NewStats: 3,262,619 , 8,177,705 topics. Date: Tuesday, 03 June 2025 at 04:47 AM 143o4r

Namaster:
People FRET too much over legal matters.
They get a message from a lawyer and they PANIC.

This is a just a LETTER. It does NOT mean anything.

ANYBODY can demand ANYTHING from ANYBODY in a letter or even a lawsuit.

Doesn't mean they'll get it.

The man NEEDS to get himself a lawyer. And STOP posting of social media.

Without evidence of abuse or abandonment, T legal and physical custody is more likely.

Andtheir finances will determine the child arrangements.

ONLY thing that is guaranteed is she'll definitely take half HIS properties and investments. But he's also going to be able to take half of HER own properties and investments. However little they may be.

FINALLY, men need to stop acting like FOOLS!

You got married in Nigeria, DON'T divorce her abroad.

That's what DETTY DECEMBER is for.

"Yes Honey, your Christmas gift is at Ikeja High Court".

You have to be SMART & STRATEGIC about these things.

They (SIMPs) never learn! I bet, another man here or elsewhere is planning the same or similar mistake with his "beloved" woman. "No, my woman is good and different, she will never try such" okay na...

u marry a broke girl/woman without vetting or testing her loyalty properly then u take her to Canada or US where she has more power than u by law in the family affairs?

SensualMan1:
Never, never never never ever bring ur Nigerian wife to a developed country.

Don't try it.

If u do, ur ruin is not far fetched.

Don't ever marry a poor girl and upgrade her to a life she's never used to.

Well, I have known many Nigerian men who brought their nigerian wives to developed country. All of them have had marriages that lasted. NO divorce.

I even know one coupule that were married till the man died. No divorce.

I even know one Igbo copule...family friends of my parents...the man even married the woman and trained her so to speak. They went to America, and their marriage dey gigdba...it's almost 30 years since they left self.

Marriage is hard work.

Na wa o.

Abroad Marriage be like porridge yam wey no dey soft.

Please Nigerian men don't take your wife or girlfriend abroad...let them remain here in Nigeria.

All this endless ranting, as if he’s blameless, when he’s the one who chose to abandon the marriage.
Did he stop for a moment to think about the pain he’d cause his children, about how his leaving tears their world apart? Now he’s upset, that she’s asking for child —how else was she supposed to provide for their children?
It’s heartbreaking, the way he turns his back and then complains when life demands responsibility.
Additionally, he has the option to pursue t custody if he wishes to spend more time with his children.

The court will never grant such a request unless there's evidence of mental insanity or violence towards the kids, not even violence towards the mother would ever warrant the court granting sole deicsion making to the mother.......Guy man calm down and hire your own lawyer, file your own petition seeking FULL CUSTODY......Let the world burn if it must and save evidence so that in the future the kids woulkd know you fought for them and didn't give up easily like a coward!

Kobojunkie:
Stop ranting. You can equally file for full-custody of your children in court, too. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

The law allows anyone to file for full-custody of the children in a divorce case. During the proceedings, both may decide to negotiate and settle for shared custody instead. Stop making unnecessary noise for zero-value attention. If your case is in court, you are best to be on your best behavior and maybe leave social media until after the case is done.

It's insensitivity and wickedness to file for full custody and the "only" decision maker in the lives of children you both had together; albeit him going to the court for counter charges.
She's purely "intentionally".

These abroad people should stop disturbing us with their problems, no be me send una go Canada

ogaontop:
➜It's insensitivity and wickedness to file for full custody and the "only" decision maker in the lives of children you both had together; albeit him going to the court for counter charges. She's purely "intentionally".

BULLSHEET!

Me thinks Bro was a cheater and this is the end result. 99% of women/females won't put the father of their children through this type financial punishment without sound reason. More for their kid/s and less to spend on his side chick/s.

That's how Igbo families do. This is exactly their lifestyle from the wife's side. I can't marry here and take my wife abroad lie lie

Another thought, God forbid he abandon his paternal responsibilities, return to 9ja and leave them to fend for themselves abroad like Reeeno and Sooowore.

Kobojunkie:
Stop ranting. You can equally file for full-custody of your children in court, too. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

The law allows anyone to file for full-custody of the children in a divorce case. During the proceedings, both may decide to negotiate and settle for shared custody instead. Stop making unnecessary noise for zero-value attention. If your case is in court, you are best to be on your best behavior and maybe leave social media until after the case is done.

The guy should be happy now...isn't he aware it is a lot of work raising children?

I don't think a guy can handle raising kids - 2 weeks with the kids, his girlfriend will move in and 1 year later, girlfriend will born another child

armyofone:
➜The guy should be happy now...doesn't he knows it is a lot of work raising 3 children? I don't think a guy can handle raising 3 kids - 2 weeks with the kids, his girlfriend will move on and 1 year later, girlfriend will born another child

A good father can raise his children the same way a good mother can. The problem however, is that way too many women keep having kids with men who are terrible fathers. I am surrounded here by men who are examples of good fathers, so I have no mercy for terrible fathers.

