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So I am dating this lady and we intend getting married in January unfortunately there is this terrible signs I noticed.
Anytime there is any little misunderstanding she comes our ranting, "Let me know if this is not going to work so we scatter every thing". So I always ask a simple conversation that matured adults can seat down and resolve you end up shouting on me and telling me let scatter every thing. 99 percent of times I hear that statement, I always tell her that this is not a forced relationship or marriage. If you think you are not ok with this marriage. Kindly let me know and work away. Yesterday she came home arround 9pm which is far from close time. So I asked her when do you close in a polite way. This simple question ended up in me recieving alot of insults, shouting and let us scatter every thing, I am tired. You dont have time for me bla bla bla bla. This is someone that I am always indoor working from home 2 4 7. I run multiple jobs to ensure that I can provide and create a 5 year plan for the marriage. I explain everything to her as I make progress. Infact I am the one responsible for all her bills. I carry 100 percent financial responsibility. Honest I am just thinking.......

The fact that you came online to seek for public validation shows you're not a man. I will be the last person on earth to seek public approval over a personal issue. Even if I want to, then I will take it to a more mature/experienced person, not dropping it on a faceless forum. But since you don bring the matter, make I give my input.
From the look of things eeh, your babe be like who get anger issues. But why live with a woman wey you never marry? But like they will always say "hear from both sides if you ever want to be a good judge".
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nation wide with the good news

Oga if you no meet your wife as a virgin, oga go for DNA test oooooooo because non-virgins aka boreholes can't be trusted atall atall

Bitter truth is that any banny who's always fond of saying that to her supposed man has got a very reliable back-up plan elsewhere.........I know this may be a bitter pill for you to swallow but it is what it is.....

E come be like say you wan force another man serious GF marry for January 😂


God abeg oh 😊

Nigerians and their English... Go ahead and scatter everything...🤣🤣🤣🤣

Your post really made my morning...🤣🤣🤣

And have a good day...🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

Samantha125:
Nigerians and their English... Go ahead and scatter everything...🤣🤣🤣🤣

Your post really made my morning...🤣🤣🤣

And have a good day...🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

. We don't expect you to understand our English ma'am . It's either you take it the way it is or you fvck off from our Nigerian forum so that we, Nigerians who understands our "thingy" can feast on it

Some mothers do have them...
You too ask yourself if your Dad will be proud of the way you are acting

@ Lalami3232 hey man. I dont do public view honestly. I take decisions on my own. If you read my post. I always make it clear to her. This marriage thing is not by force. I have given her an open slate to take a decision. But the occurence is becoming too much. Any small argument. Let scatter everything. That got me wondering myself.

Noted...🤣🤣🤣

Sonnobax15:
. We don't expect you to understand our English ma'am . It's either you take it the way it is or you fvck off from our Nigerian forum so that we, Nigerians who understands our "thingy" can feast on it

These days relationship is just like going for warfront.

You just want to waste you money on marriage ceremony. She is not going to change in the marriage,why wasting time and money knowing your separation is certain

Marry her since you don't know what to do...

i dont knw if u have paid for the traditional marriage or not. If you have paid for it is a serious issue and if you have not it can still be remedied. I will advise u shift the wedding date further. Tell r u are having financial challenges and you need to handle certain issues. Use this period to be objective and ask urself if she is worth it or not. If she is worth it then continue if she is not quit. Secondly during this period discuss on how she will get a job or trade so as to you. If she decline to this, just dont break but also start looking for some one else

skliz:
So I am dating this lady and we intend getting married in January unfortunately there is this terrible signs I noticed.
Anytime there is any little misunderstanding she comes our ranting, "Let me know if this is not going to work so we scatter every thing". So I always ask a simple conversation that matured adults can seat down and resolve you end up shouting on me and telling me let scatter every thing. 99 percent of times I hear that statement, I always tell her that this is not a forced relationship or marriage. If you think you are not ok with this marriage. Kindly let me know and work away. Yesterday she came home arround 9pm which is far from close time. So I asked her when do you close in a polite way. This simple question ended up in me recieving alot of insults, shouting and let us scatter every thing, I am tired. You dont have time for me bla bla bla bla. This is someone that I am always indoor working from home 2 4 7. I run multiple jobs to ensure that I can provide and create a 5 year plan for the marriage. I explain everything to her as I make progress. Infact I am the one responsible for all her bills. I carry 100 percent financial responsibility. Honest I am just thinking.......

