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Bahamas95:
A Chinese proverb says......."Don't lock a bird up in a cage, allow it fly. If it's truly yours it will come back"




I know OP is scared he might lose her to other guys, if you're meant for each other nothing can break the bond. There're still few faithful women out there, she could be one of them.

I was viewing as a guest,but this your comment made me . What is fly away and come back? She should just continue flying.. Person don package her for op back.. Op go soon receive wedding invitation card or see pre wedding pics on nairaland. No be Virginia people again. U never sabi the present ones we have now then.. You say few of the girls we have these days are faithful, I will like to know which state? Maybe the one you haven't caught sha.. One bitch dey tell me yesterday of how her bitch frd,carry belle from another state, go give her mumu figure head boyfriend. The mumu boyfriend don go do introduction, thinking he owns the pregnancy... Op let her go ,face your life. If she comes back ,tell her to continue doing her masters ..

Meetmeat:
The lady in question does not have a system to pull through her masters.I always advise fresh graduate to have a career job before going for masters as this would determine what area of masters to purse.I am speaking from a HR perspective.

someone is bankrolling her.....and she doesn't want to miss the opportunity....who knows..it .might be abroad seff

OP, please trace that guy via Facebook and give him an anonymous tip that the pregnancy is not for him! Help a brother, man!

BigYash:
I was viewing as a guest,but this your comment made me . What is fly away and come back? She should just continue flying.. Person don package her for op back.. Op go soon receive wedding invitation card or see pre wedding pics on nairaland. No be Virginia people again. U never sabi the present ones we have now then.. You say few of the girls we have these days are faithful, I will like to know which state? Maybe the one you haven't caught sha.. One bitch dey tell me yesterday of how her bitch frd, carry belle from another state, go give her mumu figure head boyfriend. The mumu boyfriend don go do introduction, thinking he owns the pregnancy... Op let her go ,face your life. If she comes back ,tell her to continue doing her masters ..

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

You are not moving in the right direction, peacefully go your separate ways. She probably does not envisage selling cards in the long term.

Some years ago, Canadian immigration for Express Entry began in full swing. Amongst other points which I would not bore you with, those with Masters earned higher points than those with degree. PHD had higher points than those with masters. Degree scored had a high score compared to who only had OND and so on. These points amongst others helped people move up in the pool.

We cannot tell the doors that will open for her tomorrow and this same masters will give her leverage. Who knows she may get fully sponsored masters or PhD program abroad tomorrow. You are not her maker and you don't know why God has put the masters degree longing in her heart.

When a man/woman has an inner longing to achieve a goal, please don't stand in their way. Move away and you too find the woman who aligns with you and will equally give you peace.

What is the use of a 2nd degree when 1st degree is not bringing food to the table.

I guess that is your point.You are very correct though.

Now, I hope u are not ing your business together, because na there you go cry tomorrow.

Let her do her masters, mistress and heaster, don't ever business with her.

Focus on your own and channel your energy towards innovations that will improve your business.

Melonny:
OP is just scared she's gonna leave. Don't be an enemy of progress.

she has left since ...op is not just aware yet..


she's hustling with a guy, want to go for masters..yet say she doesn't need the guys .....sounds like coded break up message..

did she get full scholarship??
someone is bankrolling her..no doubt...
she fit don do introduction seff make our guy here dey form owner ....

Moneyyman:
OP, please trace that guy via Facebook and give him an anonymous tip that the pregnancy is not for him! Help a brother, man!

No bros. Any man when refused to wise for woman matter these days,make he continue to dey simp and suffer the consequences. How will his girl friend( wife to be) be in another state,and he cared less to monitor her moves. She is into full time runs,she is only a saint when she is with her guy,according to her frd. I no dey fight for SIMple guys again,my nigga.

Wow.. first time you are saying something meaningful on this forum.

Islandlady:
Seriously you did not do anything wrong Op, but if she insist on doing the Masters let her do it, since she told you it's her long time ambition and she don't need your money! I bet she has another source and for money!!!

