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Hello guys, good afternoon and happy Eid-ul-fitri to the Muslims faithful, I need an advice from this great family.
I have changed the names of the people involved for some reasons, I(Tunde) served in Lagos with my now ex-girlfriend(kemi), kemi was a primary school teacher close to her house, I kept motivating her to be better by sending jobs links to her, planning on interview questions and otherwise.
Grace smiled on kemi she got a job at the airport, buh another hurdle, she needed guarantors that were not her family, because of love then and someone I wanted to settle down with I became her guarantor and a friend of mine.
I fell very ill and reached out to kemi to help me with some funds that I was at the pharmacy and my bank app wasn't responding, she told me to reach out to my family that she didn't have enough on her.
I felt very bad for my girlfriend to say such, I didn't tell her that I had bought the drugs and she never did ask, we quarreled and broke up, after the split sometimes I would reach out to her to check up on her buh she would be very harsh to me over the phone. She said I should stop communicating with her.
Fast forward she reached out to me asking over my whereabouts, I was shocked buh calm, then after a while she told me that her office asked her to bring the id cards of her two guarantors ( me& my friend) .
For someone who ghosted me for weeks to just show up and ask for a favour with any remorse, it baffles me.

Tell her to send you some funds to run around and get your friends ID, immediately you get the alert, block her stupid ass.

And u we help her out... Bro tell her not to worry you again

DON'T be baffled.
What you have seen is merely a NORMAL level of female ENTITLEMENT.

They think they don't need to EARN anything.
Because they already DESERVE everything.

That's how they are wired.
That's why you'll see a 37-year old hairdresser who calls herself a QUEEN. And genuinely believes in her heart that she's a queen.

It's the ENTITLEMENT.
And the ENDORSEMENT of that entitlement by men with ZERO self-respect.

For instance, why in the world would you STILL speak to a woman who practically told you to DIE rather than lend you money.

Only a debilitating LACK of self-respect will allow you to talk to a woman who RUDELY told you to STOP communicating with her.

The moment she UTTERED that madness, she should have been DEAD to you.

To this lady, you are NOT different from a SCREWDRIVER—only comes to mind when something needs to be fixed.

You FIXED her shitty life and took her from a DEAD-END job in a Primary School to a GREAT job in an airport.

Your reward?
You got DUMPED and DISCARDED!

Now that she's either in trouble or in line for a promotion at work, she reached out to YOU for help.

And your heart is TROUBLED.

Your ONLY recourse:

SILENCE!

DON'T reply with anything. Don't mock her. Don't act hurt about her betrayal.

She GHOSTED you. Treat her like a GHOST.

BLOCK her!

Block HER FRIENDS when she inevitably tries to use them to get to you.

Block YOUR FRIENDS if they try to intercede for her.

Block ANYBODY that tries to advocate for her.

And if anybody tries to tell you to "be the bigger person", CURSE their entire lineage.

Finally, she's NOT "an ungrateful female FRIEND".
She's your malicious, DEVIL-DOPPELGANGER EX-girlfriend.

Use the RIGHT words.

Jamal77:
Hello guys, good afternoon and happy Eid-ul-fitri to the Muslims faithful, I need an advice from this great family.
I have changed the names of the people involved for some reasons, I(Tunde) served in Lagos with my now ex-girlfriend(kemi), kemi was a primary school teacher close to her house, I kept motivating her to be better by sending jobs links to her, planning on interview questions and otherwise.
Grace smiled on kemi she got a job at the airport, buh another hurdle, she needed guarantors that were not her family, because of love then and someone I wanted to settle down with I became her guarantor and a friend of mine.
I fell very ill and reached out to kemi to help me with some funds that I was at the pharmacy and my bank app wasn't responding, she told me to reach out to my family that she didn't have enough on her.
I felt very bad for my girlfriend to say such, I didn't tell her that I had bought the drugs and she never did ask, we quarreled and broke up, after the split sometimes I would reach out to her to check up on her buh she would be very harsh to me over the phone. She said I should stop communicating with her.
Fast forward she reached out to me asking over my whereabouts, I was shocked buh calm, then after a while she told me that her office asked her to bring the id cards of her two guarantors ( me& my friend) .
For someone who ghosted me for weeks to just show up and ask for a favour with any remorse, it baffles me.

Jamal, do I really need to tell you what to do? And you call yourself a grown-up man. This is a no-brainer!!!!!