Namaster:
People FRET too much over legal matters.
They get a message from a lawyer and they PANIC.

This is a just a LETTER. It does NOT mean anything.

ANYBODY can demand ANYTHING from ANYBODY in a letter or even a lawsuit.

Doesn't mean they'll get it.

The man NEEDS to get himself a lawyer. And STOP posting of social media.

Without evidence of abuse or abandonment, T legal and physical custody is more likely.

Andtheir finances will determine the child arrangements.

ONLY thing that is guaranteed is she'll definitely take half HIS properties and investments. But he's also going to be able to take half of HER own properties and investments. However little they may be.

FINALLY, men need to stop acting like FOOLS!

You got married in Nigeria, DON'T divorce her abroad.

That's what DETTY DECEMBER is for.

"Yes Honey, your Christmas gift is at Ikeja High Court".

You have to be STRATEGIC about these things.

Ban spotted 🤣😂😅, you last two sentences. I don't buy the idea of having properties abroad, this women can be stupid.

Kobojunkie:
The previous were the scams. What you see today is reality finally setting in to help correct the cruelty of the past.

So.your parents marriage was scam?

Kids of these days sha

Why is he not ing his own lawyers too? The woman can ask her lawyers to petition her desires, he also has a right to request the same thing. He should to use a good law firm and not some pro bono service.

instead of getting a lawyer the silly man is looking for sympathy in the court of nigerian public opinion.

the woman has already lawyered up. the man better get a lawyer and the nastier the better. all this rubbish the man is posting online can also be used against him - stalking, mental health, etc.

get a lawyer who understands the game. ensure all your documentation is correct. hopefully, the man has not been like your typicaly nigerian male who outsources the entire rearing of the children and running of the house to the mother - which would make a solid case for the wife.

Judolisco:
Sorry but shey una no get elders 4 una family?

God bless you for this comment.

This is one of the major reasons I hate govt certified marriage.
As a man, you'll have to be in mess in marriage to avoid legal actions by your wife because it will always favour her.

QVicky10:
All this endless ranting, as if he’s blameless, when he’s the one who chose to abandon the marriage.
Did he stop for a moment to think about the pain he’d cause his children, about how his leaving tears their world apart? Now he’s upset, that she’s asking for child —how else was she supposed to provide for their children?
It’s heartbreaking, the way he turns his back and then complains when life demands responsibility.
Additionally, he has the option to pursue t custody if he wishes to spend more time with his children.

Kobojunkie:
BULLSHEET!

You too, sheets!!

mrdharkchild:
Before you start blaming the woman, I reading the part where he said he decided to walk out of the marriage.

Isn't it better to walk away if things are not working out? Would you prefer he stays in a toxic marriage that could lead to violence? Walking away from a marriage doesn't mean walking away from your children.

QVicky10:
All this endless ranting, as if he’s blameless, when he’s the one who chose to abandon the marriage.
Did he stop for a moment to think about the pain he’d cause his children, about how his leaving tears their world apart? Now he’s upset, that she’s asking for child —how else was she supposed to provide for their children?
It’s heartbreaking, the way he turns his back and then complains when life demands responsibility.
Additionally, he has the option to pursue t custody if he wishes to spend more time with his children.

For a woman, runaway before they kill you. Your happiness matters.
For a man, stay and die, after all your kids and wife will feel bad when you abandon the marriage. Hypocrisy at it's peak; very shameful the way some of you lots reason.
Did you read where he said he's been paying child for quite sometime?
His problem is the wickedness of trying to be the "sole decision maker" of the children they had together, an "intentional" wickedness!!.
Unmarried guys should be very scared of Nigerian women!!

*Canada-based Nigerian....*

bro learnt the hard way .

pacino26:
I saw the post on Facebook. I think women are same worldwide and the only reason the ones in Nigeria appear normal is because of extant laws; traditional & secular. The day we in Africa get to that point where women think they are in FREE in feminist , expect men to start dropping like flies. Gradually the boy child is becoming an endangered sex.

Our Nigerian women so exploited the loopholes in the UK system that even the police started to advice them against reporting their husbands.

The lady is a Nigerian not white woman. An Igbo lady for that matter.

This is not to throw a snide but Igbo women are bad for marriage said one Igbo guy. He always say it all the time. He is an Igbo.

Igbo ladies should do better. 90% of this type of issues arising from Nigerians based in diaspora are mostly Igbo women. They are always known for this types of news. Chasing their men from their homes.

It's well!

Validated:
she can refuse that as both of them are not resident in nigeria and the marriage must have been ed in there current place of resident. There was no prenup contract that sated that divorce would be adjudicated in nigeria and under nigeria laws and even there was such contract that would be up to the judge to accept it or discard it and if the girls lawyers says she was not in the right frame of mind when she signed it or the outcomes would unduly be a disvantange to her or they are both resident in the country. since both have been leaving together even if they are not legally married the court would treath them like they were married

Do you know why he had to walk out of the marriage

I might not him 100% (cos I don't know why le walked away) but I will him 95% cos we are on the same road

mrdharkchild:
Before you start blaming the woman, I reading the part where he said he decided to walk out of the marriage.