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REALretep:
In addition... you can't keep her and her brother in the dark any longer.
The earlier they understand their situation, the better.
You need to let them know about their biological parents.
It's definitely going to hurt but they definitely need to know.

I'm sorry not now

They will but obviously not now


Thanks for your advice though

VoidLife7:

An almost 50yr old divorcee with 3kids, can never want any under20 girl for "marriage". Your mother isn't marrying her out, she is throwing her away into servitude, extreme suffering. A lifetime of battering and gnashing of teeth. Know this and become brave.
Secondly, nobody in your immediate family has the right to force the girl into marriage without telling her the truth about her parents and involving the relevant and chiefs from both her father & mother villages.

Ways to solve this gently is to take the gal away(if u can afford), find her a JOB or better SUITOR since bills and marriage are your mother's blind excuse.

e.g: I am mid-early 30's, christian, 3rd generation educationist (as in grandparents, parents, uncles, cousins everybody na civil servant, graduate entreprenuers). I for come marry her or find another young industrious single landlord for her here bt you dey lagos i'm in the east. I'm serious. This is what u should find for her.

Ladymillion:
This broke my heart, can your mum give out her own 18 year old daughter to a divorcee with 3 kids?

She is her daughter also. She knows her as her mother because she treat her as one. Anyway,you may not understand the situation of things

No matter how you try to picture it, you can never understand what we're ing through

VoidLife7:
seen

God bless you🙏

Go and pay that instantly, know that this will not change the situation, it’s very helpful and thanks to the keepingmum, if possible request for the of the Taillor and send the money right away, this is the only chance you have to safe her.

Work toward getting her in standard fashion school in Lagos to boost her chance of survival
So the bills can be sorted now that people are willing to help OR allow someone to adopt her before the month of May when your mom will give her out because that machine will still not safe her from your mom except she have where to live away from her .

You really need to be transparent because people are watching especially those who are already calling you a names, there are people who are also watching to see and are willing to assist so I beg you to keep people updated and maintain transparency to safe her.

I pray she get real help here.

I have seen someone got help from this forum, someone I know relocated him abroad without even posting a single comment here, so be careful how you handle this.
Let’s pray and see what God will do for her.

It’s so pathetic that women doesn’t help

Pls do not respond to this post.

Latty88:


So sorry about that. Since she is good with sewing, let her work with a fashion house where she will be paid.

Overtime, she can save up, get a machine then go to school. While in school, she can herself with her skill.

Encourage her to be determined, diligent and avoid distractions too.

Do everything you can to see that girl through school. God will bless your mum and your brother for taking care of them all these years. She has a bright future that should not be toy with. God will surely bless and provide all you need to come out this challenges amen.

amdman:
SOLUTION

I have engaged OP and I am currently working to confirm the veracity of his story. This should be completed by next weekend. Once confirmed, the plan is to do any of the following:

1. Full-ride scholarship (tuition and living expenses) to any public university in Nigeria (including cost of preparing for JAMB etc) - the condition for this is that she must be able to get ission on merit.

2. Alternatively, sponsored training in a structured fashion school in Lagos, including cost of sewing machine, transportation and stipend for one year.

It will be nice to collaborate with @Gaby, @Dawoyo and everyone else that would like to pitch in.

Kindly DM me so I’m looped in. I can pitch in something if the story checks out.

Thanks to you and @gaby for following up

At 18, she's an adult and can do whatever she likes, including moving out, getting a job and living her life exactly how she desires.

VoidLife7:
Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion deg immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones ing the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤

gaby:


Cry no more.

She wants to go to school, she'd definitely go to school.

I'll sponsor her to whatever level she wishes to go to as part of my impacting lives project.
DM me..

.
God bless you sir for this.
Your generation will never lack emen.
Sir I am not asking for financial favour but job to keep body and soul together.
I have been jobless ever since I finished My HND.
I have applied for several jobs but to no avail.
Please kindly assist me with any job.

Sirchiboy:
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God bless you sir for this.
Your generation will never lack emen.
Sir I am not asking for financial favour but job to keep body and soul together.
I have been jobless ever since I finished My HND.
I have applied for several jobs but to no avail.
Please kindly assist me with any job.

I wished I could right now, bro. So, sorry.

rickleye:


I could also help - perhaps we can chat to discuss how you would like to proceed.
Will the mother agree to such an arrangement since she is still living under the same roof ?
How much are we looking at to finance her education ?

Get in touch with @amdman. He's busy with the verification and authentication so we can proceed from there.

God bless.

gaby:
Ooops, I just saw you ed this moniker today for this purpose.

I don't think I have the time to waste here...

The last comment before this actually helped me to go check your profile.

I've been disappointed one too many times trying to assist people here. Never again.

Good luck to you guys.

Boss does it really matter? People can create a new moniker to save face or for security reasons. Do your due diligence to if the info is true, then go ahead to continue your philanthropy task. Task like this paves way for you for generations to come. God help you Boss. Just my 2 cents!!

[quote author=VoidLife7 post=120910660]Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion deg immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones ing the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤


Please stand up for her. You and your senior bro can do it.

