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Peerielass:


It’s per month.

Wow

Glad for a thread like this. I have three boys and I’m worried lest they pick up the typical British waywardness..
I find many of us Nigerians myself inclusive don’t encourage our children to speak our local languages. The Asians and Indians/Pakistanis do that a lot. It may help the children that we are actually Africans and help in this training/raising our children that we are discussing

babythug:
Glad for a thread like this. I have three boys and I’m worried lest they pick up the typical British waywardness..
I find many of us Nigerians myself inclusive don’t encourage our children to speak our local languages. The Asians and Indians/Pakistanis do that a lot. It may help the children that we are actually Africans and help in this training/raising our children that we are discussing

The language this is another issue to unlearn and relearn �

It's not easy honestly. Especially if the parents are from different ethnic groups. I ire the Asians when I hear their kids speak, but incorporating it is a big issue. I don't even to speak to them. May God help me

Joydan95:

Thanks for the response. The 800 -1k is it for a term or what duration?

Per month

Vicas2000:


Kudos to both men and women starting afresh in a new country. God help us all.

Lol. Did you really take that to be a slight?

HeyHey:
Thank you for this thread oo

Just got itted to RGU Aberdeen by God’s grace, will like to bring my kids currently aged 4 and 6, both boys. Both very noisy too.

More helpful tips please

Hey Sis, I got ission too, looking forward to bringing my daughter, can we connect

babythug:
Glad for a thread like this. I have three boys and I’m worried lest they pick up the typical British waywardness..
I find many of us Nigerians myself inclusive don’t encourage our children to speak our local languages. The Asians and Indians/Pakistanis do that a lot. It may help the children that we are actually Africans and help in this training/raising our children that we are discussing

The language issue gives me headache I won’t lie. I’ve heard the way is to speak the language you want them to learn exclusively at home but it’s not easy. People that are doing it successfully should show us the way.

If someone beats his child what will happen..

isaacola57:
If someone beats his child what will happen.. Cuz I don't want spoilt children

Your child can go to school sad, be questioned in school = problem for you up to and not excluding incarceration.

Your child could be hurt and need medical attention = double wahala for you.

Your child’s confidence might be affected if you beat them constantly in this environment.

Not saying you can’t loose it and smack them on rare occasions but the target is to completely eliminate the need to use force.

isaacola57:
If someone beats his child what will happen..

The government will likely take the child from you cos they feel you are mental.

Joydan95:

The government will likely take the child from you cos they feel you are mental.

but no jail term?

isaacola57:
but no jail term?

This cracked me up. �����

isaacola57:
but no jail term?

Taking the children... mentally its the same as jail term

LagosismyHome:


Taking the children... mentally its the same as jail term

Or worse.

Nice & informative thread!

isaacola57:
but no jail term?

There is now a possible jail time. Scotland has ed this into law last year, spanking a child is now dealt with as a criminal case and i heard England is following this.

Excellent thread; I don't know why we don't have one for USA folks.

cc Cococandy

cdieli:
I have been in the UK for 6 months now, my children have started school and its all fun they have been learning new things.
A few advise for those coming with the family:

1) Once you come with a GP.
2) Report yourself to the council they will advise you on schools nearby.
3) Look for a local white church, here in Scotland I attached the family to salvation army. They come every week to see that all is well, Christianity here is different from Nigeria.
4) Learn not to shout for your children, neighbors reported me and my wife that we are always shouting for the kids and police came to question the family. Always put fear on them that if they tell strangers that dad and mum beat them they will take them away

Its been an experience

What do you mean by "shout for the kids"? Like "MUSA WHERE ARE YOU?".

How did you sort it with the police?

nnenwa5:
Excellent thread; I don't know why we don't have one for USA folks.

cc Cococandy

right? You’re spot on.

cococandy:


right? You’re spot on.

Plan a for school shooter response protocol
Plan b for school shooter response protocol
Black parent talk
Plan c school shooter response protocol
Thanks and God bless America

mumzt:


The language this is another issue to unlearn and relearn �

It's not easy honestly. Especially if the parents are from different ethnic groups. I ire the Asians when I hear their kids speak, but incorporating it is a big issue. I don't even to speak to them. May God help me

And when the kids grow up, you all complain that they don't speak their language.

Hello All, Anybody here living in Gloucester? For Mum's whose kids are in primary school;has there been any report on bullying,Do they have black skin kids in their class.

