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Mypeople2(m): 7:51pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.
Is marriage not a ticket to free sex ? Traditional marriage is the main marriage
Benprass(m): 7:52pm On Nov 13, 2021
Just only attended traditional marriage!
Nothing like white wedding copy copy won't kill us in this life.

Kia Africa Ohh Africa wakeup.
sambass(m): 7:57pm On Nov 13, 2021
I strongly believed that Bible is Christians manuscript
and there is nothing like white wedding in d Bible. Am of the opinion that once u pay d bride price u don marry be that. U can show me where white wedding was done in d Bible to prove me wrong. My opinion though.
yuping(m): 7:58pm On Nov 13, 2021
Drunkdick85:



What about offering?
Lol Africans, please is there any where in the Bible that states that a wedding without offering is annul, I'm just asking/curious and I'm always ready to learn please put me in the right direction.
Abimbola29(m): 8:01pm On Nov 13, 2021
My wife moved in with me after intro,I just did her trade thank God family no get problem
Someodds: 8:03pm On Nov 13, 2021
Sunnymatey:
as in. When she go drink Garri for hubby house she go get sense.
I still regret doing both knocking, trad and white wedding. My wife still come die on top after just four years.
Now imagine me going full circle again?

Ahhh brother.. so sorry man. Shit happens in a man's life. Take heart
Youngthug69(m): 8:04pm On Nov 13, 2021
Omo oba cool

id4sho(m): 8:04pm On Nov 13, 2021
Sunnymatey:
as in. When she go drink Garri for hubby house she go get sense.
I still regret doing both knocking, trad and white wedding. My wife still come die on top after just four years.
Now imagine me going full circle again?
Hard luck brother
emanobis(m): 8:08pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

Who said so?
White wedding is Western Way of getting married, so they transferred it to us through church.

Our way which is also biblically recognized is by paying a woman's bride price and getting blessings from her parents.

Many whites are having more than 3kids and yet still refer the woman as girlfriend coz they aren't married yet...C.Ronaldo good example.

Make we no dey do deceive ourselves in Nigeria coz White Wedding is not a free ticket to good home or even better children
emanobis(m): 8:09pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
Oh,just because of the peanut you paid as bride price is enough to claim somebody's daughter abi. Mtcheww

Why not go eBay or Amazon to get a fixed price?

So what you are actually saying is that the White Wedding is only a means to milk the man bah? To whose gain? And for what purpose?
BlackDuke(m): 8:11pm On Nov 13, 2021
So after paying bride price and providing all the things on the list to my in-laws, I now return to my people empty handed without a wife, they will now ask what I went there for?

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Coldie: 8:12pm On Nov 13, 2021
U for opt for court wedding na
id4sho(m): 8:13pm On Nov 13, 2021
bukatyne:


@bold:

It is not Biblical.

There is nowhere in the old or new testament that marriages were conducted in the Church.

Paying of bride price is the real marriage. That's why most serious churches would not you until you have paid the bride price or fulfilled the traditional requirement of marriage.

I have not said Church Marriage is wrong; it is just additional ceremony.

Funnily, some churches that issue legal certificate would not wed you if you go to the court for civil marriage.

Thanks for this. How can one identity these legal churches?
emanobis(m): 8:13pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

The only true Vow is the one u made wholeheartedly to your spouse which is Infidelity, Submission and ....any other thing nah wash.

God blesses your home more once your parents has blessed you
emmyrate1(m): 8:14pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.
you have forgotten white wedding is also a traditional weddings of the white people. Is only in Nigeria we waste money doing 3 different type of weddings when all are the same.

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Bamzyriches451: 8:17pm On Nov 13, 2021
MoneyTrees:


You're valid
Even Dangote dey ask for sample before him buy
Oshey
U know the matter
ImDStar: 8:20pm On Nov 13, 2021
Please where did you get this from?

Is it the church that collect bride price?
Where in the Bible did you also get that?

Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding
Qatar2022: 8:23pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.
I don't who raise you but it seems that person is a mad
Qatar2022: 8:23pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
Oh,just because of the peanut you paid as bride price is enough to claim somebody's daughter abi. Mtcheww
You don't even read before saying all this nonsense
sigiyaya112: 8:23pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding
Religion has made you brainless!!
ImDStar: 8:24pm On Nov 13, 2021
Sorry for quoting you.
Please where in the Bible can I find this please?
I use to think it's the traditional marriage that's the only legal form of marriage.


Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

Except you wanna Deceive yourself,You cannot Profess JESUS Christ and leave that out.
Culture cannot substitute the Place of the Church.
We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.

These things are known right from the introduction.
Qatar2022: 8:26pm On Nov 13, 2021
Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

Except you wanna Deceive yourself,You cannot Profess JESUS Christ and leave that out.
Culture cannot substitute the Place of the Church.
We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.

These things are known right from the introduction.
Mister man white wedding is a borrowed tradition of white and it's not biblical,
nyzeo(m): 8:26pm On Nov 13, 2021
Weather peanut of coconut traditional marriage means my wife can move in with me... Church wedding na just cruise... Argue with your keypads..

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elantraceey(f): 8:26pm On Nov 13, 2021
Lol.. she wasn't serious with you. My parents just did church wedding last year cheesy
Exczz: 8:28pm On Nov 13, 2021
Why will she stay there
DesChyko: 8:28pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

By church wedding, you mean 'foreign culture'. Holding sway over indigenous identity.

Such folly.
jaymichael(m): 8:30pm On Nov 13, 2021
Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

Except you wanna Deceive yourself,You cannot Profess JESUS Christ and leave that out.
Culture cannot substitute the Place of the Church.
We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.

These things are known right from the introduction.
And I expect you to provide a scriptutral references for what you stated or I will be tempted to day you are among the deceivers and fraudsters Paul warned about that teach the traditions of men as the gospel.
I will also like to know the "church" wey dem take wed Mary with Jesus papa Joseph.
Tell me where it is stated by "God" that your so called pastors have the power to conduct or sanction marriages.
If you cannot explain the above from the gospel, then you are either blatantly ignorant or outrightly deceptive or both.

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oilmane(m): 8:34pm On Nov 13, 2021
[quote author=Iyaebe post=107580532]All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

True, base on the pastor nai b her papa abi? Wetin b marriage? Nor b payment of woman bride price? So after d man don pay bride price finish to u e day mandatory to do white as well abi? Make them kuku stop payment of dowry day do only white wedding as trad nor day relevant again.
Toks2008(m): 8:37pm On Nov 13, 2021
Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

Except you wanna Deceive yourself,You cannot Profess JESUS Christ and leave that out.
Culture cannot substitute the Place of the Church.
We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.

These things are known right from the introduction.
I use to have small respect for you before but now it is clear that you are a babe in theology and an absolute ignoramus.

You just disgraced yourself with this nonsense you posted. Please delete it and apologise.

And since you have proved to be a sheple with no sense of Biblical study let me help your ignorant ministry.

The only wedding “ceremony” I can find in the Scriptures is the one in which a father places the hand of his daughter in the hand of the husband, and then writes a contract.

The reason why there are no marriage ceremonies in the Bible is because marriage did not involve a ceremony.

Marriage in the Bible simply consists of a man and woman, with the consent of the woman’s father or guardian, living together and attempting procreation. No vows, no priest, no ritual, no prayer, no pronouncement, no license, no registration.

Infact there is no bride price cos bride price was only a punishment for rape.

The reason bride price is recognised is because of what Abraham did when he gave gifts to rebekah family before she moved in with Isaac.

This is why bride price is only for virgins.

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Tonyblessed(m): 8:39pm On Nov 13, 2021
The most important ceremony is the traditional wedding. After that, she is fully your wife. Church wedding is just to make your vows before God which is good but once the parents or family has given the go ahead with the traditional. It is settled according to scriptures. e.g Isaac and the first wedding Jesus attended in Cana. And also Paul did not mention anything about church wedding to the church.
jamesharryson(m): 8:39pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding
Which other different God are u talking about other than our ancestors who unite us

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