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because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs

Wrong reason to jump into marriage.

And, it ooks like the girl is only playing a mind game with you.

You even get mind take girl when dey school serious.. And she go still go service Prepare your heart ahead bro.. The journey far o..
U never see anything.. This is the list you should be worrying about sef..

Op.... If only you would adhere, dump that girl now and look for someone who's ready for marriage.

Kadejo:
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi"

If that line didn't the message that she's not ready for marriage, the part in bold should.

Instead of focusing on starting a family because you're lonely and want to start one before clocking 40, you should put more effort into improving your income.

70k is small for a single, young man, not to talk of one with a wife and kids. And when you start having those kids, the billing never ends.

She's scared of her future

It's just that some men are wicked Nani while trapping ladies to marriage and become irresponsible for her and the children when load of responsibility wanna kill them but forgot they are the one that brought the term marriage up.

I have one marriage that played like this, that girl withdraw from her school and the marriage broke Las lass

If you know you will take care of her and her children, and promised not to give her any responsibility until she's fit to

Then go ahead with these method

Petting, u can only pet or tamed her to bowl for you unless it can not work

Give her reason u are ready for it and see wether she will yield or not

Some kind questions people dey ask here eh

Bros look for someone that will complement you. What would you do as a family with 70k

Look for a lady that loves you and ready to you. This one giving you condition is a bad market. Your love at this this time is insignificant, the ladies own is everything. Thank me later

HopeVictor:
What if ASUU strike??

Him no think that one o

oazeez1991:
Dear Op, I don't tink u need an advise cos 4rm ur narration, wat u actually needed is dia. U spoke abt being ready, den u shud be wif a lady who is also ready, nd not d oda way round, just as we av in maths, + X + = + (positive result) while - X + = - (negative result). So therefore, dia is a clash of interest in ur relationship, u guys interest and priority doesn't align, so y disturb ursef? She is still in school wia she has potential 2 meet thousands of guys dat myt show interest in her, out of which she myt consider nd dish u 4, anoda is d part of NYSC, 4 camp alone, she fit secure space 4 anoda nigga domain, d hilarious part is anoda year 4 SISI..lol! An average lady want an avenue 2 explore b4 getin hook 4 marriage, nd lot hapunz nd may arise during such phase even thou such hapun at dia early 20, but ur gf of mid-20 still wantin 2 explore is wat I don't get. She shud be in her late-20 by den. Imagine d exploration she must av done b4 now nd wud do b4 den. U myt just end up as d loser at d end. So, use ur tongue 2 count ur teeth.

Thank you for this mathematical analysis.

Greatness09:
If you have the financial stability to marry her now please go ahead and do so as campus guys no get joy oooooo dem go chop your future wife wetin you no go chop in just 2 years

Just my opinion bro
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Bad advice! This is why many cheat on their husbands, someone who's not ready to settle down won't revere that union

Move on. Marry someone else

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Afriqan:


Bro, you are in for a big heartbreak, mark my words.

A 25 year old girl who still wants to do "sisi" thinking she has time like her 19 year old course mates is a very silly lady, she doesn't know she has a very short time left.

She will probably go for NYSC and taste different guys and if she doesn't see a better lover she will come back to you and serve you leftovers.

If you are serious about your life, go for a graduate who is looking forward to marriage. I have girls younger than her who are currently asking me for marriage cos they are in that stage of their life where they are ready.

Her age is not the issue, it's her mind and she is still thinking like a teenager who isn't ready for commitment.

Very annoying to read. A 25 year old girl wants to continue doing sisi? What exactly has she been doing since she turned 18? This is unbelievable! When most girls are marrying between age 20 and 22, this one doesn't know she is even too old to be in 400l unless of course had had some other kind of education somewhere before.

Rubbish talk!

You're 'ready' [that income, is a non-starter], she's not. It's a disequilibrium. What advice do you need? It's a free world, man.