GloriousGbola:


Plan a for school shooter response protocol
Plan b for school shooter response protocol
Black parent talk
Plan c school shooter response protocol
Thanks and God bless America

Hehehe. You’re not wrong

cdieli:
I have been in the UK for 6 months now, my children have started school and its all fun they have been learning new things.
A few advise for those coming with the family:

1) Once you come with a GP.
2) Report yourself to the council they will advise you on schools nearby.
3) Look for a local white church, here in Scotland I attached the family to salvation army. They come every week to see that all is well, Christianity here is different from Nigeria.
4) Learn not to shout for your children, neighbors reported me and my wife that we are always shouting for the kids and police came to question the family. Always put fear on them that if they tell strangers that dad and mum beat them they will take them away

Its been an experience

Can you share some more about the “ white church”? What’s the worship experience like for you and your family?

babythug:
Glad for a thread like this. I have three boys and I’m worried lest they pick up the typical British waywardness..
I find many of us Nigerians myself inclusive don’t encourage our children to speak our local languages. The Asians and Indians/Pakistanis do that a lot. It may help the children that we are actually Africans and help in this training/raising our children that we are discussing

I think its very good to teach it, I love it now when I am in public and can gist or gossip with my mama in peace knowing fully well the public don't know what I am talking about and I want that for my kids

Want and reality can be two different things. I am just finding it hard to actualize. I even paid for zoom lesson from naija, lol. We were all excited and initially started then somehow it fizzled again. ...parenthood no easy. This one thing I hope I can keep trying to be better at . ...

mumzt:
Awesome. We'll done mamatukwas, long overdue thread.

Here alone with 3 kids all under 8. husband is in Nigeria and just shuffles. Schooling and working without breaking a single rule. I hope to contribute as much as possible

God Bless your strength.

Mamatukwas:
After You Arrive The Uk: After getting your accommodation sorted (very key), the next steps to take will be as follows in no particular order:

- your family with a GP Practice. Ideally one close to where you live. Try not to with a GP while in Air B&B or temporary accommodation unless it can’t be helped. It’s way more straightforward when you’re settled.


- your local council and inform them if you have kids of school going age. They will tell you the steps to take in getting your child placed in a school. Note that the hours available to children under 3 as well as school starting age differs for England & Scotland. Familiarize yourself with the law where you live.

- When your kids start school ask if there is a WhatsApp group or Facebook group for your child’s class so they can add you (this info will normally be gotten from a fellow class mum not the teacher)

- Try to be friendly, introduce yourself and make conversation with people when you can. Do not be afraid to ask anyone questions especially in your child’s school. If you think it’s important, always communicate via email. Documentation is important.

- You’re not entitled to public funds. If anyone suggests any ‘benefits’ to you. Listen politely but do not partake. It’s not for you.

- Finally, take it easy on yourself. Don’t try to do too much at once there’s no competition. Once you settle and get stable you can start adding to your plate.

Noted with thanks

The worship experience is encouraging with the whites; they use instruments for their worship they are more concerned about the bible teaching. Tithe and offering are not spoken about. There is a box written offering and tithe your conscience is your judge.

babythug:


Can you share some more about the “ white church”? What’s the worship experience like for you and your family?

tosine25:



You for real? I also wish to move my partner and 3kids ( all under 7) to UK using the student route... while I will be shuffling in between due to my work here in Nigeria.

But people close to me keep telling me this can't work out unless am ready to stay with them in UK and that even if I decide to stay with them, it's not easy to take care of 3 minors overthere.

Pls, how you able to achieve that on your own ?

What works for one person may not work for the other.
Some women like are always say are super women, I don't know how they keep it together.
I work as a full time teacher with 2 kids under 8 as well, but I must confess, it is hard and not cheap. My 2 kids have to attend breakfast and after school club. They both don't eat Oyinbo food so I have to make hot meals everyday.
Schools will call to collect kids when something happens.
If any of them have to stay at home, I automatically have tot stay home as well. Childcare is a full time job on its own.It really is a draconian task to get through everyday.

I have sent SOS message to hubby. I don't know what may happen if I continue like this.

Following

So many topics to discuss on this thread but please can we discuss the PUBLIC SCHOOL SYSTEM.

Most Naija parents feel they get quality education cheaply here which mostly is not the case.
I am a secondary school maths teacher and I weep for these children. Lack of motivation, apathy, to mention a few.

Asides creating a safe and enabling environment for students to learn, PUBLIC SCHOOLS IN UK AREN'T ANY DIFFERENT FROM THOSE IN NIGERIA.

Parents need to be more involved in their children's education.

kaylov12:
So many topics to discuss on this thread but please can we discuss the PUBLIC SCHOOL SYSTEM.

Most Naija parents feel they get quality education cheaply here which mostly is not the case.
I am a secondary school maths teacher and I weep for these children. Lack of motivation, apathy, to mention a few.

Asides creating a safe and enabling environment for students to learn, PUBLIC SCHOOLS IN UK AREN'T ANY DIFFERENT FROM THOSE IN NIGERIA.

Parents need to be more involved in their children's education.

Is this if you compare Public to Public or Public here to Private in Naija? Also are you in England or Scotland?

I agree with you oh, just need some clarity about the comparison.