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Its cool, i prefer separate rooms, why must we stay in same room, i even like distance relationships and marriages

Thryphosa:
It is too early to for the hubby to sleep in a separate room just a year into their marriage. However, it is possible if the husband is the type who works at night and doesnt want disturbance. As for me, i started sleeping in a separate room after the birth of our first daughter due to the nature of my work, a reseacher, i work well at night and the internet is always at its best at night.

U use internet to do research E be like say u just dey copy peoples work online.

Na play oh

Truvelisback:
U didn't ask her what prompted the man's action and u are seeking for advice.

VERY TRUE. MAYBE U SHOULD ASK WHAT CAUSED IT. MAYBE SHE'S OVER FRUSTRATING HIM AND HE DECIDED TO TAKE HIS SPACE. SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME AND I DECIDED TO PARK WELL IN MY OWN ROOM FOR SAKE OF PEACE.

mohziz1:
Hi nairalands...

I received a call from my female friend whose wedding is just a year old, she was weeping on phone seriously.

I tried to percify her and asked what the problem is, she said her husband wants to sleep in a separate room and she told him she is not okay with it.

To cut the story short, the husband had succeeded in separating their room, she said she feels lonely at night and she has tried to talk to him but he wouldn't listen.

Pls what advise can I give to her, and is it okay for a newly wedded couple to sleep in a separate room

tell her to work o her beauty and that she should smell nice and pray about it too (she should wait and not expect a day result)

Maybe she dey mess too much. We seem to underate certain things.

If I have the money, my wife and I wont even live in the same building. She can come to my duplex when she is on heat and I can go to hers whenever I need to send her on an errand or to beat her

clydecarson:


I feel the man is fetish and he doesn't want to cast in her presence

This is not true!

Interesting.

She might have no bed room courtesy, inappropriate use of phone, snoring, touchy, dirtiness, rough, unkept and unarranged. Won't was bedsheed often. Sloftful, cooks easy not so nutritious food and demands for excess sex. Might have body odour and the virgina can also be smelly, mouth odour inclusive and poor personal hygiene. Does not know when and how to take bath appropriately. Infections might find it difficult to get into a man but when it finally gets in it might prove very fatal most of the time. Besides for a man to live long he has to be effectively and concoiusly nursed by his wife. But I fear for women of thisday. Hence most men try to minimize with those who will increase the risk due to hygine and some spiritual reasons too.

What is wrong there,all this newly wed ehh,my husband like the light on,his bed soft and a very cold room( he do on the ac and fan together,can you imagine),I hate cold(very allergic to cold places) prefer an orthopedic bed and like a dark room,after decades of misunderstanding na so I migrated to another room,I sleep well without dragging remote with person son and I do check on the kids alot at night which would disturb his restful sleep.
Pls don't see it as something bad unless she is suspecting him of other things.

Kobojunkie:
Your friend is not telling you the entire truth about her relationship so until you get the truth from her mouth about why the husband demands to sleep in a separate room, do more digging and less alerting. Or better yet, tell her make she bring her case make we hear from her instead.

WE HEREBY SUMMON HER TO THIS PLATFORM TO MAKE HER CASE OPEN FOR ADVISE/JUDGMENT.

Let her find out his reason for seeking a separate room...

Mine was because of baby cry at night

Having separate room is nothing to sweat over. I will even encourage it for all couples.

This is how my house is.All en-suite and the visitors’ toilet close to the living room.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
What is wrong here...
People be making moutain out of a gadamnnn mohill


It is normal for the man to have his own room na....and the woman should have her own room also

It doesn't mean anything....she can at times sleep in her husbands room....infact during coitus...na the husband room the sex go for play na..
Same thing happened to my elder sister....her husband got his own room and my sister have her own room...but you know the funny thing now...my sister have access and play in her her husband's room anyday anytime twice on her ovulation period...

If I finally decide to marry.....I will have my own room. My wife got her own room..the kids have their own separate room...and then there will also be a visitors or guest room....with each room having their own toilets and bathroom but with a general or shared kitchen

When did this become a national issue?

It's possible now without any sinister meaning attached.. could be stress related sef.

