NewStats: 3,259,273 , 8,169,709 topics. Date: Saturday, 24 May 2025 at 03:45 PM 154073

Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very ionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.

Wao...

To be honest, it takes the grace of God to see a lady that will stand by you even though the whole world is against you.

Most ladies are easily brainwashed by their families whenever they're not in of her relationship.

I'm happy you both settled down happily.

Kingsasian:
Yes, I had to call off the engagement due to bad character and constant malice, she was very very domineering.

You SEE that DOMINEERING wey you MENTION... I hate it like KILODE....
Because I'm the RESERVED AND OBSERVANT TYPE, they'll think they've seen MUMU not knowing that I STING LIKE A BEE...
Imagine a GIRL brought out a TOPIC you know DEEPLY and feel INSULTED because YOU CORRECTED HER and even have the GUT to ask YOU... how did you KNOW?.....

BlaqJosh:
I almost got engaged around last year July -

my babe back then - I went to see a friend as I came back babe served me beta food that evening after eating na I go dey watch TV babe just came unexpectedly begin dey profess her undying love she had for me no be small thing she even knelt down to me telling me sweet things a guy surpose dey tell his babe,

Damn!! I almost fall for her proposal but local man don't want to enter marriage at moment, she's a jealous lover she fit kii person, herself or me if she suspect I dey cheat and no be her surpose propose. Well it's over now

COMRADE.... E be like say you go CHEAT .. off MIC first before responding... OYA TALK NOW..
#TEAM CHEETAH

FalseProphet1:

Why would you date someone you can't marry?

I thought dating is the stepping stone to engagement, then marriage...No?

Yes bro.
We married people we were compatible with. It didn't mean others were bad people. No, they weren't. We didn't use them either.

inumidun2010:


COMRADE.... E be like say you go CHEAT .. off MIC first before responding... OYA TALK NOW..
#TEAM CHEETAH

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Lol,
Bro I might not cheat on her but she dey like monitor most my movement,calls and chats
and it's very risky, if I answer call from any other babe she go feel say I don dey cheat on her. No be woman go kii

BlaqJosh:
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Lol,
Bro I might not cheat on her but she dey like monitor most my movement,calls and chats
and it's very risky, if I answer call from any other babe she go feel say I don dey cheat on her. No be woman go kii

Ok... Yours is even better... IHUOMA wey TEAR ME hot SLAP because I was talking to her FRIEND in her PRESENCE nko....
All is well

inumidun2010:


Ok... Yours is even better... IHUOMA wey TEAR ME hot SLAP because I was talking to her FRIEND in her PRESENCE nko....
All is well

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lol, Take heart bro. Still all good

BigDawsNet:
Almost..
I thought I can handle a feminist...

the only way to handle a feminist is to dick her to submission

Naa SIMPle man dey engage

inumidun2010:



You SEE that DOMINEERING wey you MENTION... I hate it like KILODE....
Because I'm the RESERVED AND OBSERVANT TYPE, they'll think they've seen MUMU not knowing that I STING LIKE A BEE...
Imagine a GIRL brought out a TOPIC you know DEEPLY and feel INSULTED because YOU CORRECTED HER and even have the GUT to ask YOU... how did you KNOW?.....

both of us share the same traits

inumidun2010:



You SEE that DOMINEERING wey you MENTION... I hate it like KILODE....
Because I'm the RESERVED AND OBSERVANT TYPE, they'll think they've seen MUMU not knowing that I STING LIKE A BEE...
Imagine a GIRL brought out a TOPIC you know DEEPLY and feel INSULTED because YOU CORRECTED HER and even have the GUT to ask YOU... how did you KNOW?.....

are you a pisces?

oilmonie:
are you a pisces?

WAOH.... yes , 9th March...
Tell me more

Quality20:
hope that with this ur lack of fancy for marriage, you are not indulging in the opening of girl's derierre illicitly sha?

Omo make everybody dey their own make I dey my own

She aborted

FalseProphet1:
Hello folks, as the topic implies, have you been been with someone for months, and even years and ended up going your separate ways? What went wrong?

Kindly share with us.

Prophet no see vision today? As a prophet no need to ask all this many questions when u can see vision

Magnoliaa:
I have. Plenty of times.

Reasons:
- Money
- Attitude
- Ideological differences
- Religious beliefs
- Sexual Incompatibility

So you are a serial engagee?

we were born on the same hospital on the same day, my mom was friends with his mom.
And we even have the same native name.
Everyone assume we will get married but we didn't.
I guess I was engage when I was just a baby lol

Ffghh

* Spiritual forces perhaps..

* Early discovery of an error you about to make (officially ing a union with someone who's completely different from what you know/used to know about them..

* When one wrong spoils/destroys all the right /good things they've done so far..

Thank God for my woman , she ed all the tests( including the ones I didn't mention)...

Got Engaged to someone who had asked me out years ago ,I wasn't interested but I felt he had been persistent enough ....

Next thing he said as a good Christian he will wait till after the wedding to consummate

It sounded great till someone hinted he may be hiding a health problem

She was right! D was tiny finger small & man cums in 10seconds

He also wanted me to forge some important docs ,I realised our values are very different.... Returned his ring & took a walk


Modified

Many of you on this Forum have very minute (pronounced Mai-nute) reasoning capacities

If he will lie & want to con me into a marriage despite knowing his challenges & short comings ,you don't think that is a MASSIVE RED FLAG ?

If he will further buttress such terrible values by asking that we forge important documents,that's not enough to walk away ? Better still RUN AWAY?

To whom a brain is allocated ,sense is expected

This is in response to everyone who mentioned me earlier

Magnoliaa:
I have. Plenty of times.

Reasons:
- Money
- Attitude
- Ideological differences
- Religious beliefs
- Sexual Incompatibility

This mazamaza lady again

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Yes .
She declared War on my family, with the full spiritual & physical backing of her mother.... Chai.....
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But why do ladies pretend cool and loving before marriage but change 360 once they're inside or almost in?.... Don Gerrit

Magnoliaa:
I have. Plenty of times.

Reasons:
- Money
- Attitude
- Ideological differences
- Religious beliefs
- Sexual Incompatibility

This one too much,

Tranquillity360:
A man without girlfriend is happy.





If not for kids man no suppose put himself in trouble in the name of marrying vagina people.

why u talk so?

Alright let’s keep it tidy here, no hatin, woman bashing of any kind. Drop the format as usual and we all cruise.

The mum... ''i want my mum to be happy"

He never stated the reason for the break up, guess she wanted him to marry from their place... cos the next lady(same state as me) he engaged, he still did not marry.

Yea I got engaged to this girl back then. 2009 we did very heavenly introduction,I got ission after then n went to school,, friends started telling me my fiance is misbehaving untill I came around caught her read handed..I forgave her I caught her again I still forgave her until she secured ission into the university 2011 then I stopped the relationship quitely and she never apologize until recently she want to come back and started begging me for forgiveness after she hard a child for another guy.

Kriss216:
Littered and bittered Nairaland feminists, Oya breakfast is ready.

You are juvenile delinquent ...
Who lacks sense of direction and suffers from MPD stage 5.....
Sometimes you should learn the attitude of " keeping silence when you do not know the subject matter."

Every relationship must not end in marriage

Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very ionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.

interesting. What's okafor's law if you don't mind me asking?

Very nice

Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very ionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.