NewStats: 3,262,585 , 8,177,605 topics. Date: Monday, 02 June 2025 at 09:40 PM 1f2o8

captaininiobong:
Hy guys, I don't know if you have been in this, my woman that agreed to be the mother of my kids as stated by her recently stopped talking to me, picking my calls because she needed a 3million naira marriage.

I told her please why not we do moderate and use the remaining for investment. She said no. The three million is even small.

When I asked her what will we use the 3million to do, she said to buy furniture for the home. Uptill now she doesn't pick my calls, reply my chat if not that no be God showed her to me I would have deleted her number off my phone but am still keeping it for a reason I don't even know.

We have been together for long, not until a friend of mine got married and I told her they did thier marriage not less than 300k, then she said it's a big lie.

use your tongue to count your teeth.

Does she normally behave like this whenever you say no to her money requests ?

Can you comfortably budget 3m for the wedding without running into debt and or empty wallets ?

Is she contributing financially towards raising that amount ?

You claim you love this woman, we can castigate her but women are very funny creatures that you just have to use tortoise sense to understand. Women dream about this day right from childhood unlike we men who don't even bother till our friends start doing so one by one or parents force us. Women have a set idea how they want their day to be so please understand madam biko. If funds are tight then explain to her. If she can assist with some aspects then no problem. Win this battle, bring her into the house first. , both of you are already close friends and lovers so you understand yourselves already. If you said she does occasional olosho, I would have told you to run fast

captaininiobong:
Hy guys, I don't know if you have been in this, my woman that agreed to be the mother of my kids as stated by her recently stopped talking to me, picking my calls because she needed a 3million naira marriage.

I told her please why not we do moderate and use the remaining for investment. She said no. The three million is even small.

When I asked her what will we use the 3million to do, she said to buy furniture for the home. Uptill now she doesn't pick my calls, reply my chat if not that no be God showed her to me I would have deleted her number off my phone but am still keeping it for a reason I don't even know.

We have been together for long, not until a friend of mine got married and I told her they did thier marriage not less than 300k, then she said it's a big lie.

Bro thank God for ur life ,this also happened to me and I had to free the lady now I'm happy married with a contented woman ...please just use ur 3m to get a Canada work permit please in the name of God . u will see a better woman

Enskynelson:

Did the OP tell you he has no money? What if the guy is having like 100m and a big business out there which the lady is aware? Will u still say 3m is too much? Let the OP come and tell us his financial state to allow us know if the lady is reasonable or not.

Exactly

Enskynelson:

Did the OP tell you he has no money? What if the guy is having like 100m and a big business out there which the lady is aware? Will u still say 3m is too much? Let the OP come and tell us his financial state to allow us know if the lady is reasonable or not.

Then why is he complaining if he is loaded? Even 3m small sef if he is loaded.

captaininiobong:
Hy guys, I don't know if you have been in this, my woman that agreed to be the mother of my kids as stated by her recently stopped talking to me, picking my calls because she needed a 3million naira marriage.

I told her please why not we do moderate and use the remaining for investment. She said no. The three million is even small.

When I asked her what will we use the 3million to do, she said to buy furniture for the home. Uptill now she doesn't pick my calls, reply my chat if not that no be God showed her to me I would have deleted her number off my phone but am still keeping it for a reason I don't even know.

We have been together for long, not until a friend of mine got married and I told her they did thier marriage not less than 300k, then she said it's a big lie.

You see as una dey put una self for big mess, God have given you a sign that in the long run this one will give you trouble.

I had to breakup with my girlfriend cos her cousins kept asking me how do I cope with an extremely stingy girl. She work in an IT company and her salary is ₦360k and mind you she lives with her aunty and her kids(cousins) rent free.

They told me that when they go to her own parents house for Christmas she always frown when she sees other people eating food. Etc..

I did my own test and found out she hardly bring out ₦50 for anything when we go out.

So it's now up to me to decide if I want to marry such a person and ignore the warning signs.

Baba I quietly broke up with her. The world is getting more stressed out that if you see small red flag don't ignore it unless you have a divorce lawyer on standby

Be careful and scrutinize this lady more. Don't b fooled by yrs u spent together. Marriage isn't boy-girl relationship

I say congratulations to you for knowing the lady's true colour. How can she be asking for N3m wedding in this tough time?

She then stopped talking to you because of it. Please let her go. She should go and marry kidnappers and armed robbers.

As for you, God has relieved to you the jezebel in her. She has shown you Red Flag.
RUN, You don't need a sooth sayer to tell you otherwise.

chris51:
I say congratulations to you for knowing the lady's true colour. How can she be asking for N3m wedding in this tough time?

She then stopped talking to you because of it. Please let her go. She should go and marry kidnappers and armed robbers.

