NewStats: 3,261,910 , 8,175,514 topics. Date: Saturday, 31 May 2025 at 12:25 AM i1y32

fawaz050:


So the value of a women is N3.5m. pele o Valuation Specialist

Nope, if you check the lists, its basically consumables, and if the fuccker can not afford to get people entertained during his marriage, he can as well be gay.

I see no reason for poor people to get married. Marriage is not a walk in the park. Cost money to raise a family. So its best for the poor to be gay. This is a factual suggestion not an insult. Poverty of families is the reason we have so many prostitutes.

AlphaStyles:
Person go see you for road now think say u dey among normal people not knowing that your thinking alone is the same with those inside psychiatric hospitals.

Watin bring Yoruba come this matter now?

GO AND CHECK ALL THIS MUMU THREAD, IT IS USUALLY YORUBA MEN.


IN THOSE PARTS DONT THEY GET MARRIED EVERYDAY?



OR MARRIAGE DON STOP BECAUSE OF BRIDE PRICE?



BRIDE PRICE IS WHERE WE SHOW OFF TO OUR INLAW, THEY GAIN CONFIDENCE IN A=OUR ABULITY TO LOOK AFTER THEIR DAUGHTER AND GRANDCHILDREN.


THEY KNOW WE WORK HARD AND EARN A WAGE SUFFICIENT FOR THE TASK.


MARRIAGE IS NOT FREE, IT IS NOT FOR THE UNEMPLYED OR BROKE TO CREATE NUSISANCE IN SOCIETY THAT WILL BE ON THE STREET BEGGING.


IT IS FOR COMPETENT ESTABLISHED MEN

It is either he doesn't love the lady or he is a broke ass fella. 3. 5M is not too much.

But on the other side, only a virgin bride or a bride with very decent past deserves huge bride price in naija context.
Before anybody quotes me, biko I'm not igbo. I'm yoruba and according to tradition, we don't collect huge bride price but I still believe 3.5 Million is not too much if the guy get money and most especially if the lady is worth it. Nah poverty cause am.

He was prepared to sponsor her education in uk which costs over 40m naira but cant pay 3.5m? If you love her just carry am go court and promise to come back for the list. Then run 😂

The worst is, she isn't even a virgin

I don't blame the bride's family.

This economy is not easy.

TheBillyonaire:
That amount is very considerate. There is no labor charge there, which exist in some climes.

He got a good offer to be honest, I see no reason to complain. The expense is less than 2 month's of average rent in London.

The is just bride list item not the wedding event proper, at this rate the full wedding will cost him nothing less than 20m

Sonnobax15:

How person go sell family land just to marry burden put for house

God abeg oh.

God aeg abi na God forbid

ednut1:
He was prepared to sponsor her education in uk which costs over 40m naira but cant pay 3.5m? If you love her just carry am go court and promise to come back for the list. Then run 😂

WHO WILL GIVE HER TO U?


U THINK THIS IS YOUR IYABO?

They wrote at the bottom that it's negotiable.
This doesn't call for instant breakup from someone who claims to have loved the daughter and want marriage.
Well, if you ask me. The list is okay and I believe if bargained, it can be reduced to #1.7 - 2m at most.
It's now left to your woman to persuade her family or she finds another suitor.
Why are you even bothering yourself to cross tribal lines to marry when you can just find one of our sweet yoruba lady and impregnate her. Na the family go use their hand pack her load come your house. You will later be asked to pay dowry which would even be returned back to you in some years time. Some no dey bother to pay self. People use like to dey put themselves for wahala sha

lapintoz:
That is the tradition. The father in law don follow other people chop bride price....now its the turn of others to chop.

If the guy no fit afford the amount asked, he should move on. Another Odogwu will ask for the lady's hand in marriage.

That is the fact. If he is complaining of 3.5m, how much does think wedding costs? No woman deserves to meet such unfortunate man. They are looking for girls to sleep with at a cost of bread.

He should be gay.

Stolen:
LEAVE OTHER PEOPLE CULTURE ALONE AND CONTINUE WITH THE FREE WOMEN IN YOUR OWN CULTURE.


IF MY FATHER PAID BRIDE PRICE, HIS FATHER PAID BRIDE PRICE, HI GRAND FATHER PAID BRIDE PRICE, HIS GREAT GRAND FATHER PAID BRIDE PRICE, I PAID BRIDE PRICES.




SHOULD WE CHANGE IT BECAUSE OF YOU A FOREIGNER DONT RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE CULTURE?



U DEEM IT FIT TO HAVE IYALOJA AND BABALOJA EXTORTNG MONEY FROM TRADERS, WE KEEP QUIET OURT OF RESPECT FOR YORUBA CULTURE, NOW SOMEHOW U ARE ALLOWED TO CROSS TRIBAL LINE TO MARRY, U ARE SHOWING YOUOR DISDAIN AND DISRESPECT FOR A CULTURE PRACTICED ACROSS AFRICA.