Continue and expand your own business! Just don't stand as an obstacle for her she is truly a lady of ambition to ire

But if you two don't share common goal or can't get alone with each other dreams then let her go!

I feel you my guy. But maybe the bros dey track her but she smart am. Chai. I'm seriously pained for the guy.

BigYash:
No bros. Any man when refused to wise for woman matter these days,make he continue to dey simp and suffer the consequences. How will his girl friend( wife to be) be in another state,and he cared less to monitor her moves. She is into full time runs,she is only a saint when she is with her guy,according to her frd. I no dey fight for SIMple guys again,my nigga.

BigYash:
I was viewing as a guest,but this your comment made me . What is fly away and come back? She should just continue flying.. Person don package her for op back.. Op go soon receive wedding invitation card or see pre wedding pics on nairaland. No be Virginia people again. U never sabi the present ones we have now then.. You say few of the girls we have these days are faithful, I will like to know which state? Maybe the one you haven't caught sha.. One bitch dey tell me yesterday of how her bitch frd,carry belle from another state, go give her mumu figure head boyfriend. The mumu boyfriend don go do introduction, thinking he owns the pregnancy... Op let her go ,face your life. If she comes back ,tell her to continue doing her masters ..

That was why I said FEW FAITHFUL WOMEN. A God fearing woman will never cheat on her man no matter what.....Am not saying I trust all of them but virtuous women are still out there. Only a lucky man can grab his own among the few available ones.

Nobody holy , if I tell you the numbers of women wey I don straff since I kerewalogy ministry you fit think say I dey exaggerate.

Bahamas95:
That was why I said FEW FAITHFUL WOMEN. A God fearing woman will never cheat on her man no matter what.....Am not saying I trust all of them but virtuous women are still out there. Only a lucky man can grab his own among the few available ones.

Nobody holy , if I tell you the numbers of women wey I don straff since I kerewalogy ministry you fit think say I dey exaggerate.

Thanks be to God you know how it is,my nigga.

She seems to be my kind of lady. PhD is the goal for any soul in my life.

I don't think the business should close cos of the masters programme. I stand to be corrected but it seems the post graduate programmes are more flexible than undergraduate. The discussion should centre on how to keep the business running while she starts the programme. She can hire someone to oversee it for an agreed reasonable monthly salary while she goes ahead with her studies and get from her staff periodically.

Moneyyman:
I feel you my guy. But maybe the bros dey track her but she smart am. Chai. I'm seriously pained for the guy.

The thing pain me yesterday too. Person loved her,open business for her. That no reach her,she decided to pay him with evil. I pray he re to run DNA test later on and early enough .. If not,he will just be training another man's child, thinking the child is his blood.

stonecoldcafe:


You are not moving in the right direction, peacefully go your separate ways. She probably does not envisage selling cards in the long term.

Some years ago, Canadian immigration for Express Entry began in full swing. Amongst other points which I would not bore you with, those with Masters earned higher points than those with degree. PHD had higher points than those with masters. Degree scored had a high score compared to who only had OND and so on. These points amongst others helped people move up in the pool.

We cannot tell the doors that will open for her tomorrow and this same masters will give her leverage. Who knows she may get fully sponsored masters or PhD program abroad tomorrow. You are not her maker and you don't know why God has put the masters degree longing in her heart.

When a man/woman has an inner longing to achieve a goal, please don't stand in their way. Move away and you too find the woman who aligns with you and will equally give you peace.

Not all longings and ambitions are right, it may still boils down from her lofty desire,, like it or not going for masters with no job or any hope of a job is an act of been lofty, even God himself plan before he does anything

victooman:
If you love a person and they are about taking a wrong step wont you call them to order? if her parents is bouyant enough to send her to school that is a different issue, We both dont have parents who are bouyant enough, we saved and plan this business right during our service year, the aim is even if we will be making 1k a day we will be grateful, as God will have it, it turns out better for both of us, in most case we make upto 10k in those shops ,l telling her as this money is coming in,save and open another branch,of recent she told me she is interested in going into water business instead of opening another pos store, l encourage her to do it, l have another branch already and the aim is for us to grow and build our life since we have nobody, now my sister, tell me of what use is this masters at this point,, she claim she dont want my money now but when it get tough the blackmail will definitely set in, doing masters now is more of gambling, it assured nothing, when we do the basic, get married and establish a good business and life she herself will enjoy doing her masters.

