NewStats: 3,261,339 , 8,173,717 topics. Date: Wednesday, 28 May 2025 at 09:12 PM 5i5k1o

seunayantokun:
A self that is not expressed will die. Those who are expressing themselves don't die but realise thier desires. There is no reason for personality-killing shyness unless there is a demonic burden placed on you. If the latter is your case, please turn it to Jesus Christ. Take up His Lordship over your life and you will be set free. You will have to surrender to Him as your Saviour if you have not done to that. Don't compare yourself to anybody neither fear their comments or criticism on this.

Also, start expressing yourself. And, the best way to start is to start now. Don't commit unreasonable suicide, start now. You will soon realise you are far better than many others.

Your statements are contradictory and I am afraid you don't even realize it to begin with.

Jesus Christ proclaimed that anyone who is not willing to DIE TO SELF, take up his cross to follow Him is not worthy of Him. There no "expressing yourself" when you want to become a follower of Jesus Christ but instead a denying of self.

Are you sure you know the real Jesus Christ?

Solofresh2:
Hello fellow Nairalanders,
Please I need your advice on this.I find it hard to express myself to people because of been rejected by them
I find it hard to express myself because of being criticized
I find it hard to express myself even at my place of work because of being sacked going back to square one
There are somethings I don't voluntrily want to do when people ask me to do then but I can't say no because I don't want to look bad
I lack self confidence too
I really need help because deep down I hate it when I can't express my feelings to people
Have been pretending to enjoy pain and stress since I was born and now am 21 years of age,no school,no handwork, always feeling shy but I have one talent which is music but I don't know how to go about it and I don't want to see sucide as an option
I blame my parents for this things because when I was small, they don't allow me to go out and experience life
As I write about this now,I feed myself and instead of them to give me, they are always demanding from me
I don't even know where to start from
Am tired of this goddamn world!

Hey, please don't be hard on yourself. You are even doing well and you are complaining.
With this your writeup and at your age without education as you said, 'no school, no handwork" but you were able to get a job. See keep it up you are doing well, just that you have an ambition and struggling to achieve it which is normal feeling until you achieve it. so many at your age don't even have ambition yet or know that they need to have one.
What you do now is to take it one at a time with the little money you make, look for a way to go back to school to study the course you want that could lead you to achieving your ambition, it could be studying music. you can also lean any handwork of your choice if your current job affords you time or some flexibility.
You can even try starting any business with the little money you make so that you can be free from this your 'unhealthy' work environment.
But don't forget to feel free to express yourself in all situation so long as you are sure you don't intend to offend anyone. If the person now says what you said is offensive, politely tell the person that you are sorry and walk away, by so doing you have expressed yourself whether they like it or not. It will also help you to know what they actually don't want and what they want as well as them knowing what you also want. You will thus pick your friends instead of bottling up yourself.
Try to read lots of books, newspapers and magazines. they help a lot

I wish you good luck

Kobojunkie:
Your statements are contradictory and I am afraid you don't even realize it to begin with.

Jesus Christ proclaimed that anyone who is not willing to DIE TO SELF, take up his cross to follow Him is not worthy of Him. There no "expressing yourself" when you want to become a follower of Jesus Christ but instead a denying of self.

Are you sure you know the real Jesus Christ?

Initially, I wanted to reply to your response to me but I saw your ID and I decided I have no word for you. Thank you.

Go out and mingle

Suicide shouldn't be an option! When there's life there's hope.

I urge you to ionately pursue what makes you happy (music). In it lies your deliverance or salvation.

Best wishes!

Kobojunkie:

Do you struggle with any of the following symptoms?
■Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” mood
■Feelings of hopelessness, or pessimism
■Irritability
■Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness
■Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities
■Decreased energy or fatigue
■Moving or talking more slowly
■Feeling restless or having trouble sitting still
■Difficulty concentrating, ing, or making decisions
■Difficulty sleeping, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
■Appetite and/or weight changes
■Thoughts of death or suicide, or stay cide attempts
■Aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems without a clear physical cause and/or that do not ease even with treatment

What does dis sign mean

Xantel:
Go out and mingle

Easier said than done

good, can you link him up to an instrumentalist or sound recording studio?

