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Emdebby2: 8:39pm On Sep 10, 2024
If you don't tell your cousin now, it will implicate you in the future.

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EreluRoz: 8:40pm On Sep 10, 2024
achimendy:


You'll watch that girl say it to your cousin's face one day wen dey have issues and insult will follow suit, then your cousin and the entire family will get mad at you for not telling them b4 the marriage.

Brothers like you are not to be trusted and also need to be avoided. I can't watch my bro make wrong choice wen I fully know well about it.
Exactly op is a wicked soul, did you read where he said his current girlfriend is a virgin when someone told him somebody too will sleep with his fiance? But he feels alright to allow his cousin to marry a lady he has slept with several times because he's almighty chiagozien. Nansense
Chiagozien you can see people don't see you as a good person shior. You are selfish and wicked if you don't reveal to your cousin now and fast
achimendy(m): 8:40pm On Sep 10, 2024
Coolsat:
She never get the advantage for now till she succeeded in deceiving both of them and getting married and by then she now has upper hand over op. If op reveal the truth to his cousin now it'll save him a lot from this trap. Sometimes I'm amazed how some guys can't easily spot out the games women play, imagine this woman boldly playing two cousins and she already has op by his balls except he do the needful fast. Women are brutal ooo


Hahahaha


Funny but true.....
stevups(m): 8:43pm On Sep 10, 2024
Animalistic question. Your ex, is no longer in your world..dindinrin
achimendy(m): 8:46pm On Sep 10, 2024
EreluRoz:
Exactly op is a wicked soul, did you read where he said his current girlfriend is a virgin when someone told him somebody too will sleep with his fiance? But he feels alright to allow his cousin to marry a lady he has slept with several times because he's almighty chiagozien. Nansense
Chiagozien you can see people don't see you as a good person shior. You are selfish and wicked if you don't reveal to your cousin now and fast


Hmmm.... the nigga is heartless
EreluRoz: 8:50pm On Sep 10, 2024
achimendy:



Hmmm.... the nigga is heartless
He's very heartless. I hate seeing people betraying their loved ones. Imagine watching your cousin marry a lady you've slept with several times and dumped while he can't take what he's dishing to his cousin.
Did you read where he said he went out to eat in a t with both of them? It's guilty conscience that prompted this post. That lady must be evil to be comfortable with such.

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LDaVinci: 8:52pm On Sep 10, 2024
EreluRoz:
He said he didn't know he'll take her serious. You guys should stop downplaying things like this please. This is how some of you men allow evil ladies come into a family and create permanent enmity. The relationship is still in the boyfriend and girlfriend stage and as such he should reveal the truth to his cousin, that lady's placenta is not tied to their family. Which lady of good morals will date two cousins and won't even feel odd about it? Same lady is still telling op she loves him more than his cousin and you still don't see anything wrong in it? Ikegwuru

Its not that I dont see anything wrong with it. It will be a serious issue if his eye is still on her, But he said he is not interested, and both of them were honest enough to ask him first (dishonest people will not ask, they will run their game behind him and not care whether she dated him before or is even still dating him). He gave a clear answer saying its OK. That is the end of the issue.

The only thing I will add is he should sha let his cousin know that he has been there before. And he should have no plans of going there again.
Fryx: 8:55pm On Sep 10, 2024
EreluRoz: 8:57pm On Sep 10, 2024
LDaVinci:


Its not that I dont see anything wrong with it. It will be a serious issue if his eye is still on her, But he said he is not interested, and both of them were honest enough to ask him first (dishonest people will not ask, they will run their game behind him and not care whether she dated him before or is even still dating him). He gave a clear answer saying its OK. That is the end of the issue.
Did you get the deeper meaning of the lady still telling op she loves him more would still choose him over his cousin? I'm advising you now as a lady, if you ever noticed your girlfriend loves any man more than you don't ever marry her.
Everything is wrong here, the lady is using their heads and if op tell her to leave the cousin now and come back to him she'll jump at the offer and it is that type of woman you are ing.
Everything is wrong, the lady should go away from that family kos her placenta is not tied there.
Stevenbright(m): 8:59pm On Sep 10, 2024
chiagozien:
I don't know if to keep it to myself.