I like my privacy ooh, and I don't like body while I am asleep.

I feel there's something she is kit telling you. During the course of this one year after wedding when they're sharing same room the husband should have expressed some dislike over something with her, maybe she just sweep it under the carpet and the husband might be my type that don't talk much but find solution ad soon as I can.

I can't come and be doing praying and fasting over a problem I know the solution to. Life is too short to worry over anything.



WTF Man

toujurs:
How do you gys even keep female friends, i guess am not lucky on that. Doesn't she ask you for money or favours all the time , With no positive impact in your life

lol wahala dey sleep man go wake am

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
What is wrong here...
People be making moutain out of a gadamnnn mohill


It is normal for the man to have his own room na....and the woman should have her own room also

It doesn't mean anything....she can at times sleep in her husbands room....infact during coitus...na the husband room the sex go for play na..
Same thing happened to my elder sister....her husband got his own room and my sister have her own room...but you know the funny thing now...my sister have access and play in her her husband's room anyday anytime twice on her ovulation period...

If I finally decide to marry.....I will have my own room. My wife got her own room..the kids have their own separate room...and then there will also be a visitors or guest room....with each room having their own toilets and bathroom but with a general or shared kitchen

Grew up with this setup and I never saw or heard my mum complain, neither did my dad did. They all go to each others room anytime. They watch their movies in any room

Usually men like that just want to watch porn in peace. He Has got to that point where his physical other half cant tame his virtual unreal craving for big nyash, big breast, and novelty.

The poor woman is measured against all the professional porn stars and she obviously failed all tests miserably in his mind...hence the need for space.

Porn na your mate

mohziz1:
Hi nairalands...

I received a call from my female friend whose wedding is just a year old, she was weeping on phone seriously.

I tried to percify her and asked what the problem is, she said her husband wants to sleep in a separate room and she told him she is not okay with it.

To cut the story short, the husband had succeeded in separating their room, she said she feels lonely at night and she has tried to talk to him but he wouldn't listen.

Pls what advise can I give to her, and is it okay for a newly wedded couple to sleep in a separate room

You robbed us when you decided to “ cut a long story short “ like we are in a hurry. Maybe Seun could somehow allow voice notes so “we” don’t have to type so long.

Back to the matter at hand - there is no harm in couples sleeping in separate rooms. The issue in this case is because it’s just a year old.

People sleep in different rooms for this reason
1. Either partner snores
2. One person wakes up on one side of the bed all his life.
3. Sex - usually around 5am, some men have erection and may turn to his wife for action. The wife who is asleep is asked “ are you awake “ or “ are you sleeping “ - well I am awake now, she responds. So in order for the wife to get rest . A reasonable man will temporarily sleep in separate room.
4. Different Routines. One works night shift, the other a different shift. So In order for both to have 8 hour rest. Separate rooms might work.
5. Nagging - Some women take this time to nag about one thing or the other. Having a discussion is one thing but complaining is another.
6. Masturbation - The man may just want to flag his horse to death just before sleeping.
7. Tv habits- one likes to watch GOT, another likes to watch AGT.

In any case. I know tons of people who sleep in separate rooms . Yours truly included.
They can both agree on sex days/ room. Say “ Like so - honey , I am coming for some whoopie action today .”

Usually, it’s discussed and not all of a sudden like the end result of an agrument. You said she was crying - the why, what ,when - we have been robbed !
Tell your friend to open google and search other reasons.
Nothing new under the sun but
Somethings are new under the African sun.

mohziz1:
Hi nairalands...

I received a call from my female friend whose wedding is just a year old, she was weeping on phone seriously.

I tried to percify her and asked what the problem is, she said her husband wants to sleep in a separate room and she told him she is not okay with it.

To cut the story short, the husband had succeeded in separating their room, she said she feels lonely at night and she has tried to talk to him but he wouldn't listen.

Pls what advise can I give to her, and is it okay for a newly wedded couple to sleep in a separate room

It may be that she is a dirty and a disorganized person and the husband can't stand it. There are certain things that can't be said to one's spouse so as not to hurt their feelings. She should watch out for thing(s) the man did in his own room differently to woo him back.

