NewStats: 3,261,667 , 8,174,700 topics. Date: Friday, 30 May 2025 at 03:34 AM 73661s

grandstar:


You're completely correct! How will you know? He might also be coming over based on starry-eyed views of Canada and not ready for realities on the ground. I generally feel it is best to marry someone on the ground, whether a Nigerian or a non-Nigerian. The only snag is Nigerian girls no dey like to marry Oyinbo

I laugh in swahili......swap "oyinbo" with "Nigerian girls". Not always but mostly.

Confusedgirlie:
I knew him before leaving the country. He was in Nigeria and was doing quite okay, even though I was earning more than him.

We separated for a while since I wanted to focus a little on my new life. But recently, we connected again. I'm just realizing I still have something for him in spite of the time and distance. But I'm really confused about starting anything because it will mean that I have to bring him over.

What are the chances he won't take advantage of me?

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Whatever mistakes you make in life please don’t add the mistake of bringing anyone abroad in the name of love. You’ll regret it and you can pin this message for future reference when you’ll recall you were warned.

faithfull18:

we know your type, Mr. Macho on NL and you are in some girl's DM acting all jelly, continue.

Anything to get into a girl&s pant is acceptable. That's the game. Hit and run, then get the next victim.

Confusedgirlie:
I knew him before leaving the country. He was in Nigeria and was doing quite okay, even though I was earning more than him.

We separated for a while since I wanted to focus a little on my new life. But recently, we connected again. I'm just realizing I still have something for him in spite of the time and distance. But I'm really confused about starting anything because it will mean that I have to bring him over.

What are the chances he won't take advantage of me?

Really I understand your fears but you know. If you say make you close your eyes as bad people they , while your eyes are closed ,good person fit too.

The love and respect you have for one another must supercede anything else

Hopeba:
Not everyone is like saro in Anikulapo movie


Pray about it and if he has no questionable characters... you Good to go.

nawa oooo....lol

Confusedgirlie:
I knew him before leaving the country. He was in Nigeria and was doing quite okay, even though I was earning more than him.

We separated for a while since I wanted to focus a little on my new life. But recently, we connected again. I'm just realizing I still have something for him in spite of the time and distance. But I'm really confused about starting anything because it will mean that I have to bring him over.

What are the chances he won't take advantage of me?

There are hardened heartbroken ladies on nairaland, so be careful of who you take advise from. BTW, what's the big deal of bringing a guy you love over? I don't get. He didn't take advantage of you when you were earning more than him in Nigeria, so he most likely won't. Honestly, if you love this guy, and you're sure he loves you, then give it a shot. Life is really simple, don't judge your future relationships based on your past experiences and experiences of others. Just use your brain, ensure his feelings are genuine, then bring him over.

Confusedgirlie:
I knew him before leaving the country. He was in Nigeria and was doing quite okay, even though I was earning more than him.

We separated for a while since I wanted to focus a little on my new life. But recently, we connected again. I'm just realizing I still have something for him in spite of the time and distance. But I'm really confused about starting anything because it will mean that I have to bring him over.

What are the chances he won't take advantage of me?

if you don't trust him, you can count on me, I will not disappoint you
yo

Ladipo35:


Another set of people that post things Just for attention and comments. We all know women don't do things like this. No woman will jand to abroad and be thinking of bringing a man along, not even her husband sef

So , next

First time in UK, and it was my fiancee that brought me over.

Confusedgirlie:
I knew him before leaving the country. He was in Nigeria and was doing quite okay, even though I was earning more than him.

We separated for a while since I wanted to focus a little on my new life. But recently, we connected again. I'm just realizing I still have something for him in spite of the time and distance. But I'm really confused about starting anything because it will mean that I have to bring him over.

What are the chances he won't take advantage of me?

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How is this our problem?

Don't you have brain to think for yourselves anymore?

Do you expect strangers to turn clairvoyant and predict the future for you? Go to the nearest pastor and hand over some cash. I am sure he will predict exactly what you want to hear depending on how you present the story.

Lest I forget.. make sure you are wearing an iron pant if the pastor is a Nigerian male.

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I beg you to help him in freewill.
Life out here is hard.
And please help on a neutral level.
If you got any motive or something please let him know right here b4
Thanks as u do

Going by your previous posts and this. I can say you don't really love the guy to make this type of sacrifice freely for him. You ed him after you see your low chances of marrying someone already in Canada.

And you didn't tell us if you are the one pestering him now about moving to Canada or if he is the one pushing for it.

If you are the one pushing him to move to Canada based on your own selfish reason that you couldn't get a Canadian based dude, please abort the mission. It might not end well.

For it to work out, you must be genuinely in love with him to freely do such a favor for him and he must be very willing to relocate to Canada, not by you pushing him.

Well for you to write this at 4:52 am shows that you are really thinking about it. . . I wish I do have the right answer for you, but I don't , so I would advice you to seek the Lord in Prayers... Because you are about to put yourself in a long term commitment and it won't be good to throw the man out in the cold if things don't go as you plan, make he no go froze.

chigoziri2403:
What is your aim of bringing him to Canada
To be your Tomboy?

yes now, you think it's easy for a lady to live in a very cold country without a prick that will always heat her up?

BABANGBALI:
yes now, you think it's easy for a lady to live in a very cold country without a prick that will always heat her up?

So why didn't she take him in the first place
He's now an option

Helpout12345:
Going by your previous posts and this. I can say you don't really love the guy to make this type of sacrifice freely for him. You ed him after you see your low chances of marrying someone already in Canada.

And you didn't tell us if you are the one pestering him now about moving to Canada or if he is the one pushing for it.