Make sure you don't give her the ID cards and quickly call your friend to do the same. No Mr nice guy here oooo. You guys are no longer friends nor in talking . In summary don't fall our hands

It will be so disappointing if you give her your id card.

Number 1 rule for men: never in any condition sacrifice your dreams and ambitions on the altar of love because of any woman.

Because once a woman senses that her level is now above yours, she will treat you with contempt and dislike.

And that's what the OP experienced at the hands of his ex-girlfriend.

The issue here is tricky, as the solution or the next move forward will be a slippery one.

The major thing you need to do is not to withhold the ID card but to inform her that you are no longer interested in being her guarantor. Follow the case legally and logically.

This is not the time to rescind or become impulsive because of the maltreatment you suffered at her hands.

The best thing to do now is to make sure you clear your name from being her guarantor. Withholding your ID card is not enough. Go further and clear your name completely from all her books.

A good example of the idiom - "the ball is in your court".

Stupid and wicked people need to be served with the same cup they used for others. Ungrateful idiots.

Thanks.

Be a gentleman, give her and move on.

That's easy! Respect her request and leave her on read! Stop ing her, and LEAVE HER ALONE! It's not brain science duh!

Jamal77:
Hello guys, good afternoon and happy Eid-ul-fitri to the Muslims faithful, I need an advice from this great family.
I have changed the names of the people involved for some reasons, I(Tunde) served in Lagos with my now ex-girlfriend(kemi), kemi was a primary school teacher close to her house.....

Ghost her too. The earlier you get that experience that majority of women are ruthless, the better for you.

I reached out to a female friend about little loan to help me get transport back to home. She ghosted me from 6am till 2pm. I ended up trekking over 1km back to home (Thank God for good health and strength).

I picked my L in peace and move on.

NB: This is someone I have helped alot in my own little way when help was needed by her.

DAramis:

Ghost her too. The earlier you get that experience that women are ruthless, the better for you.

I reached out to a female friend about little loan to help me get transport back to home. She ghosted me from 6am till 2pm. I ended up trekking over 1km back to home (Thank God for good health and strength).

I picked my L in peace and move on.

NB: This is someone I have helped alot in my own little way when help was needed by her.

1km is far for you? I walk 16km just for exercise daily! But then again I don't live in the desert so I guess it's the heat that hurts more than the milage.

Double0h7:


1km is far for you? I walk 16km just for exercise daily! But then again I don't live in the desert so I guess it's the heat that hurts more than the milage.

It was under a terrible cold. You will never know how painful it feels to experience such. This is someone that always ask me to reach out should I be stranded rather than keeping it to myself or not talking about my challenges.

When I finally did, and honestly needed it most, she ghosted me. The money is nothing as I am capable of doubling it and paying her off later as my request to her was for a loan.

Judd007:
Be a gentleman, give her and move on.

Make ogun visit you this night

DAramis:


It was under a terrible cold. You will never know how painful it feels to experience such. This is someone that always ask me to reach out should I be stranded rather than keeping it to myself or not talking about my challenges.

When I finally did, and honestly needed it most, she ghosted me. The money is nothing as I am capable of doubling it and paying her off later as my request to her was for a loan.

Oh I understood that she ain't shi! I was just caught up with the distance you walked.

Namaster:
DON'T be baffled.
What you have seen is merely a NORMAL level of female ENTITLEMENT.

They think they don't need to EARN anything.
Because they already DESERVE everything.

That's how they are wired.
That's why you'll see a 37-year old hairdresser who calls herself a QUEEN. And genuinely believes in her heart that she's a queen.

It's the ENTITLEMENT.
And the ENDORSEMENT of that entitlement by men with ZERO self-respect.

For instance, why in the world would you STILL speak to a woman who practically told you to DIE rather than lend you money.

Only a debilitating LACK of self-respect will allow you to talk to a woman who RUDELY told you to STOP communicating with her.

The moment she UTTERED that madness, she should have been DEAD to you.

To this lady, you are NOT different from a SCREWDRIVER—only comes to mind when something needs to be fixed.

You FIXED her shitty life and took her from a DEAD-END job in a Primary School to a GREAT job in an airport.

Your reward?
You got DUMPED and DISCARDED!

Now that she's either in trouble or in line for a promotion at work, she reached out to YOU for help.

And your heart is TROUBLED.

Your ONLY recourse:

SILENCE!

DON'T reply with anything. Don't mock her. Don't act hurt about her betrayal.

She GHOSTED you. Treat her like a GHOST.

BLOCK her!