I get your point too and you made some valid points honestly. It’s better you both come at an agreement then. She can always do her masters anytime.

Its her life cause shes your GF does not mean you have the right to make her life choices and she is a good girl who knows what she wants and does not easily back off from her goals breakup with her and you would loose something of value

victooman:
Nobody is degrading education, you dont leave a bird in your hand chasing monkeys on the trees, all l am saying is expand your source of income first, we already have a bsc, most jobs that comes now she will be qualified for them, so this master should be a later issue not now.

Unfortunately, she doesn’t agree to that.
And she isn’t wrong, she has her freedom to decide what she wants for herself

Too bad. I feel for the guy man. I pray the child doesn't even look remotely like him so they can ask questions.

BigYash:
The thing pain me yesterday too. Person loved her,open business for her. That no reach her,she decided to pay him with evil. I pray he re to run DNA test later on and early enough .. If not,he will just be training another man's child, thinking the child is his blood.

Kriss216:
You're not her father or husband...allow her do whatever she wants. Learn to channel this energy to better your life and that of your family!


I know you're surprised how a girl you've been struggling with all of a sudden has money and resources to further her studies...well, she's a Nigerian girl, they always got plan B.

Their husband or boyfriend are not always in their plan B.

victooman read this guy post with open mind, there is no big deal in her pursuing her Masters degree but answer yourself this question



does she have the financial strength for such move?, is she from a rich home? does she have a uncle that assist when she's in school? if the answer is No



bro you're about to meet the person that had been sharing the cookies with you all this while, if you intend to find you might be disappointed. the best is to stay focus and continue to expand your business





the woman I married for house I don use money she sent to me to take care of so called fiancé (ex gf), the babe get plan B but me dey fool myself. just be wise

Kriss216:
You're not her father or husband...allow her do whatever she wants. Learn to channel this energy to better your life and that of your family!


I know you're surprised how a girl you've been struggling with all of a sudden has money and resources to further her studies...well, she's a Nigerian girl, they always got plan B.

Their husband or boyfriend are not always in their plan B.

Moneyyman:
Too bad. I feel for the guy man. I pray the child doesn't even look remotely like him so they can ask questions.

Amen!

We see differently, infact we have different destinies and different goals in life. Work towards yours and let her too.

victooman:
Thank you very much, That is what l will emphasize on, some people are just myopic in nature, the degree she did no job came out of it, you happen to get a good location were business is booming ,you want to dump it after a year to go for a master degree, a girl that is in her late twenties already that should be thinking on settling down,,

Oga, not every woman is after marriage. Marriage wey you no fit predict the outcome these days.

No be every woman dey pressure herself to be a housewife especially when they've not fulfilled some of their dreams. You have a woman who wants to expand her horizon and you're trying to block her blessings with your insecurity.

Let her go!!

@Op, after reading ur story and ur reply to most comments, I had no option than to fall in love with ur way of reasoning. Guy u are a hustler, guy u get sense, guy u understand 9ja, guy u know where u are coming from and u know where u are going, Guy u dey see tomorrow.

We dey reason alike, E just be like say na me dey type those repies. Guy I like school well well, after my degree if to say i get money i go read get doctorate. But u no fit run am with empty pocket. So I had to drop d certificates go hustle cos degree with empty pocket dey pain o.

my advise is this: My brother, woman must always act like woman. Sometimes we cant force our opinion on people esp when they see things from a different angle from ours. A saying goes: u can take a horse to d stream but...... I tell u what, let her be. Things may even not even turn out d way u are thinking. Bother less, ur fears may not even manifest.Just tell her d ones u can her with and d ones ur power no reach. U cant come kill urself ontop woman matter.If she is meant for u, she will still come back after Harvard. Allow her follow her dream for now. At least she get small sense most 9ja babes.

