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DenreleDave:


I didn't say I am her husband

I don't answer to senseless question also

But you just answered 🙄 😕 stick to one pls.

Angelfrost:
An uncle told me that consciously and unconsciously, most Nigerian and African men and ladies fully endorse POLYGAMY.

Even the ones that speak against it verbally don't mind indulging in it if the money and comfort are in play.

Jovialjune1:



Where did I insult you pls? 😒

You itted that men are senseless and stupid, I'm trying to confirm from you, yet you want twist am, why na?

Swerve

Jovialjune1:


But you just answered 🙄 😕 stick to one pls.

Ok. I'm everything to her

Are you satisfied?

DenreleDave:


A man doesn't cheat bcox his wife isn't attractive.. He cheats bcox the ladies out there pressure him too much to cheat

Either Denrele is bored and want people to converse with him, or he's a teenager, a grown adult can't say this.

DenreleDave:


Ok. I'm everything to her

Are you satisfied?

Lo wa nkan śe pelu aye e, being a confused male advocate doesn't suit you.

Imagine being bankrolled by married man, won’t you be comfortable?

They see a married man as a responsible person because he’s married. That’s why.

Is Nigeria the way it is because of activities of two consenting adults? If a married man decides to deal with a single woman and she agrees, how is that any body's business? You'll be surprised to learn that the leaders of the holier-than-thou brigade are usually the biggest offenders.

IyaTola:
No emotional attachment plus it a business transaction in most cases

Thank you for your honest contribution. others are just busy trying to twist the question and divert.

most single ladies are looking for who to leech on to survive.

NB we are not absolving the married men of responsibility but its what it is

Jovialjune1:


Lo wa nkan śe pelu aye e, being a confused male advocate doesn't suit you.

this is the reason youre still single and unwanted. Get rid of unnecesarry bitterness and see your life change. youve been on an endless chase trying to tackle him for what exactly?

Angelfrost:
An uncle told me that consciously and unconsciously, most Nigerian and African men and ladies fully endorse POLYGAMY.

Even the ones that speak against it verbally don't mind indulging in it if the money and comfort are in play.

Well, Op, an average Nigerian lady's interest in a guy is first his financial backbone... For most, his marital or relationship status comes second.

You men should try and stick to the narrative that suits you, don't add ladies to it, you do not speak for us, you cannot speak for us, you and your uncle have not and will not meet one tenth of Nigerian ladies to know what they endorse or not, you can never and will never meet one tenth of average Nigerian ladies to know what they want or don't want, either verbally or internally.

You are a virtuous woman that place eternal abode above the cravings and lust. The Bible says in 2 Timothy 2:22 Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart. God bless you

Klass99:


Yes we can! Some of us can and I have had to. Don't get me wrong I am not a saint, I was tempted as hell because the man was drop dead gorgeous and it wasn't about doing another woman a favour.

I often have internal conversations with myself, reminding myself that you have the power of choice Klass, you are not a slave to sin or sexual immorality. You can yield to temptation or fight it and overcome it. The power of choice is real to me and a very potent weapon!

Additionally, a successful relationship with God matters to me. We like to say life is short so make the most of it and enjoy it. I like to think eternity is long, Klass, so you better think carefully of how you will spend it and where you will spend it.

Married men dey spend money na.

Rayban25:


this is the reason youre still single and unwanted. Get rid of unnecesarry bitterness and see your life change. youve been on an endless chase trying to tackle him for what exactly?

Sadly I'm not single, every lady cannot be like your mother that got you outside marriage.

And next time, try to mind the business that pays you, so that you can grow soundly, intellectually, and have a meaningful life for yourself.

For a married man, sometimes its not about sleeping with the single lady. Sometimes its just about companionship and having someone who makes you feel good or feel like a man.

When you've been married for a while with multiple kids, marriage begins to lose meaning if care is not taken.

If conscious effort is not made by both parties to make the marriage interesting, then either party will look for something outside to make him/ her happy or feel good. It could be working extra hours, flexing outside with friends, or getting a side chick or sugar boy.

The most important thing is, you're doing that because you're trying to fill a hole in your marriage which could be emotional, sexual, social, mental, physical, etc.

To stop cheating, find out what hole you're trying to fix, and communicate with your partner, so he/she can fill that hole for you instead of looking for a third party.

Note: Your spouse might not probably meet all your needs especially as the marriage progresses. Know this and know peace.

Jovialjune1:



Sadly I'm not single, every lady cannot be like your mother that got you outside marriage.

And next time, trying to mind the business that pays you, it pays, so that you can grow soundly, intellectually, and have a meaningful life for yourself.

youre not married. We are not wearing pampers. heal.

Rayban25:


youre not married. We are not wearing pampers. heal.

Eyah your assumptions cannot be my reality

So cry amigo, cry

😢

Jovialjune1:



You men should try and stick to the narrative that suits you, don't add ladies to it, you do not speak for us, you cannot speak for us, you and your uncle have not and will not meet one tenth of Nigerian ladies to know what they endorse or not, you can never and will never meet one tenth of average Nigerian ladies to know what they want or don't want, either verbally or internally.

I will assume you missed the part of the general statement covering both genders before embarking on this misguided, emotional, and misdirected rant.

Maybe you can't see that your statement regarding "One-tenths" goes both ways... Please, take a glass of chilled water. This is not the time, and I am not the source of your life troubles. Thanks.