He recently told me his intention to marry her, But before then he found out the lady know me through her comment on my Facebook post, Which he asked me if I know the lady.
I told him yes that she's my friend but I didn't go deep to the level our friendship was.
He's asked me if she's my girlfriend that he don't want it be dragging a woman with his brother.

I told him no problem that he should go on with her if he likes her(Already tired of her and didn't know it will lead to marriage discussion) The girl confirmed to my cousin she knows me very well and even know where I live in City,told him my area and street.
But I don't know if she told him our level of friendship.

But before then the girl reached out to me and told me my cousin (junior) is asking her out, That what's our stand, Which I told her to go on if she like him.

Her reply was I am the one she love most but she doesn't understand my attitude towards her again.

I said Okay.

Now my cousin is talking about marrying her, Even some days ago I was with both of them drinking, watching Masquerade and being entertained (I went to my Town for new yam festival)

The lady lives in the same city with me, From where we meet,She came back,I don't know if is for the festival or for the marriage matter because my cousin base in my Town for now.

We dated for three months before I started ghosting her because of a character I can't live with.
She is too possessive.

No lady will without her asking why do you look her Nash.(Even when i May not noticed the lady that ed)

Questions of how many girls you collected their numbers today, how many girls toasted you today.
Always demand to go through my phones.

Outside that she had no issues with the little I know her.

I don't know if to mind my business because he's the cousin I am more close to.

The main issue I see here is that you and the girl are not officially over yourselves yet. That was why should could ask about you guy's stand. This means something can still happen between the both of you.

The second thing is the fact that she is comfortable having a thing with your cousin when things are not yet officially over between you and her.
EreluRoz: 9:00pm On Sep 10, 2024
LDaVinci:


Its not that I dont see anything wrong with it. It will be a serious issue if his eye is still on her, But he said he is not interested, and both of them were honest enough to ask him first (dishonest people will not ask, they will run their game behind him and not care whether she dated him before or is even still dating him). He gave a clear answer saying its OK. That is the end of the issue.

The only thing I will add is he should sha let his cousin know that he has been there before. And he should have no plans of going there again.
and you think his cousin will not run knowing fully well his brother has slept with her. Some calamities are better prevented by revealing the truth. Do you also think any good lady will be comfortable dating two cousins? This should even tell you the type of lady she is
armyofone(m): 9:22pm On Sep 10, 2024
chiagozien:
I don't know if to keep it to myself.

He recently told me his intention to marry her, But before then he found out the lady know me through her comment on my Facebook post, Which he asked me if I know the lady.
I told him yes that she's my friend but I didn't go deep to the level our friendship was.
He's asked me if she's my girlfriend that he don't want it be dragging a woman with his brother.

I told him no problem that he should go on with her if he likes her(Already tired of her and didn't know it will lead to marriage discussion) The girl confirmed to my cousin she knows me very well and even know where I live in City,told him my area and street.
But I don't know if she told him our level of friendship.

But before then the girl reached out to me and told me my cousin (junior) is asking her out, That what's our stand, Which I told her to go on if she like him.

Her reply was I am the one she love most but she doesn't understand my attitude towards her again.

I said Okay.

Now my cousin is talking about marrying her, Even some days ago I was with both of them drinking, watching Masquerade and being entertained (I went to my Town for new yam festival)

The lady lives in the same city with me, From where we meet,She came back,I don't know if is for the festival or for the marriage matter because my cousin base in my Town for now.

We dated for three months before I started ghosting her because of a character I can't live with.
She is too possessive.

No lady will without her asking why do you look her Nash.(Even when i May not noticed the lady that ed)

Questions of how many girls you collected their numbers today, how many girls toasted you today.
Always demand to go through my phones.

Outside that she had no issues with the little I know her.

I don't know if to mind my business because he's the cousin I am more close to.

You should have told him since you became aware of the relationship with your ex. Maybe grievance she is marring him not you ?

Well, tell him and move away.

Human beings sef!
LDaVinci: 9:55pm On Sep 10, 2024
EreluRoz:
Did you get the deeper meaning of the lady still telling op she loves him more would still choose him over his cousin? I'm advising you now as a lady, if you ever noticed your girlfriend loves any man more than you don't ever marry her.
Everything is wrong here, the lady is using their heads and if op tell her to leave the cousin now and come back to him she'll jump at the offer and it is that type of woman you are ing.
Everything is wrong, the lady should go away from that family kos her placenta is not tied there.