Na so some men go dey form principle and another man or neighbor go dey bang there wife.

Solosolojohquay:
Powerful African men don't sleep in the same room with a woman her husband just go the African way there must be a secret reason behind it strong men don't tell tales either

only men like us fit reason like this sha, odogwu I salama for u

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
What is wrong here...
People be making moutain out of a gadamnnn mohill


It is normal for the man to have his own room na....and the woman should have her own room also

It doesn't mean anything....she can at times sleep in her husbands room....infact during coitus...na the husband room the sex go for play na..
Same thing happened to my elder sister....her husband got his own room and my sister have her own room...but you know the funny thing now...my sister have access and play in her her husband's room anyday anytime twice on her ovulation period...

If I finally decide to marry.....I will have my own room. My wife got her own room..the kids have their own separate room...and then there will also be a visitors or guest room....with each room having their own toilets and bathroom but with a general or shared kitchen

THATS MY BOY

Uniquetani1:
She should ask him if he still loves her.
Na so divorce process dey start.



But I will like a separate room with my husband, I don't like disturb

This is the beginning of divorce o.
My ex mum told her to live separately from me.
Immediately she left our room to hers,the marriage died.we divorced 5 years later.

I so much love my personal space, i won't chase her ooh, but she would be be the one to scamper for safety..into her own space! reason? two hours before bed time i will make sure i eat a wrap of okpa and four cooked eggs..the offensive and nauseating pepperish fumes from my farts does the job!

SavageResponse:
Maybe you did something that made him suddenly decide he wants to have his own room.

It's also possible that you snore or you spend a long time gossiping with friends on the phone and he finds it distracting

Not to mention farts bombing like Russian doomsday jet and its occurring smell like yesterday beans wey dem no warm

mohziz1:
Hi nairalands...

I received a call from my female friend whose wedding is just a year old, she was weeping on phone seriously.

I tried to percify her and asked what the problem is, she said her husband wants to sleep in a separate room and she told him she is not okay with it.

To cut the story short, the husband had succeeded in separating their room, she said she feels lonely at night and she has tried to talk to him but he wouldn't listen.

Pls what advise can I give to her, and is it okay for a newly wedded couple to sleep in a separate room

She no dey work?

Tell her to focus on her work, engage in new hobbies. If she get plenty money, make she build her own house.

Any time wey craze enter the man head, she go port fast.

mohziz1:
Hi nairalands...

I received a call from my female friend whose wedding is just a year old, she was weeping on phone seriously.

I tried to percify her and asked what the problem is, she said her husband wants to sleep in a separate room and she told him she is not okay with it.

To cut the story short, the husband had succeeded in separating their room, she said she feels lonely at night and she has tried to talk to him but he wouldn't listen.

Pls what advise can I give to her, and is it okay for a newly wedded couple to sleep in a separate room

imagine married woman is having issue and you re the first person she call, am sure her husband saw something fishy between u too nau..is better to separate room than to have STD..and to top it all she told u, she is feeling lonely haaaa ebèrù olorun nau......na man the husband be joh...next na divorce if she no change her ways.

mohziz1:
Hi nairalands...

I received a call from my female friend whose wedding is just a year old, she was weeping on phone seriously.

I tried to percify her and asked what the problem is, she said her husband wants to sleep in a separate room and she told him she is not okay with it.

To cut the story short, the husband had succeeded in separating their room, she said she feels lonely at night and she has tried to talk to him but he wouldn't listen.

Pls what advise can I give to her, and is it okay for a newly wedded couple to sleep in a separate room

]imagine married woman is having issue and you re the first person she call, am sure her husband saw something fishy between u too nau..is better to separate room than to have STD..and to top it all she told u, she is feeling lonely haaaa ebèrù olorun nau......na man the husband be joh...next na divorce if she no change her ways.

Exactly my carbon copy

Solosolojohquay:
Powerful African men don't sleep in the same room with a woman her husband just go the African way there must be a secret reason behind it strong men don't tell tales either

brightest5050:
Truth be told I see nothing wrong in couple having their separate rooms

. God bless you. I am one of such.

I take a stroll...