I ed Fu*cking a girl that already had a fiance in school back then.I bang nonsense commot for her head and she start hating her guy so much.I don't want her to break the poor guy's heart,I have to end the relationship with her instantly.But the worst thing is that ,the babe nearly kill me for school bc I left her.Nah God save me.Guy,just be careful bc a niggar might be banging her.

HopeVictor:
What if ASUU strike??

you are a mumu man my friend

you are on below 70K and you want to marry? Focus your energy on making more money, when you make more money, women will queue to marry you.

Bro, you know that 70k is too small in a country where boys make more from fraud, besides she is in school, getting all the attention from these guys, she'll probably do more during service, she has already told you that she is not ready, don't pressure her so that you won't have future regrets, looks for ways to make more money and then settle down with a lady that is ready, most importantly, check around you, marry ur friend, one of them probably likes you too, such marriages will last

OhBritannia:
If she really loves you and you are ready, you can get married to her this year or early next year.

any girl that gives excuse when you as the man is ready to marry her, that girl does not love you.

there are ladies that got married at level one, even still gave birth before graduation and their marriage is going on Very successful even after graduation.

You do well. A girl don't have a say to her life right? We ain't in stone age any longer. A girl child have a say to her life

I'm sure you know it's solely a girl decision to accept or reject a man's proposal and not the other way round?

You don't make ractional decision just like that.

Because you as a guy is ready then the girl had no choice than to be ready too?

This your comments is absolutely not far from subjecting the female folks as a slave who got no say to their lives. This is wrong

Kadejo:


So she said, "Sisi"
Well, am not the one responsible for her education. But you know we guys, you have to stretch a hand of fellowship when need arises.

That guy asked you a very important question but you skipped it. I guess love is still shacking you. You've refused to explain to us what she meant by sisi for at least a year. That sisi is definitely a period she won't be committed to anyone fully..shouldn't that give you concern?

Kadejo:

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

What IF the relationship doesn't survive the time?

She may meet another person during her NYSC program and you know what's up na?

It is either you try and convince her to agree with you doing something on her and after she grads, you guys can certify everything with marriage,
Or
You impregnate her knowingly, which in turn will require you marrying her.

My advices are valid only if you want to marry her and ready to shoulder some of her responsibilities, because as a schooling married woman, her parents go comot hands small for her responsibilities.

The best advise na d one wey u give ursef!

@Poster, Are you a learner, how sure are you, that lady who is still in 300level in university will be able to get married to you? If truly you are ready now for marriage, go and pay her bride price immediately and she will become your's, than waiting for her to finish school.

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

Why can't you date a lady within your own age range that is a working class or into business? What the hell is wrong with you people?

Later you will come and start complaining of this and that. This is someone who hasn't even gone for NYSC.

Honestly, you are not smart at all. Future red pillar.

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

You are a mumu man

You are earning less than 70k and u want to marry a jobless undergraduate in this Nigerian. who dey give una dis kain orientation? Why not work on yourself with the money you would have used to marry her? No dey ask SIMPle questions like this abeg

Kadejo:


You think so, I have decided to come out to seek for advice so as to guild my decision.
Never say never bro

Guide not guild. I hate when people don't know how to spell on Internet

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

Weda you wait for am or you no wait for am to finish her Sisi warever, how e take kwansign me bikonu?

Mtcheew.

Move on fast she bit ready at all, at 25 still talking about doing sisi, in 300L when ASUU as we all know can down tools tomorrow and resume after Easter , move very fast bro

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

Hmmm. I be won bash u b4. But no need. Every aboki with hin kettle. We are talking about another 4 years here. U have no control over what happens tomorrow. Let alone 4 yesrs. How do you know she wouldn't find another person with better resource during her period of doing sisi? If u like go and tell her this. U know d answer u go get.

That's my story too o is just that mine is in final but still want to do NYSC, e det tey for my eye

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.