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A bride’s father stirred controversy at a wedding by telling the groom, “YOUR WIFE MUST NOT COOK FOR YOU.” His remark immediately ignited heated discussions both at the event and on social media.

Many critics argued that such a statement undermines traditional marriage roles, with some insisting that it weakens the groom’s authority and disrupts household harmony. “The foundation of marriage should be based on mutual roles, and cooking has always been a part of a wife's duty,” one person commented. Others expressed concerns that this could lead to a power imbalance, making the groom feel less in control in his own home.

On the other hand, some defended the father’s perspective, emphasizing that modern marriages are about mutual understanding rather than rigid roles. “The husband and wife should determine what works for them,” a er remarked, arguing that every marriage is unique. Others suggested that when a woman isn’t pressured to cook, she may actually enjoy doing it more willingly. “If a man doesn’t impose expectations, she’ll likely cook for him out of love and not obligation.”


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Holly Gram Nothing way una one tell me!

Na the man SPONSOR that wedding from start to finish

See as the groom kip face like "because say i no get money na why u de fall my hands for public Kai "

LITE UP my WEED in peace

WTF MAN!

I don't have problems if the Bride's father told me all these before marriage, it's his and conditions in marrying his beloved daughter, so it's left for me to sign it (of which I wouldn't even dare to request for a pen not to talk of g it). But if it's during or after the marriage he is saying this one, I go tell am say, E don , you don already hand am over to me, and as the Head and authority in this new family, it's based on what I want her to do for us and not want you're expecting her to do for us.

Besides, mutual roles is about expectations and not just emotional feelings, those feelings gradually dwindle (but may not eventually die out) but the expectations would always be required of you. Either as a man or woman, if you're not ready to fulfill you own roles that is expected of you in marriage, abeg, just wait and work on yourself before entering the marriage covenant.

Some things are better left unsaid.


The bride's father is a foolish man.

Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances, if she's unable or unavailable to cook then arrange your own food. Heaven won't fall!

That shows the kind of wife you are

How can a father be this foolish?

9ja girls are always the worst thing to marry. Marrying any of them, is the greatest disservice you can ever do to yourself.

NOT an issue as long as the father of the bride is ready to cook the daily meals in a LACY G-string.

Big man daughter... Maybe the groom is a nobody. Run ooo. Na househusband you be

Naija men don dey too accept alot of nonsense from their wives and family

Make any bastard so-called father-in-law talk this kain nonsense to me & i go leave im daughter for am make e marry

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances, if she's unable or unavailable to cook then arrange your own food. Heaven won't fall!

No wonder. We now know you better.

..........And if another woman cook for me and the food touch me in the right spot, Na there I die put o

This kind FIL fit even tell his daughter to Sex starve me...........Sayin "Your wife must not open leg for you all the time"

Endtime and GenZ father inlaws

Wen u hv spoilt brat ur kid ,tell us ur daughter can cook, this wat happen wen u marry from rich family without moral standards,oga u don hear am

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MARRIAGE has an INVENTOR. And the INVENTOR has laid down principles HE has given to all Humanity

Wife Submit to your Husband in ALL THINGS

HUSBAND Love your Wife even as CHRIST Loved the Church.


This is order of the OWNER, CREATOR and INVENTOR of the Marriage institution.

As a young man who's willing and praying to find a responsible wife in this era where stupidity is thriving among our women,you should also endeavor to pray and fast vehemently not to end up having a capital letter WEREY as a father in-law

The way l see the messages goes a very long way to me and if the man should really love himself he should be careful when eating the food the woman prepares for him most especially when both partners have arguments or fight

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

But this is an open secret. Many Fathers cook in their homes and keep schtum about it.

He is just letting the groom into the secret so that he will not be surprised.

There are 2 types of marriages: Traditional and Modern.

In a modern marriage, Financial obligations are shared 50/50 or a ratio in proportion to salary. Chores are shared equally too. That way everyone gets some leisure time because I m a human being like you. I want to press my phone ,drink wine and watch trash TV.

Just marry your type. Not being traditional in chores and modern in bill paying like hypocritical Nigerian men

Maybe this man married or credit or the bride's father na old money, otherwise I would have ended that union that day In front of everyone

If you do t want your daughter to cook for her husband then keep her at home with you and not marry her off.


Would the man say his wife or wives never cooked for him all his wife, so what nonsense is he saying?

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

Nigerian women expect to have lavish and expensive weddings with just 5k in their opay.

Cooking to me is not a gender thing because as a young Nigerian man, I cook most of my food and take care of my surroundings, but if as a wife and mother you can't cook and manage the home, there is a problem

Sensible wives these days cook meal in large proportion and store in there freezer, however if you work and earn and refuse to contribute to the upkeep of the home, no matter how little, then you don't have any business being in that marriage.

It's the responsibility of the man to provide and protect while the wife nurture, manage and care, in this modern age, many men can do absolutely what women were initially expected to do as wife's and mothers, except to carry bele, so once again if you cant contribute to your own household, go back and stay single please

That's how my uncle with yeye principle, his in-law started snubbing and confronting him

I can't take trash from nonsense inlaw

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

If we embrace 50/50 in all aspects of marriage, you online noise makers will run with your tails between your legs. To begin with, 50/50 doesn't start after marriage—it should start from day one. I come to your place to get a list, and we split the bill 50/50, or you go to mine and get your list. Your sisters will stop planning their dream weddings with a ₦100k bank .

Once we're done with the marriage and she moves into my house, she will start paying rent based on the value of the house. We’ll also split every other responsibility 50/50—down to who turns on the generator and fixes the lights. And if we're unlucky enough to have criminals break in, both of us will be walking side by side to open that door.

If the government and police fail, and men on the street have to keep watch, you all are coming out too. Now, on having kids, we will take turns—I’ll get you pregnant, and then it’s your turn to get me pregnant. If you fail within two years, then it’s my turn again.

Do you really think cooking and cleaning are problems for men today? How much is a washing machine? You're here ing a foolish man just because your son isn’t the groom. Nonsense.

Men shouldered responsibilities for years, no problem but the moment some of you started bringing nonsense N30 , we will not hear words again.

A rich man will train his daughter so expensively to the fullest then one Yeye man will retire her to the kitchen.

If the groom isn’t comfortable with what the bride’s father then he should call it off. It’s as simple as ABC

It’s not by force

Majority of the guys here didn't read what he said

The man made lot of sense.

It is not an obligation for your wife to cook for you, when you make it an obligation, then it brings lot of stress.

The woman should cook out of love and respect for you not out of obligation

Mikespecialone:


That shows the kind of wife you are

Is that all you took from her comment? If you want to be assisted with the BILLS. Assist with the COOKING.

Poor people in Nigeria don't get it. Rich people hardly cook.
Don't be suprised to find out that DJ Cuppy can't cook. They have assistants that do everything for them.

There's no problem here, the father-in-law had seen the son-in-law and his family like that before he said.

If he knows the son-in-law knows his onions he wouldn't have said it.

were

SMH

Ah

Na dem dem...simps ...creating simps in society..... its not also a must to provide and protect ur wife too... that's all tradition