NewStats: 3,263,570 , 8,180,568 topics. Date: Friday, 06 June 2025 at 02:27 PM 4206i

Lol

The chances are more with you not being around. Truth be told, if you stay 24 hours with your wife at home and she wants outside action, she will get it.

If she's the faithful type, you meet her they way you left her. Life is about risks. If the decision comes with peace, go for it.

Dogalmighty17:
Dem go run your wife o! Who you dey leave her for?

But on a serious note, you struggled with business over here. What gives you the confidence that you can make head way in where you intend going to? Have you considered how long it may take to bring your family over?

If you had a business that failed and somehow you have raised money to sponsor yourself abroad, why should you abandon that source? Going out is not what you think it is.

nairamaniac:
First take your wife to shrine to swear and also place magun on her.

But if she's ugly and maybe Fat, you can rest your mind.

If you have to be swearing with your wife at this time, long after your wedding day, then your marriage is already over.
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All the swearing was done ON the wedding day.
In good times, in bad times, for better, for worse....
That's your marriage vow.
You swore that swear before God and man.

Guy move. Things wont get better under Tinubu

Someone actively planning to abandon his wife and young kids for years, to chase a pipe dream.

Such a shame.

You want to run away to be an illegal immigrant. Meaning you can’t travel home for years.

Better stay back and look for a job here

This is the plan.

Settle your house payment at least 2 years from this moment.

2.drop one million naira for feeding and upkeeping for your wife and kids.and.tell.your wife to manage it without going to parties.

3.use the remaining money to travel abroad and start hustling within 1 to 2 years you will be stable of bringing your wife and kids there with you..

4.do this and thank me after 2 years.


5.dont listen to anyone's much advice here on nairaland

Most of em are kids and have no family.

God will guide you in all you do.....

Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks

Tourist visa LOL

Abort mission o

If you don't intend adding value with your travel and your only travel goal is to "jama jama" aka rough it out.
My brother sir, SIT DOWN AT HOME!

Counties have legitimate pathway to residency and citizenship.

If you are not following any of those pathway (as you're going there on a visiting visa and on getting there, find your level), trust me, life will be much harder for you.

If you're going to add value (education or a job that requires your skill), it's going to be much easier, and you can it tell when you'll get "papers" and plan accordingly.
All the best.

Gwin007:
I don’t have any job idea to do there, planning when I get there I will look for something doing

Them go fúck your wife tire, I just dey pity you

Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks

You can achieve and obtain your residence permit in about 6 months as long as you are travelling with a genuine tourist visa. The guys advising you that tourist visa will get you no where are doing so from the point of limited information.
Reach out to me I will give you the info. Please I am not asking for a dime for this. Just completely free info. If you are hard working, your family can you in about 9 months, ie 3 months after obataining your residence permit

bouncin04:
Be it tourist , school , work permit visas , if you have a trustworthy agent please don't look back my man , as naija don turn Malawi of those days .

Stop.all this non sense of using Agent ...are you not aware how many people all this agent have scammed ? Are you one of them ?

Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks

Leaving a young woman with 3 kids to travel out is not an easy decision. It's 50 50. But I would advice you choose the peace and happiness of your family over your search for more money.

Dont give wayo travel agents ur meagre N5m… they’re coming to suck your blood and sweat lol.

Life is all about risks… stay in Naija, you stand a higher risk of losing your business because of bad economy… travel to EU, you risk losing your family for life… and may not come back to Naija in the next 15years

uuzba:

If you have to be swearing with your wife at this time, long after your wedding day, then your marriage is already over.
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All the swearing was done ON the wedding day.
In good times, in bad times, for better, for worse....
That's your marriage vow.
You swore that swear before God and man.

You have to re-swear at points of crucial times.

Also make the verbiage of the swear more specific.


Which one is "in good times, in bad times, for better, for worse...."??


Can you compare that to "Make thunder strike my p*ssy, if another man rod enter inside". ?

Kobojunkie:
If you don't already have a plan on how to hit the ground running when you get to the other side, then I suggest you back in Nigeria and wait for when you do.

Just Listen to this guy

Dikastan:
Do a legit paper and go. If you have a reliable agent, you can travel and make it even if it takes a little time. You can go over there and acquire a skill to boost yourself. I have a similar plan with you . Don't go with your family now and don't worry about wife's infidelity,any woman that wants to cheat will cheat even under your nose.
1. Make sure you use a reliable agent
2. You need to do a serious spiritual work, especially through prayer to clear your way spiritually so that forces of darkeness won't frustrate your plans.
3. Be positive and strong,life is about risk. Take it and make it

I love my fellow Africans, so spiritually strong and mentally weak. Everything without exception is spiritual and must be approached spiritually, even to cross road. Infact, just pray your way into travelling abroad. Why plan anything, why think properly when you can pray.

Gwin007:
I don’t have any job idea to do there, [b]planning when I get there I will look for something doin[/b]g

Don't do it. At least not yet.

nairamaniac:


You have to re-swear at points of crucial times.