There is something called ability in courtship,which I believe is the stage where you are right now. If both of you live in the same house and she can't call you or message you that she will be coming late and rather comes home by 9 and start ranting then that's a serious red flag 🚩. Secondly it's very wrong to foot all her bills even if you can you shouldn't, at least not yet till she is your wife. He who sacrifices the most is the one with lesser power in the relationship, so you have indirectly given her all the power hence her ranting. If you choose to call off the wedding it's up to you but the only advice I will give you is shift the wedding till next year December. Study her more

skliz:
So I am dating this lady and we intend getting married in January unfortunately there is this terrible signs I noticed.
Anytime there is any little misunderstanding she comes our ranting, "Let me know if this is not going to work so we scatter every thing". So I always ask a simple conversation that matured adults can seat down and resolve you end up shouting on me and telling me let scatter every thing. 99 percent of times I hear that statement, I always tell her that this is not a forced relationship or marriage. If you think you are not ok with this marriage. Kindly let me know and work away. Yesterday she came home arround 9pm which is far from close time. So I asked her when do you close in a polite way. This simple question ended up in me recieving alot of insults, shouting and let us scatter every thing, I am tired. You dont have time for me bla bla bla bla. This is someone that I am always indoor working from home 2 4 7. I run multiple jobs to ensure that I can provide and create a 5 year plan for the marriage. I explain everything to her as I make progress. Infact I am the one responsible for all her bills. I carry 100 percent financial responsibility. Honest I am just thinking.......

You're still just thinking? Okay

skliz:
So I am dating this lady and we intend getting married in January unfortunately there is this terrible signs I noticed.
Anytime there is any little misunderstanding she comes our ranting, "Let me know if this is not going to work so we scatter every thing". So I always ask a simple conversation that matured adults can seat down and resolve you end up shouting on me and telling me let scatter every thing. 99 percent of times I hear that statement, I always tell her that this is not a forced relationship or marriage. If you think you are not ok with this marriage. Kindly let me know and work away. Yesterday she came home arround 9pm which is far from close time. So I asked her when do you close in a polite way. This simple question ended up in me recieving alot of insults, shouting and let us scatter every thing, I am tired. You dont have time for me bla bla bla bla. This is someone that I am always indoor working from home 2 4 7. I run multiple jobs to ensure that I can provide and create a 5 year plan for the marriage. I explain everything to her as I make progress. Infact I am the one responsible for all her bills. I carry 100 percent financial responsibility. Honest I am just thinking.......

Jesus ..


How do you guys do it ..

Take care of the whole freaking bill ...


I don't care how rich I am or I'm gonna get ..

I'm not doing a 100% on that bill ..

Now she has taken you for granted and the whole shiit is about to fail ...


Gaddemm!!!
😕

Been indecisive in key moments like Darwin Nunez or Timo Werner is one very bad trait

I'm surprised to know that you're still very much confused at this stage

You're worse than those two I mentioned up there

Firstly, respect is key in any union..a woman that's open to scattering everything you've built over little inconveniences has no respect for the union..


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But again,what do I know than to sell herbs oooo...

Na half advice I give abi,na so I dey do boss


I sell herbs

I don't know why men are fond of making this crucial mistake. They apply "logic" in most facets of their lives but when it comes to the "selection of life partners","serious relationship" or "marriage" they go emotional and soft. The signs and red flags are already staring you in the face but you are still having cold feet in cutting her off. Trust me, you ain't seen nothing yet. Just make dat mistake and wife her, then you will be burnt alive in the furnace of frustration.

skliz:
So I am dating this lady and we intend getting married in January unfortunately there is this terrible signs I noticed. Infact I am the one responsible for all her bills. I carry 100 percent financial responsibility. Honest I am just thinking.......

Guy, you never marry woman una don dey cohabite.

But seriously, if you guys are not married yet and she is already disrespecting you and shouting at you, I will encourage you use tongue to count your Teeth cos if those things are on level one before Marriage; after Marriage na level 10 ooo.

Well, Sha Love is Blind, na Marriage dey open hin eye.

If you wan talk more, then DM but ready to pay ooo cos I no dey do free Counselling again

Samantha125:
Noted...🤣🤣🤣

We have a way of creating our own English from words...

It's always kinda unique and interesting.

Don't f** off oh!

I Wan find wahala small this morning!

I see say your crusher don follow you come this thread. Seriously?

Interesting!

theophorus:


Guy, you never marry woman una don dey cohabite.