I dont plan to marry and I dont blieve in marraige.
femi4: 9:56pm On Sep 10, 2024
chiagozien:
I don't know if to keep it to myself.

He recently told me his intention to marry her, But before then he found out the lady know me through her comment on my Facebook post, Which he asked me if I know the lady.
I told him yes that she's my friend but I didn't go deep to the level our friendship was.
He's asked me if she's my girlfriend that he don't want it be dragging a woman with his brother.

I told him no problem that he should go on with her if he likes her(Already tired of her and didn't know it will lead to marriage discussion) The girl confirmed to my cousin she knows me very well and even know where I live in City,told him my area and street.
But I don't know if she told him our level of friendship.

But before then the girl reached out to me and told me my cousin (junior) is asking her out, That what's our stand, Which I told her to go on if she like him.

Her reply was I am the one she love most but she doesn't understand my attitude towards her again.

I said Okay.

Now my cousin is talking about marrying her, Even some days ago I was with both of them drinking, watching Masquerade and being entertained (I went to my Town for new yam festival)

The lady lives in the same city with me, From where we meet,She came back,I don't know if is for the festival or for the marriage matter because my cousin base in my Town for now.

We dated for three months before I started ghosting her because of a character I can't live with.
She is too possessive.

No lady will without her asking why do you look her Nash.(Even when i May not noticed the lady that ed)

Questions of how many girls you collected their numbers today, how many girls toasted you today.
Always demand to go through my phones.

Outside that she had no issues with the little I know her.

I don't know if to mind my business because he's the cousin I am more close to.
Tell him, he might be comfortable with her
LDaVinci: 9:57pm On Sep 10, 2024
EreluRoz:
and you think his cousin will not run knowing fully well his brother has slept with her. Some calamities are better prevented by revealing the truth. Do you also think any good lady will be comfortable dating two cousins? This should even tell you the type of lady she is

People are different. They may not mind.
chinonfelix2(m): 9:57pm On Sep 10, 2024
As it is right now in Nigeria any girl you marry is someone's EX.. even your current man is someone's EX.

Is it because you know this one?

Unless you still love her or una still dey nack
EreluRoz: 10:00pm On Sep 10, 2024
LDaVinci:


I dont plan to marry and I dont blieve in marraige.
Chiagozien hope you can see the kind of people telling you to keep shut. People who don't believe in marriage and have nothing to do with core family values
LDaVinci: 10:10pm On Sep 10, 2024
EreluRoz:
Chiagozien hope you can see the kind of people telling you to keep shut. People who don't believe in marriage and have nothing to do with core family values

Dont misrepresent me. I never said he should keep shut. I said he spoke already and permitted it. I also added that he should sha tell his Coz.
EreluRoz: 10:12pm On Sep 10, 2024
LDaVinci:


Dont misrepresent me. I never said he should keep shut. I said he spoke already and permitted it. I also added that he should sha tell his Coz.
ok sorry. But why don't you want to get married? Is it financial issues? Sexual issues? What could be your reason if I may ask?
LDaVinci: 10:14pm On Sep 10, 2024
EreluRoz:
ok sorry. But why don't you want to get married? Is it financial issues? Sexual issues? What could be your reason if I may ask?

I have been therer before and it didnt work out. Now, I treasure my freedom.
I am financially ok.
EreluRoz: 10:16pm On Sep 10, 2024
LDaVinci:


I have been therer before and it didnt work out. Now, I treasure my freedom.
I am financially ok.
Eiya you are still hurt. But it shouldn't stop you from trying again or you think she isn't on your side to try again?
jimohibrahim(m): 10:20pm On Sep 10, 2024
I'm literally in this mess
EreluRoz: 10:22pm On Sep 10, 2024
jimohibrahim:
I'm literally in this mess
Are they already married in your own case?
LDaVinci: 10:29pm On Sep 10, 2024
EreluRoz:
Eiya you are still hurt. But it shouldn't stop you from trying again or you think she isn't on your side to try again?

Hurt ke?Something that ended over a decade ago. There is nothing like hurt there, I just dont buy the whole idea of tying myself down to one person for life, I see it as imprisonment.
chiagozien(m): 10:30pm On Sep 10, 2024
Stevenbright:


The main issue I see here is that you and the girl are not officially over yourselves yet. That was why should could ask about you guy's stand. This means something can still happen between the both of you.