VoidLife7:
Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion deg immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones ing the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤

If you don't live with them, ake her in and help her with a sewing machine to start something.
If you leave her with mom ehn, one day you will visit and hear that she has moved to her husband's house. Your mom is funny Sha. She no even fit find better young man to marry her beloved daughter na okrika overused and abandoned old cargo with 3 burdens (for your sister I mean) she go dey select for her new chassis daughter. Tufiakwa! Like she low-key hate the girl .

VoidLife7:
Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion deg immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones ing the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤

She is not too young to marry at 18.
You should be concerned with the kinda of family she is moving to, being left with kids as a young wife might be difficult for her.
So if ur mum is determined to get her married ,it should be with to a person that wouldn't put much responsibility on her and whereby she can continue her schooling.
Alot of ladies get married at her age regardless of the religion and they are doing well.

gaby:


I wished I could right now, bro. So, sorry.

.
Thank you

VoidLife7:
She will be 18 by May

Resist that evil decision,

Let her use one year to prepare for JAMB, teach her what you can since you're a teacher.


I will buy the form, if she es well enough to enter a federal University, I'll pay the fees.

litaninja:
At 18, she's an adult and can do whatever she likes, including moving out, getting a job and living her life exactly how she desires.

Must you talk?

An 18 years old girl should be allowed to live outside and live her life the way she desires?

Lol, you think every family allow their girl child in particular to live outside? And if she will live outside not at this tender age. Every family has different ways of raising their kids. When you have your own family, you are free to allow your 18 years old daughter to go live outside and fend for herself. It's your choice. Don't impose your mentality on anyone else

Thank you

Justbehave:
Women ing women by marrying her off. Nice idea.But come ooh. Women on this forum are fucking broke. So non of you could volunteer to help out your fellow woman? You women only talk Cho Cho Cho without any action. Make Una help your fellow woman before her mum marries her off. Make Una no dey wait for a men to come bail Una gender out. Shame on Una.Lol .Where is Jennyclay? She don hide abi? If nah to call men broke she for be the first to comment. Broke Akwunas wey full here.

You dey open mouth wide but yourself broke the people wey you dey shade. Before you open your mouth.
Who have you helped here in your life?

Abi you dey try bask in the glory of other men? You no go drop something?

Justbehave:
Lol. No woman offered to help. Chaii. Shame.I can see you are no longer busy as soon as I mentioned rape. Shameless akwuna busy sucking dick.

You are just a big fool. Smelling thing. Wetin you drop? Rapist

If you think say I go reply your smelling mention, Na your papa for house you dey decieve

Maysdevices:
You dey open mouth wide but yourself broke the people wey you dey shade. Before you open your mouth.
Who have you helped here in your life?

Abi you dey try bask in the glory of other men? You no go drop something?

Atleast other men has done something. Make just one woman do same. Nah a girl we dey talk about ooh no be boy

Brownshoe:
e dey burning o,1k wey I put for pocket flash outside 1 woman say make i give her make she transfer for me with charges, hmmm I no say e don reach like that o, people fit robber u if them see cash for ur hand o.

That's scary

stormborn28:


Why you dey think like Bola Tinubu..kai

Maysdevices:
You are just a big fool. Smelling thing. Wetin you drop? Rapist

If you think say I go reply your smelling mention, Na your papa for house you dey decieve

Lol. Stop talking and help her. Na Una fellow woman. I be rapist like your father wey dey rape you.
Big shame on you females here. Broke ass bitches waiting for men to come save their fellow women. Lol. Don't worry. We will help her.

Do all you can to make sure your mum doesn't have her way with this. It is selfish and insensitive of her! How does she think marrying her off will help the little girl? Or she wants to trade the girl's happiness and future for a morsel of bread!

faithfull18:
Stand your ground, don't let it happen, she can apply to immigration with her WAEC and other places where WAEC is acceptable, while perfecting her sewing skills, then save up after a few years to go back to school.

You don't necessarily need connections for lower cadre, where's your location?

YorobaPIGS:
bro calm down Did you check his posts before attacking?, Cos I don't think he's an urchin

I think he is o..or wait,did I mistake him to be someone else 😅😅
But,if I'm wrong that he is not,or maybe he got converted..then I apologize for attacking him.

Brother I totally understand your feelings, I was once in such situation year back. See what you will do. First on your own go to your church priest if you are a Catholic and narrate the issue to him, then tell him to invite your mum to have one on one talk in his office. Making her understand the implication of what her actions may result. 18yr she has not know the right from the left in life. Not to talk of marriage, to a 46yr divorcee. That was how I handled my own. And in turn the priest gave her scholarship to USA to do industrial chemistry.

VoidLife7:
I sent you a mail

texazzpete:


Kindly DM me so I’m looped in. I can pitch in something if the story checks out.

Thanks to you and @gaby for following up

Loop me in as well pls.
I guess we could start with a WhatsApp group once you have verified the story and details.

VoidLife7:
I will. Thanks for your advice

I live in morogbo, along Badagry expressway

Where in morogbo??