If you are the one pushing him to move to Canada based on your own selfish reason that you couldn't get a Canadian based dude, please abort the mission. It might not end well.

For it to work out, you must be genuinely in love with him to freely do such a favor for him and he must be very willing to relocate to Canada, not by you pushing him.

she is not in any love with the guy, he is just an alternative and I'm sure she would kick him out at any time

Confusedgirlie:
I knew him before leaving the country. He was in Nigeria and was doing quite okay, even though I was earning more than him.

We separated for a while since I wanted to focus a little on my new life. But recently, we connected again. I'm just realizing I still have something for him in spite of the time and distance. But I'm really confused about starting anything because it will mean that I have to bring him over.

What are the chances he won't take advantage of me?

Of you love him and you both share the same idear and he is and ready to work, take him in and don't be shy to ask him if he is in relationship now? So that you will not come and tell us later that the man you helped to get to Canada, left you and married another woman. So get all this info. I can help you since he has not left yet. But it's not free oh.

chigoziri2403:

So why didn't she take him in the first place
He's now an option

yes, he is now just an option and she knows it

skales67:


No mind the babe. African Black women and the least sought after women in Canada and Europe and most parts of the United States. Caucasian men prefer their fellow Caucasians, Latino, Asian and Hispanic women to African women. For African men, the reverse is the case...African men are the most sought after men by Caucasian women.

African men are NOT the most sought-after men by caucasian women. Where una de see this lie sef?

Ok let me put it another way. If the only thing going on for you is that you are black, or even worse, come big like Mr. Ibu, then sorry is thy name

Confusedgirlie:
I knew him before leaving the country. He was in Nigeria and was doing quite okay, even though I was earning more than him.

We separated for a while since I wanted to focus a little on my new life. But recently, we connected again. I'm just realizing I still have something for him in spite of the time and distance. But I'm really confused about starting anything because it will mean that I have to bring him over.

What are the chances he won't take advantage of me?

Don't bring him to disgrace him sha

BABANGBALI:
she is not in any love with the guy, he is just an alternative and I'm sure she would kick him out at any time

I want to believe so too. She said the guy is doing well in Nigeria. I hope the guy has sense too not to jeopardize his career in Nigeria for selfish reason of a woman to move to western country where the woman has more rights than him.

Abeg let him find his own way there. You’ll be waiting for him.

This way there are no expectations.

Why did you guys break up in the first place?

While you're trying to answer that question, I will suggest you guys start a relationship from the long distance, let the relationship get serious up to getting married level.
Chip in the coming together as one i.e marriage topic, at that point being together will come in naturally.
Don't rush it to avoid looking or appearing desperate.


Note: If your intention is to use him, it won't work, you will fail, but if it is genuine, don't worry it will work out successfully.

Upworkwriter007:
There are hardened heartbroken ladies on nairaland, so be careful of who you take advise from. BTW, what's the big deal of bringing a guy you love over? I don't get. He didn't take advantage of you when you were earning more than him in Nigeria, so he most likely won't. Honestly, if you love this guy, and you're sure he loves you, then give it a shot. Life is really simple, don't judge your future relationships based on your past experiences and experiences of others. Just use your brain, ensure his feelings are genuine, then bring him over.

Guys the bring gals everyday with plenty heart break. That one never stop guys to the bring gals come. Make nairalanders stop to the make our ladies single. Believe you in me of you are afraid of carrying out anything in life you won't be happy in a long run. Singleness doesn't pay in old age. Getting married abroad is very difficult. Just say now guys don wise. Marrying abroad is 100 times better than coming to 9ja to marry

DaniWhizbang:
And what package do you have for him soon as he arrives? If you're not the type that go on wailing and cursing men with the "after all I did for him" then I suggest you weigh the situation. If the cost outweighs the benefits, then you know what to do.

Meanwhile, I can't really understand why a man will leave his home for a woman. Never a good move to make. It should be the other way round

What is this one saying? "Why a man will leave his hone for a woman". So if your girlfriend invites you to Canada, you won't go? Except you have something really worth it here.

BABANGBALI:
yes, he is now just an option and she knows it

The worst that can happen to a man is being controlled by the emotions of a woman

advanceDNA:


This thread is funny......
Shes not buying him a car oooo...
Shes not buying him a house ooo....

See her over thinking before doing something they will both enjoy....

...i will always say it women are not stupid...they are the real redpillers....they are way smarter than men...

. if na man..he go don collect loan for work to bring her, over all expense paid.

Future is female

Let him bring himself if you say he’s doing well….

hey,the connection is not enough but intension,be careful and make him undergo test here in 9ja to ascertain if he is still worthy of your love

Corporate2020:


He has not asked you to bring him over because he is not an item you bring over. Just as you stated, he is doing okay for himself, so he doesn't need the small change you are making. He is also not in need of a wife. You are the desperate and pathetic one here. So, go and continue in your Freezing state.

why all this nonsense bashing for huh?

vickydevoka:

Guys the bring gals everyday with plenty heart break. That one never stop guys to the bring gals come. Make nairalanders stop to the make our ladies single. Believe you in me of you are afraid of carrying out anything in life you won't be happy in a long run. Singleness doesn't pay in old age. Getting married abroad is very difficult. Just say now guys don wise. Marrying abroad is 100 times better than coming to 9ja to marry

I can count a number of ladies that picked their spouse from Nigeria. Two to be precise, and they're both happily married. When people have poor ability to attract good people, they tend to make it a generic problem and not their problem. If you choose right, you'll marry right.

You better not try it. If it didn't work out when you were here with him, what makes you think it will work out when he comes over? Be friendly where you are, other men will come.