Block HER FRIENDS when she inevitably tries to use them to get to you.

Block YOUR FRIENDS if they try to intercede for her.

Block ANYBODY that tries to advocate for her.

And if anybody tries to tell you to "be the bigger person", CURSE their entire lineage.

Finally, she's NOT "an ungrateful female FRIEND".
She's your malicious, DEVIL-DOPPELGANGER EX-girlfriend.

Use the RIGHT words.

God bless you my brother... I destest guys with zero self respect.. See the punk still asking what he should do

Ignore her. Don't even say a word. If she keeps calling, block her line.

Namaster:
DON'T be baffled.
What you have seen is merely a NORMAL level of female ENTITLEMENT.

They think they don't need to EARN anything.
Because they already DESERVE everything.

That's how they are wired.
That's why you'll see a 37-year old hairdresser who calls herself a QUEEN. And genuinely believes in her heart that she's a queen.

It's the ENTITLEMENT.
And the ENDORSEMENT of that entitlement by men with ZERO self-respect.

For instance, why in the world would you STILL speak to a woman who practically told you to DIE rather than lend you money.

Only a debilitating LACK of self-respect will allow you to talk to a woman who RUDELY told you to STOP communicating with her.

The moment she UTTERED that madness, she should have been DEAD to you.

To this lady, you are NOT different from a SCREWDRIVER—only comes to mind when something needs to be fixed.

You FIXED her shitty life and took her from a DEAD-END job in a Primary School to a GREAT job in an airport.

Your reward?
You got DUMPED and DISCARDED!

Now that she's either in trouble or in line for a promotion at work, she reached out to YOU for help.

And your heart is TROUBLED.

Your ONLY recourse:

SILENCE!

DON'T reply with anything. Don't mock her. Don't act hurt about her betrayal.

She GHOSTED you. Treat her like a GHOST.

BLOCK her!

Block HER FRIENDS when she inevitably tries to use them to get to you.

Block YOUR FRIENDS if they try to intercede for her.

Block ANYBODY that tries to advocate for her.

And if anybody tries to tell you to "be the bigger person", CURSE their entire lineage.

Finally, she's NOT "an ungrateful female FRIEND".
She's your malicious, DEVIL-DOPPELGANGER EX-girlfriend.

Use the RIGHT words.

Seconded. If you know what being a guarantor means you ask to correct your first mistake.

Jamal77:
Hello guys, good afternoon and happy Eid-ul-fitri to the Muslims faithful, I need an advice from this great family.
I have changed the names of the people involved for some reasons, I(Tunde) served in Lagos with my now ex-girlfriend(kemi), kemi was a primary school teacher close to her house, I kept motivating her to be better by sending jobs links to her, planning on interview questions and otherwise.
Grace smiled on kemi she got a job at the airport, buh another hurdle, she needed guarantors that were not her family, because of love then and someone I wanted to settle down with I became her guarantor and a friend of mine.
I fell very ill and reached out to kemi to help me with some funds that I was at the pharmacy and my bank app wasn't responding, she told me to reach out to my family that she didn't have enough on her.
I felt very bad for my girlfriend to say such, I didn't tell her that I had bought the drugs and she never did ask, we quarreled and broke up, after the split sometimes I would reach out to her to check up on her buh she would be very harsh to me over the phone. She said I should stop communicating with her.
Fast forward she reached out to me asking over my whereabouts, I was shocked buh calm, then after a while she told me that her office asked her to bring the id cards of her two guarantors ( me& my friend) .
For someone who ghosted me for weeks to just show up and ask for a favour with any remorse, it baffles me.

Exactly what I and another guy was discussing after church service today. See 95% of ladies are out to use U to climb they no send ur papa. U are lucky God exposed her and she showed her true colours believing she will never need U again but then the twist and she's back to acting nice. If U are a bastard help her and give her what she needs but if Ur brain is fully functional ghost that biitccch forever let her sort herself out. Do this without mercy. If U fuckup thinking U stand a chance with her again because she's acting nice towards U so as to use U then U deserve all the pains in the world. Use Ur sense. She thought she was done with Ur dumb ass and now she's the dumb one. If U like go fuckup na thunder go slap U. Show no mercy!

guarantor means liability and trouble so why would you guarantee someone who has guaranteed that she is your enemy?

No be trouble you dey find?

Make Fela give you sense small!

"When trouble sleep rat go bite him tail oo abeg wetin e dey find?