Also make the verbiage of the swear more specific.


Which one is "in good times, in bad times, for better, for worse...."??


Can you compare that to "Make thunder strike my p*ssy, if another man rod enter inside". ?

Well, anyhow people decide to wed, they always take an oath before witnesses.
The person that will not fear or respect God will not fear your juju oath either.
Marriage is about trust and not about imprisonment.
If you people don't trust each other, what then are you gaining in the marriage?
Your marriage is already ended. Kukuma leave this marriage and go and find the person that will trust you.
You can't force anybody to trust you.

Only Africans traveling abroad for settlement without availability of jobs waiting for them.

Very rare seeing other races for such decision except for tourism.

Africans aren't poor but very poor mentally.

You must be Igbo. That's how we foolishly finish ourselves abroad simply because we want to answer "Europe based".

A very young family like that naim u wan japa leave. If u can't take them along no need oo. Stay back and restrategize in ur existing business with the money.

Meanwhile... The way those uncles are waiting to replace u at home once u leave

I will advise you not to leave your family for any reason. Today is tough but tomorrow will be better. Use all the money you would travel with and your business hear. Worst scenario, you keep the money in fixed time deposit pending when business will improve.

Have you ever imagine the risk you tend to expose your wife and children to while you're away? Ask if its worth it.

Samantha124:
Whaaat? DaudaTheSexyGuy, get ready for food will soon be ready...

Your community service skills will soon be required...

I have been monitoring the guy, as soon as he leaves Nigeria I will swoop on his wife

nairamaniac:
First take your wife to shrine to swear and also place magun on her. naija men no get joy, they will shift his magun aside, do what they want to do, and place it back for him, he will meet his magun there when he gets back

But if she's ugly and maybe Fat, you can rest your mind. forget, e go still happen

What sort of business you do

Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks

Good question

Kobojunkie:
What job or business does your wife do? If you head abroad and are unable to send money him for a period, will your wife and kids be OK?

2. Do you already have a job idea or are you going their hoping something will somehow work out? Do you at least have rent for a month or two in hand? Or are you somehow expecting to find some folks to mooch off of until you find your way?

JamParkMe:
Traveling overases with just a tourist visa is like voluntarily hopping into a slave ship during the times of slavery. If you were a young and single guy, I can understand the risk vs reward but as a married guy with children, I don't think it's very wise.

You will basically have to start afresh, working menial jobs for less than minimum wage because anyone hiring an illegal immigrant will exploit them as they have no legs to stand on and are desperate for work. Your best hope of eventually getting papers would be to do a fake marriage with a citizen but that comes with very high costs, abuse from the citizen and risk of the immigration services denying such marriage after all the money and years spent.

How about your wife and kids? How is your wife supposed to get intimacy when you are gone for years? Don't you realize, intimacy like food and shelter is a basic human need? You will likely be cheating on your wife but woe betide your wife if she sleeps around. How about your kids, who will be the father figure they need at such tender age? Most of these cultists and armed robbers you see today had no responsible fathers in their lives.

I will say you should sit down and think outside the box for ways to improve your business or for new business ideas. Don't let the pressure of japa syndrome make you make a move you will ultimately regret. I too have felt the urge to abandon it all and relocate overseas, but the risk vs reward doesn't make any sense and there are no guarantees in life.

This is basically all I have to say. Who will father your kids and husband your wife while you are away struggling to find your feet? You will miss the most important part of your kids life.

Japaing with a tourist visa is the worst decision you can make. After 6 months, you would be like a fugitive running from police and immigration. You might need to get married (either fake or real) to guarantee your continuous stay. And if you take the marriage route, you might have to spend more than 5 years before you can leave the country.


You are lucky, at least you have a business. Use the money and double your hassle to improve your business. It's not easy, as nothing is easy in today's world, but with determination you will succeed.

Please, I beg you do not go yet. Make sure you have a proper immigration document before you can move otherwise you may not be able to manage the limited funds with you efficiently. Once you arrive there, from day one you will start to spend on accommodation, feeding, transport, telephone, utilities etc.

kapelvej:

You can achieve and obtain your residence permit in about 6 months as long as you are travelling with a genuine tourist visa. The guys advising you that tourist visa will get you no where are doing so from the point of limited information.
Reach out to me I will give you the info. Please I am not asking for a dime for this. Just completely free info. If you are hard working, your family can you in about 9 months, ie 3 months after obataining your residence permit

LOOOOL why u dey carry am go koro to advice him....shey u no dey collect dime, u wan do am for God, drop the advice for am i public

obaidan:

the magun is not visible. It's spiritual.

But for real, there are less chances of someone fvckin your wife if she's not attractive

nairamaniac:


You have to re-swear at points of crucial times.

Also make the verbiage of the swear more specific.


Which one is "in good times, in bad times, for better, for worse...."??


Can you compare that to "Make thunder strike my p*ssy, if another man rod enter inside". ?

Anything wey you like make you take swear if I want bang your wife I go bang am and nothing go happen