MrBrownJay1:


FIXED



so married men who go after single women are not greedy abi? they are both part of the problem, but sadly, these single women didnt have vows with anyone thus i cant blame a single woman for accepting to date a married man MORE THAN i would fully blame a married man cheating on his wife with these lost women. majority of these single women are there because of the handouts, the gifts, the knowledge that this man will only come to see her once or twice a week etc (without taking on the marital duties such as cooking/cleaning etc for that man), while this man is willing to throw his whole MARRIAGE/FAMILY under the bus, just because of some toto.

I hate when you guys do this. It's really exhausting.

No one is justifying the married men who date single ladies. The OP is specifically asking from a womans perspective, not from a mans perspective which is why the question reads "Why do ladies date married men" and not "Why do married men date single ladies".

On foreign sites such as quora, you'd find that respondents must first understand the question which always evident In their replies.

DenreleDave:
Ladies.. Saying No to a married man won't kill you


Leave married men alone!!!!!!

Don't be greedy, don't be a home wrecker. Learn to work and stop leeching on married men hence, destroying the lives of their kids. Stop distracting us with your nude on social media and on the street...

Fkngoat you think by making these comments would attract single ladies to you

DenreleDave:
This is a billion dollars question in my mind. It is now a norm for single ladies to compete with a married woman for her husband. They know the man is married with or without kids but our single ladies see it as a normal thing and the society has also ignorantly or unconsciously accepted it as a norm.

This makes me think again that a man doesn't instigate cheating on his wife, he is only tempted by another lady who is greedy jealous and envious about her fellow woman that is married to a man. Yes, men don't have the intention to cheat, we are only enticed by the greedy single ladies whose intention is to frustrate their fellow ladies and to fulfil their greedy needs.

Single men rarely mess with a married woman because when the society finds out, it will bring a heavy backlash on the married woman, the society won't stop reminding her that she cheated on her husband with a single guy but the society normalized a single lady for sleeping with a married man.

Many guys are still single because the single ladies are busy devicing how to get a married man on her bed to fulfil her greed. Many of we single guys are stranded because we can't approach married women as we respect the sanctity and vow of their marriage


My question is; Why do single ladies love to sleep with married men?

For the same exact reason why single men love to prey on married women.

They are beast of the lowest kind. Bereft of any moral code of reasoning.

It's fair game to them as long as it serves their selfish needs.

Married men are looking for side chicks. Side chicks are looking for easy money. Mutual stake in the game

Married women are without their husband's attention because the husbands choose to chase side chicks instead. Single guys have no girls because all the girls want to be side chicks to married men. So they go to the attention-craving wives of the side chick chasing husbands to get their grove on. I have found that married women are very easy game. By the way, I don't do that sort of thing. So press pause on your mischievous mind.

Thats the fvcked up world we live in.

That's because right from History days , Africans have always practiced Polygamy ,,, A normal Man is supposed to have at least 3,4, 5 women in his life as his wives .
But because of Colonialism and Christianity ,Men especially Southern Men and Christians in Nigeria practice one wife one husband as the legal and Societal way of life ,, however their Natural Man still remains wired to having multiple women ,, since they can't marry another , they make do with other Single ladies as side chicks .

So the Society can not really frown at it because everyone have a Granddad or fore father who lived a polygamous life which traits we still bear till date , though constrained by Modern White Wedding Marriage and the Economy .

Let Polygamy be encouraged today , and you will find many of this Husband -side chick cases drastically reduced.

Angelfrost:


I will assume you missed the part of the general statement covering both genders before embarking on this misguided, emotional, and misdirected rant.

Maybe you can't see that your statement regarding "One-tenths" goes both ways... Please, take a glass of chilled water. This is not the time, and I am not the source of your life troubles. Thanks.

Where exactly did your generalisation come from? Your imaginations or baseless assumptions right? Can you back up your generalisations with links to it? No, just trash talk and more emotional, misguided, and misdirected trash talk just to force a false narrative from men on women,

Women are not the source of your life troubles for you to add them to your frustrations.

The simple truth is, these girls date married men for money.

DenreleDave:


I don't think I can blame married men wholely...

A single lady should know that it is wrong for her to date a married man. Does it mean she doesn't even care if her own husband does the same to her?

If a lady says no to a man, he won't force her. But this ladies are very greedy

DenreleDave:


Sadly I don't answer to you...

I only answer to Beremx because she is my woman

you will not kee me o!

ahnie:

You wan die prematurely abii?
See you laying claim to someone's wife?
The height wey you don carry your obsession go ,dem need to flog you.

the obsession weak me. Denrele wan put me for trouble.

Jovialjune1:


Lo wa nkan śe pelu aye e, being a confused male advocate doesn't suit you.

Mo ti gbó e

Can i rest now?

Abeg leave this table alone, stop shaking it jor

Jovialjune1:



Where exactly did your generalisation come from? Your imaginations or baseless assumptions right? Can you back up your generalisations with links to it? No, just trash talk and more emotional, misguided, and misdirected trash talk just to force a false narrative from men on women,

Women are not the source of your life troubles for you to add them to your frustrations.

Okay... You've now been noted and noticed. Enjoy the rest of your day.

One man one woman is not an Africans culture . We are copying foreigners. What we are seeing, is we acting in our supposedly natural ways, unfortunately under secrecy because we like to deceive ourselves.
African men are having the best time of their lives. Enjoying the natural polygamous lifestyle but without the trouble that comes with being a polygamist. He doesn’t have to worry about feeding many kids and all that expenses. The rich amongs us have unlimited access to many beautiful girls, they can choose to replace their side chick anytime they get bored with her, unlike wives. You can’t be that deal. The trend will continue because men are benefiting., our wives think they are winning because they think they have succeeded in making the men married to them only .
Hotels business will continue to flourish.