As for you, God has relieved to you the jezebel in her. She has shown you Red Flag.
RUN, You don't need a sooth sayer to tell you otherwise.

Marriage happens ONLY ONCE in a lifetime. If you are gainfully employed and can afford a big wedding, go for it. Or you go for an average wedding. Leave low key wedding for people with low income. If you have the financial capacity yet wish for a wedding of 300k then maybe you are a stingy*man. Your woman should also assist if possible or if her tradition permits. If you both are compatible, then wedding finance should not cause break up, no one is perfect.

She said furniture

You are here saying wedding....

Hmmmm there is God o

captaininiobong:
Hy guys, I don't know if you have been in this, my woman that agreed to be the mother of my kids as stated by her recently stopped talking to me, picking my calls because she needed a 3million naira marriage.

I told her please why not we do moderate and use the remaining for investment. She said no. The three million is even small.

When I asked her what will we use the 3million to do, she said to buy furniture for the home. Uptill now she doesn't pick my calls, reply my chat if not that no be God showed her to me I would have deleted her number off my phone but am still keeping it for a reason I don't even know.

We have been together for long, not until a friend of mine got married and I told her they did thier marriage not less than 300k, then she said it's a big lie.

See Guy na all this kind thing de provoke me. HOW GOD TAKE SHOW YOU NA? NA SO UNA GO ENTER ONE CHANCE BECAUSE ONE FILTHY AND FOWL SPIRIT CHOOSE TO DECIEVE YOU. TO ME ITS GOD WHO IS SHOWING YOU SIGNS OF A LAZY, PROMISCUOUS AND EXTRAVAGANT WOMAN.

Nazgul:
Sometimes I ask myself if it's a taboo for Nigerian girls to work, make money and spend on themselves rather than making unrealistic demands from men.

Just thank your stars that you haven't married her yet. Girls of such nature would watch you starve to death rather than spend their money on you.

My advice, let her be, block her everywhere and look for someone else. If you keep begging her to accept a smaller amount for the wedding she'll manipulate you and still make you feel like you owe her.

Relationship in Nigeria is different from how it is in other places.
There was a recent video by a South-African lady lashing out at Nigerian ladies.
She said they have made love all about money in Nigeria.
It affects the mentality of Nigerian guys spoiling South-African ladies with money to buy love there.
Nigerians were glad that such criticism was coming from a foreigner, not Nigerian men.
A Nigerian lady would think you don't love her if you don't give her money.
Laziness and entitlement are their second names. They don't even work anymore.
A lady is supposed to be taking care of herself with money she earns.
Her man just dashes her any amount of money anytime he feels like.
This whole condition is what is making the wife of the OP act like this.

Expensive wedding in this kind economy

God didn't show you anything, you guys are sex partners, period.

For your information, don't spend more than 400k on your wedding please if you have money. Tell only one canopy, pay her bride price and enter house. Dem no dey give person award for doing the most lavicious marriage oooooo. Be wise and , you are not in competition with anyone. Any girl that refused this advice is a definite RED LIGHT. Be wise

captaininiobong:
Hy guys, I don't know if you have been in this, my woman that agreed to be the mother of my kids as stated by her recently stopped talking to me, picking my calls because she needed a 3million naira marriage.

I told her please why not we do moderate and use the remaining for investment. She said no. The three million is even small.

When I asked her what will we use the 3million to do, she said to buy furniture for the home. Uptill now she doesn't pick my calls, reply my chat if not that no be God showed her to me I would have deleted her number off my phone but am still keeping it for a reason I don't even know.

We have been together for long, not until a friend of mine got married and I told her they did thier marriage not less than 300k, then she said it's a big lie.

Incoherent lies fake story to get attention she wants 3m for marriage to butter you bread of meaningless lies she want to use 3m for furniture.is furniture another name for marriage in your village dictionary

captaininiobong:
Hy guys, I don't know if you have been in this, my woman that agreed to be the mother of my kids as stated by her recently stopped talking to me, picking my calls because she needed a 3million naira marriage.

I told her please why not we do moderate and use the remaining for investment. She said no. The three million is even small.

When I asked her what will we use the 3million to do, she said to buy furniture for the home. Uptill now she doesn't pick my calls, reply my chat if not that no be God showed her to me I would have deleted her number off my phone but am still keeping it for a reason I don't even know.

We have been together for long, not until a friend of mine got married and I told her they did thier marriage not less than 300k, then she said it's a big lie.

She wants a ₦3 million wedding and I believe she won't contribute financially. She now ignores your calls because you think for the future.
That's a big red flag my friend. Dump her now if you want happiness in your life.

Brother She should contribution 40% of the total sum required for the wedding or she keep quiet and have a moderate wedding my sincere take.

Thanks

if not that no be God showed her to me

How did God show you Jezebel as a wife, in your dream or what

That's a big lie God can never give you such a woman as a wife stop mocking him.