Wahala e dey find

Wahala e go get eee ooooo

Payback time
Tell her to give u money n if she does block her
Or tell her it’s payback time then block her
Don’t be a fool to help her again.

Reminds me of the thread of the guy that got job for a girl in Lagos only for the girl to use and blocked him. Despite all the warning and advice here the guy still went ahead and gave the girl the job address thinking he could still smash.

I won't be surprised if OP has already scanned his ID card and sent to the girl sef... Mr. Nice guy

This is not new or surprising. You were discarded when your usefulness expired.

Now, she needs to borrow your usefulness again and discard you later again.

Female nature. It is always business for them.

Tell her to call her family too na. Two can play the game.

Bcus you got a job for her does not mean you should be expecting something in return. Anyway good luck to you

Jamal77:
Hello guys, good afternoon and happy Eid-ul-fitri to the Muslims faithful, I need an advice from this great family.
I have changed the names of the people involved for some reasons, I(Tunde) served in Lagos with my now ex-girlfriend(kemi), kemi was a primary school teacher close to her house, I kept motivating her to be better by sending jobs links to her, planning on interview questions and otherwise.
Grace smiled on kemi she got a job at the airport, buh another hurdle, she needed guarantors that were not her family, because of love then and someone I wanted to settle down with I became her guarantor and a friend of mine.
I fell very ill and reached out to kemi to help me with some funds that I was at the pharmacy and my bank app wasn't responding, she told me to reach out to my family that she didn't have enough on her.
I felt very bad for my girlfriend to say such, I didn't tell her that I had bought the drugs and she never did ask, we quarreled and broke up, after the split sometimes I would reach out to her to check up on her buh she would be very harsh to me over the phone. She said I should stop communicating with her.
Fast forward she reached out to me asking over my whereabouts, I was shocked buh calm, then after a while she told me that her office asked her to bring the id cards of her two guarantors ( me& my friend) .
For someone who ghosted me for weeks to just show up and ask for a favour with any remorse, it baffles me.

You fit help me
I go be grateful

He will still give her his ID card and that of his friend, the reason why we are reading this here. Otherwise, he knows the right thing to do.

Jamal77:
she told me that her office asked her to bring the id cards of her two guarantors ( me& my friend) .

We already know that you will give her the ID card so just do it and stop disturbing us with all this love story. You wey go even follow her go her office to fill form and put fingerprint.

Jamal77:
Hello guys, good afternoon and happy Eid-ul-fitri to the Muslims faithful, I need an advice from this great family.
I have changed the names of the people involved for some reasons, I(Tunde) served in Lagos with my now ex-girlfriend(kemi), kemi was a primary school teacher close to her house, I kept motivating her to be better by sending jobs links to her, planning on interview questions and otherwise.
Grace smiled on kemi she got a job at the airport, buh another hurdle, she needed guarantors that were not her family, because of love then and someone I wanted to settle down with I became her guarantor and a friend of mine.
I fell very ill and reached out to kemi to help me with some funds that I was at the pharmacy and my bank app wasn't responding, she told me to reach out to my family that she didn't have enough on her.
I felt very bad for my girlfriend to say such, I didn't tell her that I had bought the drugs and she never did ask, we quarreled and broke up, after the split sometimes I would reach out to her to check up on her buh she would be very harsh to me over the phone. She said I should stop communicating with her.
Fast forward she reached out to me asking over my whereabouts, I was shocked buh calm, then after a while she told me that her office asked her to bring the id cards of her two guarantors ( me& my friend) .
For someone who ghosted me for weeks to just show up and ask for a favour with any remorse, it baffles me.

As you have nothing to do with her anymore just ask her how much is she willing to pay or you bill her 3-5 months salary . Or if you haven’t knack her this is your opportunity

This your story no really clear.

I know as some point in life, even the reach becomes broke but it's just for a moment. Maybe she wasn't having it at that point but telling you to ask your family is too extreme.
Someone, who already told you to should stop communication with her but your emotions won't let you. With all these advice, I'm certain from the way you sound that you'll likely give her what she's asking for.
Ride on brother, na people like you dy make women to disrespect men.
But you'll learn the hard way.

God punish you, for talking to her. Stupid SIMP

Your papa, your mama and your entire generation naim Ogun go visit this morning, Ogun will be your steady visitor till you and your entire family die, you shall never know peace , frustration go kill all una.

Make ogun visit you this night[/quote]

AllBlack:


We already know that you will give her the ID card so just do it and stop disturbing us with all this love story. You wey go even follow her go her office to fill form and put fingerprint.