The second thing is the fact that she is comfortable having a thing with your cousin when things are not yet officially over between you and her.
We're over, never reach out to each other for five months before my cousin come into the picture
REALretep(m): 10:32pm On Sep 10, 2024
chiagozien:
We're over, never reach out to each other for five months before my cousin come into the picture
Give us update joor
TableLeg(m): 10:53pm On Sep 10, 2024
chiagozien:
I don't know if to keep it to myself.

He recently told me his intention to marry her, But before then he found out the lady know me through her comment on my Facebook post, Which he asked me if I know the lady.
I told him yes that she's my friend but I didn't go deep to the level our friendship was.
He's asked me if she's my girlfriend that he don't want it be dragging a woman with his brother.

I told him no problem that he should go on with her if he likes her(Already tired of her and didn't know it will lead to marriage discussion) The girl confirmed to my cousin she knows me very well and even know where I live in City,told him my area and street.
But I don't know if she told him our level of friendship.

But before then the girl reached out to me and told me my cousin (junior) is asking her out, That what's our stand, Which I told her to go on if she like him.

Her reply was I am the one she love most but she doesn't understand my attitude towards her again.

I said Okay.

Now my cousin is talking about marrying her, Even some days ago I was with both of them drinking, watching Masquerade and being entertained (I went to my Town for new yam festival)

The lady lives in the same city with me, From where we meet,She came back,I don't know if is for the festival or for the marriage matter because my cousin base in my Town for now.

We dated for three months before I started ghosting her because of a character I can't live with.
She is too possessive.

No lady will without her asking why do you look her Nash.(Even when i May not noticed the lady that ed)

Questions of how many girls you collected their numbers today, how many girls toasted you today.
Always demand to go through my phones.

Outside that she had no issues with the little I know her.

I don't know if to mind my business because he's the cousin I am more close to.

Mind your business!
chiagozien(m): 10:59pm On Sep 10, 2024
REALretep:
Give us update joor
I just got out from call with my cousin.


There's a new development

I will create another thread for it
Barteze: 11:07pm On Sep 10, 2024
chiagozien:
I don't know if to keep it to myself.

He recently told me his intention to marry her, But before then he found out the lady know me through her comment on my Facebook post, Which he asked me if I know the lady.
I told him yes that she's my friend but I didn't go deep to the level our friendship was.
He's asked me if she's my girlfriend that he don't want it be dragging a woman with his brother.

I told him no problem that he should go on with her if he likes her(Already tired of her and didn't know it will lead to marriage discussion) The girl confirmed to my cousin she knows me very well and even know where I live in City,told him my area and street.
But I don't know if she told him our level of friendship.

But before then the girl reached out to me and told me my cousin (junior) is asking her out, That what's our stand, Which I told her to go on if she like him.

Her reply was I am the one she love most but she doesn't understand my attitude towards her again.

I said Okay.

Now my cousin is talking about marrying her, Even some days ago I was with both of them drinking, watching Masquerade and being entertained (I went to my Town for new yam festival)

The lady lives in the same city with me, From where we meet,She came back,I don't know if is for the festival or for the marriage matter because my cousin base in my Town for now.

We dated for three months before I started ghosting her because of a character I can't live with.
She is too possessive.

No lady will without her asking why do you look her Nash.(Even when i May not noticed the lady that ed)

Questions of how many girls you collected their numbers today, how many girls toasted you today.
Always demand to go through my phones.

Outside that she had no issues with the little I know her.

I don't know if to mind my business because he's the cousin I am more close to.
You are very wicked. Your cousin asked you but you didn't tell him the truth. The worst is that you didn't break up with her meaning that the chances of you nacking her in future is very high.
galadima77(m): 11:10pm On Sep 10, 2024
Guy you dey fall hand from all angles ...and you're not trustworthy by not telling him from the onset. Closest cousin indeed.
torqque7(m): 1:35am On Sep 11, 2024
chiagozien:
Sorry Grandma

What would it have cost you to tell him then that yeah we run things the first time he asked you rather than saying she is just your friend?people like you are the type that poison their friends drinks when they hangout. Na your type them de call SCUM of the earth.

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