Na you know wetin you see for her body; maybe Beauty, big Breast, or big Yansh.

Dey dere dey deceive yourself na now God show you the kind woman wey you bin wan marry say na Jezebel, you better run for your life.

She's pretending to love you...

Use 50k celebrate your victory. Your ancestors are no sleeping.

general111:
Guy you just dodged a bullet.
A lady that stops talking to you because you refused a 3million naira wedding is mad.

To the OP view this thread link.
https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/7424514/man-cancels-wedding-after-fiancee#118245829

You dodged an Inter Continental Middle Bomb.

Stop talking to her too na
Perhaps, u shud or see look for another homely babe whose wedding won't be up to 1M set, they are much, trust me.
Ire o!

captaininiobong:
Hy guys, I don't know if you have been in this, my woman that agreed to be the mother of my kids as stated by her recently stopped talking to me, picking my calls because she needed a 3million naira marriage.

I told her please why not we do moderate and use the remaining for investment. She said no. The three million is even small.

When I asked her what will we use the 3million to do, she said to buy furniture for the home. Uptill now she doesn't pick my calls, reply my chat if not that no be God showed her to me I would have deleted her number off my phone but am still keeping it for a reason I don't even know.

We have been together for long, not until a friend of mine got married and I told her they did thier marriage not less than 300k, then she said it's a big lie.

You all religious motherfuckers should keep deceiving yourselves.

Than God my brother

captaininiobong:
Hy guys, I don't know if you have been in this, my woman that agreed to be the mother of my kids as stated by her recently stopped talking to me, picking my calls because she needed a 3million naira marriage.

I told her please why not we do moderate and use the remaining for investment. She said no. The three million is even small.

When I asked her what will we use the 3million to do, she said to buy furniture for the home. Uptill now she doesn't pick my calls, reply my chat if not that no be God showed her to me I would have deleted her number off my phone but am still keeping it for a reason I don't even know.

We have been together for long, not until a friend of mine got married and I told her they did thier marriage not less than 300k, then she said it's a big lie.

You said God show her to you ? Recheck satan can deceive you. Thank your God that she is showing her true colour now . Even though you will spend upto 3 m, it is not at once ,may be she want to scam you. She is not a good wife material, she will force into doing things at her own decision, tell her to provide the money . Which work are you doing to fetch you that money ,it's likeshehave hidden agenda

Where una de see all these daughters of eve abeg

God no go fit show you who go give u headache. He's not an author of confusion.
Most Nigerian Christians don't understand the Bible...if not you no go make that statement.

Sorry how much is she willing to contribute?

captaininiobong:
Hy guys, I don't know if you have been in this, my woman that agreed to be the mother of my kids as stated by her recently stopped talking to me, picking my calls because she needed a 3million naira marriage.

I told her please why not we do moderate and use the remaining for investment. She said no. The three million is even small.

When I asked her what will we use the 3million to do, she said to buy furniture for the home. Uptill now she doesn't pick my calls, reply my chat if not that no be God showed her to me I would have deleted her number off my phone but am still keeping it for a reason I don't even know.

We have been together for long, not until a friend of mine got married and I told her they did thier marriage not less than 300k, then she said it's a big lie.

GOD showed her to you, don't ask us, ask GOD.

GOD DID NOT SHOW HER TO YOU

A FAMILIAR SPIRIT MASQUERADING AS GOD SHOWED HER TO YOU

GOD WILL NEVER GIVE YOU A WOMAN THAT WILL GIVE YOU STRESS

IF INDEED SHE IS GOD'S CHOICE FOR YOU.....SHE WOULD HAVE BEEN YOUR PEACE

EITHER YOU DIDN'T HEAR WELL OR YOU FELL FOR THE DEVIL'S TRICKS OF SENDING ONE OF HIS DAUGHTERS INTO YOUR LIFE TO DESTROY YOU

Ah... If only this man know what God is about to do for him

My brother I know you are blinded by love
Run oooo

Run ooooo

captaininiobong:
Hy guys, I don't know if you have been in this, my woman that agreed to be the mother of my kids as stated by her recently stopped talking to me, picking my calls because she needed a 3million naira marriage.

I told her please why not we do moderate and use the remaining for investment. She said no. The three million is even small.

When I asked her what will we use the 3million to do, she said to buy furniture for the home. Uptill now she doesn't pick my calls, reply my chat if not that no be God showed her to me I would have deleted her number off my phone but am still keeping it for a reason I don't even know.

We have been together for long, not until a friend of mine got married and I told her they did thier marriage not less than 300k, then she said it's a big lie.

What is your proof that God showed her you and how was it shown to you?
Has God also revealed it to her that you'll get married to her?

What are you still doing in that relationship?