IamMobisola:


Because your certificate isn’t useful to you and you aren’t using it to make money doesn’t mean it will be the same for everybody else. There are people that have applied for scholarships abroad to study for masters degree, UK has 2 years Poststudy work visa on which you can work for two years and migrate to work visa from there. Same with Canada where you can even get your Residence permit after a year. And all these require your first degree certificate.
There are many people on this route already and I am also in the process.

There are so many things you can do with your certificates.

Leave them to their pos business and let them keep comparing themselves to Harvard drop outs and other billionaires that didn’t finish school.

School open lots of opportunities for people

Islandlady:
Seriously you did not do anything wrong Op, but if she insist on doing the Masters let her do it, since she told you it's her long time ambition and she don't need your money! I bet she has another source and for money!!!

Continue and expand your own business! Just don't stand as an obstacle for her she is truly a lady of ambition to ire

But if you two don't share common goal or can't get alone with each other dreams then let her go!

I would not even advise him to wed the lady because they are age mates; I think he should pick somebody younger.

IamMobisola:


Because your certificate isn’t useful to you and you aren’t using it to make money doesn’t mean it will be the same for everybody else. There are people that have applied for scholarships abroad to study for masters degree, UK has 2 years Poststudy work visa on which you can work for two years and migrate to work visa from there. Same with Canada where you can even get your Residence permit after a year. And all these require your first degree certificate.
There are many people on this route already and I am also in the process.

There are so many things you can do with your certificates.

True but many are still stuck here

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

After NYSC I decided to do my Masters. I wasn't financially stable at that time but I decided to do it regardless. I recall an undergraduate classmate saying something similar to what you told your girl, he said the first degree hasn't yielded anything why am I wasting my time/resources doing a second degree.

Long story short, it turned out to be one of the best decisions I ever made in my life. I won't be where I am today if not for the Masters degree. Like they say, it's better to be prepared and not have an opportunity than to have an opportunity and not be prepared.

In my opinion, I don't think this is enough reason to end a relationship except you have other reasons.

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

Life/long time ambition?
RUN!!

I'm just kidding bro.

On a serious note, your girl understands the situation of the world and she's taking her destiny jealousy in her hands.
First degrees are not enough to get you going anymore. Her decision to get a masters degree is the best she'll have to make.
You better her through the programme.
Postgraduate degrees are not compulsorily full time. She can still school while taking part in the business. Afterwards, you too can start studying for a Masters degree.
Opportunities can pop up anytime and a Masters degree holder has an edge over one with just a first degree any day, anytime.

And should you still decide to break up with her, just be a nice guy and send me her . I am still single and looking for an ambitious woman like your soon to be ex.

SoapQueen:


Oga, not every woman is after marriage. Marriage wey you no fit predict the outcome these days.

No be every woman dey pressure herself to be a housewife especially when they've not fulfilled some of their dreams. You have a woman who wants to expand her horizon and you're trying to block her blessings with your insecurity.

Let her go!!

you dont know shit about insecurities, if l decide to break up with her and move on, she will be the one to open a thread here and start complaining on how she suffered with me and l dump her,, l guess l hit a part in you when l mention marriage,, she is not like you she needed marriage .so what you tag as expanding horizone is taking risk without calculation, so getting a master degree is expanding her horizone but expanding a business is not,, see how myopic your mind can be , there are many women available o, l am holding on to this one because l love her and we have come far and l dont want to hurt anyone, stop making it look as if l will end up as a priest if she decides to leave, in this country now you should know that having a business and basic skills is a bigger way of expanding horizone than reading theories and obtaining certificate that will add so little ur life

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

my Advice, leave her to chase her dream.

God no go let you be a dream killer.
If she's your sis will you advise her wasting her time with POS guy