in the next 5/10 years will be way higher than now with no love, loyalty, commitment, or true friendship.

Almighty God will perfect your knowledge.

I appreciate your perspective and the historical context you’ve provided, but I believe it’s important to recognize that human relationships and gender roles have evolved significantly beyond prehistoric times.

Yes, traditionally, men often took on the role of provider and women nurtured the family, but in today’s world, partnership means much more than just financial provision. Respect, love, trust, and mutual are the foundation of healthy relationships—regardless of who brings in the money.

Suggesting that a woman loses respect for a man if she provides or s him in tough times overlooks the strength and resilience that both partners can bring. True respect grows from character, integrity, and shared values—not just from who pays the bills.

Relationships thrive when both partners uplift each other through hardships, share responsibilities, and adapt together. Insisting on rigid roles can limit growth and happiness for both men and women.

So, rather than framing provision as the sole measure of a man’s worth or the basis of respect, it’s healthier to see partnership as a balanced journey of , no matter who leads or follows at any given time.

Talismann:


look, my exposé is nothing but the truth. I give summary of the broader discuss because of lack of time.

The reality of it is that is as old as time itself.
Prehistoric man was purely designed to be a provider, the woman giving and nurturing the young.

While a number of men may disagree with my position, I wan't to state that I don't in anyway approve getting involved with a l0usy woman or one who cannot a man in times of distress.

I unravel a hidden truth which is the reality of a man's importance, respect and a whole lot that makes a man, man; being tied to his ability to provide.

The dark truth is a woman can only run for a short while providing for you as a man without her losing respect for you.

It enforces the role of a man in the family. One who must weather the storm to ensure sustainable provision. nothing short of that.

While some may come at me and disagree with my position, I highly advise they stay away from dating or even getting married.

It's what it is

Chief2410:
women are only loyal to what they benefit.they are incapable of loving genuinely.know this and know peace.

Here we go again on the generalization. Well, you wear the shoes, and you know where it hurts most. So do whatever works for you, or that gives you peace in your soul at the end of the day.

olaolulazio:
Allowing her take a job in another state. Weyrey moved in with a single father of 2

Lolzzzz

johnog4sure:

Seconded as a married man, applicable even in marriage!

Lolzzzz

Trusting ANY woman is a big mistake.

Unknowingly marrying Alaroka

lavylilly:
You’ve shared a solid and irable story—your independence, values, and discipline are commendable. But let’s not pretend your experience is the only balanced one, just as others’ negative experiences don’t define all women.

The truth is, both realities exist.
Yes, there are women like you—purposeful, self-sufficient, respectful. And yes, there are also women who manipulate, take advantage, or view men solely as walking wallets. Pretending the second group doesn’t exist doesn’t make the first group more noble—it just silences the pain others have faced.

What many of these so-called "Alpha males" are expressing—however unrefined or bitterly—is pain. Disappointment. Frustration with repeated patterns that feel like emotional or financial exploitation. Does that justify generalizing all women? No. But does it mean their experiences are invalid? Also no.

Let’s be real: men are taught to measure their worth by how much they can provide, not how emotionally intelligent or loving they are. So when a man loses his job or can’t “perform,” and someone he cared for bounces—that cuts deep. It’s not just about money. It’s about worth.

The problem is when people heal by hardening, instead of reflecting. That’s where bitterness comes from.

So yes, your story shows what’s possible. But it shouldn’t be used to invalidate others' hurt. Just like their pain shouldn't be used to paint you—or all women—as heartless or fake.

-What we need more of is nuance:

-Not all women are gold diggers.

-Not all men are simps.

-People are complex.

-Love is risky.

And healing is necessary—for everyone.

Thank you so much for this deep insight... It hurts sometimes to see majority of the men generalize that all women falls into their description because that's not true but sometimes I wave that aside and focus on better things because they don't know me.