But seriously, if you guys are not married yet and she is already disrespecting you and shouting at you, I will encourage you use tongue to count your Teeth cos if those things are on level one before Marriage; after Marriage na level 10 ooo.

Well, Sha Love is Blind, na Marriage dey open hin eye.

If you wan talk more, then DM but ready to pay ooo cos I no dey do free Counselling again

Having your wife to stay with you has it own advantage too

Not always negative...

Cos if I can't leave with you when we are unmarried....omoo no marriage ooo

You want Sonnobax15 to come back and scatter me finish?🤣🤣🤣... Because that man is fuming and ready to come for my head, so let me behave and respect my host...

At bolded, as for that one, be careful with what you say, because he'll come for your head once again...🤣🤣🤣

Do you want us to be headless by the end of the day?

brain54:

We have a way of creating our own English from words...

It's always kinda unique and interesting.

Don't f** off oh!

I Wan find wahala small this morning!

[b]I see say dem don follow you come this thread. Seriously? :[/b]o

Interesting!

Samantha125:
You want Sonnobax15 to come back and scatter me finish?🤣🤣🤣... Because that man is fuming and ready to come for my head, so let me behave and respect my host...

At bolded, as for that one, be careful with what you say, because he'll come for your head once again...🤣🤣🤣

Do you want us to be headless by the end of the day?

I don't want to be responsible for any headless situations today...

I'll make sure to tread carefully and avoid awakening his mighty wrath.

Let's all just behave, respect our host, and keep our heads firmly attached, deal?

skliz:
So I am dating this lady and we intend getting married in January unfortunately there is this terrible signs I noticed.
Anytime there is any little misunderstanding she comes our ranting, "Let me know if this is not going to work so we scatter every thing". So I always ask a simple conversation that matured adults can seat down and resolve you end up shouting on me and telling me let scatter every thing. 99 percent of times I hear that statement, I always tell her that this is not a forced relationship or marriage. If you think you are not ok with this marriage. Kindly let me know and work away. Yesterday she came home arround 9pm which is far from close time. So I asked her when do you close in a polite way. This simple question ended up in me recieving alot of insults, shouting and let us scatter every thing, I am tired. You dont have time for me bla bla bla bla. This is someone that I am always indoor working from home 2 4 7. I run multiple jobs to ensure that I can provide and create a 5 year plan for the marriage. I explain everything to her as I make progress. Infact I am the one responsible for all her bills. I carry 100 percent financial responsibility. Honest I am just thinking.......

See better run.
Someone that is seeing you as an option.

Is it when u marry u want to scatter it?

Hmmm.

I hope you run
If not 2 years tine na this nairaland u go express ur regret.

Shine your eyes bro, no go fall into pit

Deal, because it's only a matter of time before his troll starts popping up and he will surely come for you...

Right now he's assessing the situation...

brain54:


I don't want to be responsible for any headless situations today...

I'll make sure to tread carefully and avoid awakening his mighty wrath.

Let's all just behave, respect our host, and keep our heads firmly attached, deal?

Samantha125:
Deal, because it's only a matter of time before his troll starts popping up and he will surely come for you...

Right now he's assessing the situation...

Spooky, now I am scared...

Mr lover lover

Starz825:


Having your wife to be stay with you has it own advantage too

Not always negative...

Cos if I can't leave with you when we are unmarried....omoo no marriage ooo

Once two people begin cohabite na regular Sxx be Dat ooo.
And Sxx has a way of mes the mind such that you can't take rational decisions as per the relationship.

E.g: Girl get attitude problems but she dey give you Great Sxx instead make you pursue am the Sxx go dey worry your judgment.
Or
Guy wen be NFA wen still dey beat and take money from girl, instead make the girl leave am she go dey reason all the Sxx styles.

There are things that are suppose to be divided of marriage, if we can get outside marriage, then there is no need for commitment.

skliz:
So I am dating this lady and we intend getting married in January unfortunately there is this terrible signs I noticed.
...

If na true story......She's just trying to claim the leverage in the relationship by making it look like you need her more than she needs you ..hahahahah!! person wey nor dey pay bills....

This behavior ehnnn, is something btw pride and overestimating their value in a man's life..

See ehn..I have always noticed that when a man does everything for a woman when he's not obviously rich, instead of appreciating your kindness...they see it as their right, because in their head... they are doing u a favour by being with you so you are only compensating them for doing so...

Baba....adjust the leverage...when she shouts again..tell her u nor dey do again make she dey go her papa house...her brain go reset. she will realize she needs you... Why una dey fear to para for women wey u dey pay her bills ??