MEHN GET LOST ALREADY

Did your father pay bride price twice? 500k to bride father and another 300k to bride mother?

The negotiable part got me laughing
🤣.
I think this stuffs are culture dependent.with 1M last year, I don finish my marriage.

oluwaseyi0:


The is just bride list item not the wedding event proper, at this rate the full wedding will cost him nothing less than 20m

FOLAKE IS STILL THERE



MARRYING FROM OTHER TRIBE IS AN EXCEPTION NOT THE NORM.


U ARE STIL A FOREIGNER IN THOSE PARTS.


U EITHER REPSECT THEIR CULTURE AND PERFORM THE MARRIAGE RITES AS THEY DO IT OR YOU STAY YOUR ASS IN YORUBLAND WITH ABIKE.


IT IS VERY SIMPLE, IF YOU GO TO MARRY FULANI IN ADDITION TO BRIDE PRICE THEM GO USE KOBOKO TEAR YOUR BACK.

Seems the guy already made up his mind to bail 😂😂

Stolen:


WHO WILL GIVE HER TO U?


U THINK THIS IS YOUR IYABO?

if she see visa to uk for ground you think she won’t go I have seen it happen in real life many times. Most of them dey abroad now. So for your mind one use village elder you see maybe once in 3 years go stop u 😂

TheBillyonaire:


Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

So you are selling the girl?
What if the family has a son?
Will they sell him off too?
Or suddenly, between the 2 children, boy and girl, their parents will love the girl and hate the boy?
Explain your statement.

oluwaseyi0:


The is just bride list item not the wedding event proper, at this rate the full wedding will cost him nothing less than 20m

What is the parents business with wedding? The list clearly shows most of the items are consumables and he can go and buy those things by himself and he will realize that those drinks will not be enough for the guests.

The wedding is his decision, the parents are not making money off this. I think the only reason anyone should give out their daughter is if she will be in position to assist them at old age. cos raising a daughter and training them to Uni, just for someone to take her away and complain of bride price is an insult.

Lol😂🤣😂🤣.

That price is very much negotiable.
Most of those items have cheaper substitutes

ednut1:
if she see visa to uk for ground you think she won’t go I have seen it happen in real life many times. Most of them dey abroad now. So for your mind one use village elder you see maybe once in 3 years go stop u 😂

THAT IS A DISRESPECT TO A CULTURE FROM WHERE YOU WENT TO MARRY.

AND U WILL PAY DEARLY FOR IT, ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.


MARRIAGE IS A FAIMILY NOT AN INDIVIDUAL.

Poverty alleviation schemes everywhere.

It might shock you that the said bride might even be a hook up girl in disguise

Kinzo0917:



Na Igbos be worst o

That why many of their women are unmarried

Don't say rubbish about what you don't know

Bride price are high when the bride is in her early 20’s.

ednut1:
He was prepared to sponsor her education in uk which costs over 40m naira but cant pay 3.5m? If you love her just carry am go court and promise to come back for the list. Then run 😂

At this rate, let Nigerian guys forget Nigerian girls.
Nigerian girls are expensive and useless.
Do your runs, leave the country and marry outside.
Cameroon, Niger, Benin Republic, Ghana.

TheBillyonaire:


Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

How are children the kids of men only and not their kids (both the man and the woman)

When it comes to enjoying benefits of the children, you won’t say that the children belong to only the man but when it comes to things like this you will say women give birth to children for men!

uuzba:

So you are selling the girl?
What if the family has a son?
Will they sell him off too?
Or suddenly, between the 2 children, boy and girl, their parents will love the girl and hate the boy?
Explain your statement.

Marriage is sells at a loss. Lets stop deceiving ourselves

Bride Price = Cost Price of Bride
Name Change = Change of Title, just like you change title on properties.
Taking her away from family means, buyer takes product home.

We are not charging accurate labor price point because we are against slave trade on humans. If you want to be like westerners which is better, we should not give or accept bride price, but as long as all the tribes in this country collectively agree to give and take 'bride price' it is sales at a discounted rate.

That is a fact.

BodePolScience:
Well, if the supposed lady is a virgin and the man can stomach the bill then no problem... But paying such money for a long distance relationship is risky and not worth the stress...

This is the reason why the guy is angry . The dude can probably afford it .
Dude has weighed his options and decided it’s not worth it . I would too if I were in his shoes

TheBillyonaire:


Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

It seems sense is far from you

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Lol😂🤣😂🤣.

That price is very much negotiable.
Most of those items have cheaper substitutes

Unto cheap GirL abiiii😂😂

AntiChristian:
That's too much o!

That's why I no fit move close to that side as regards marriage!

Dowry is for my wife only not for all the ancestors and predecessors!

Of course, there's no female head slammer there that you can marry, and the 'book of terror' forbids you from marrying "a woman of the book".

So, it's quite understandable.

The Question should be
How do Bricklayers, Gravediggers and Palmwine Tappers in those communities get to marry 2 wives each?