You know he needs relevant company now. Not just random strangers!

ND1243:
What does dis sign mean

What sign?

siofra:


I'm saving some money to buy a violin by the end of this year.

YouTube tutorials will help, I've learned a lot of things through YouTube.

Really?

I don’t know much about you, but I think you fear rejection. It’s normal. My simple advice for this is to dress well, go to clubs or social gatherings where you’d see beautiful women, and ask them out.
It won’t be easy at first, but it gets better.
If you don’t work on this now, you’d end up driving yourself nuts. Good luck!

Make friends with people that have the desired character and try working on your self confidence, YouTube might help.

Seniorwriter:


The best way out is to acquire a Digital Skill.....
However if you are interested in earning with music you can go to www.cdbaby.com and get busy.

In another news learn how to earn $100 weekly with Whiteboard Animation for just a token mentorship of $20 or it's equivalent in Naira.....you will be held by the hand for a 4weeks training towards the mastery and earning even before the end of the training period.

If you have access to Internet + browsing gadgets and you ain't earning via your online activities in this times of economic crisis in Nigeria then you are very unwise.

So how can one get to you?
@SENIORWRITER

Do you use to watch football in the viewing center? If not you can start,I was like that before but because of football I can now relate with new people, that is why most of my friends are football fans,
Those littles argument help to remove some shyness

Solofresh2:
Hello fellow Nairalanders,
Please I need your advice on this.I find it hard to express myself to people because of been rejected by them
I find it hard to express myself because of being criticized
I find it hard to express myself even at my place of work because of being sacked going back to square one
There are somethings I don't voluntrily want to do when people ask me to do then but I can't say no because I don't want to look bad
I lack self confidence too
I really need help because deep down I hate it when I can't express my feelings to people
Have been pretending to enjoy pain and stress since I was born and now am 21 years of age,no school,no handwork, always feeling shy but I have one talent which is music but I don't know how to go about it and I don't want to see sucide as an option
I blame my parents for this things because when I was small, they don't allow me to go out and experience life
As I write about this now,I feed myself and instead of them to give me, they are always demanding from me
I don't even know where to start from
Am tired of this goddamn world!

If your story is true, then you're far better than millions of Nigerians with plenty shakara and bragados!

It's just that you haven't realized it.

You are shy because of your opinion of yourself.

Just believe me and tell yourself that it wasn't too bad as you think.

The starting point is to love people and be kind to others, you'll start seeing some confidence build up in you as such people begin to thank and appreciate your kindness to them.

On your gift, use it wherever you find opportunities.

Above all, you need to know your maker. Without Him, even with the best of your gifts. Life can be dull.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Typical of a pussy ass niggar....
This is what happened when father raised weak men and mother reinforced it

This is why I detest boarding school ....bros op story sounds just a like a kid who spent his entire gnnn life in boarding school

No exposure to the real society...no street ruggedity, no toughness....

Ogbeni start hanging around with friends..come out of your house....visit play house, bar, football viewing centres...get high with beer....play Saturday football with hood niggars ....involve yourself when niggarz are arguing...
I don't know if Ogbeni op is in Benin city...make I instil some street and self confidence into am...as I dey type so....I still dey outside with my niggarz...probably before we go enter house today he go be around 1am

so Una go dey out till 1 am, that's a signal for no future ambition, no goals....just flexing, abeg, that's not life o

You are making sense.. I think is only me that start noticing a change whenever I watch documentaries and interview. Is like for some time I do enter the head of the interviewer or person being interviewed

shegzhkn:
Read Books.

Watch documentaries

Watch interviews and news conferences.

Watch tonnes of those.

Solofresh2:
Hello fellow Nairalanders,
Please I need your advice on this.I find it hard to express myself to people because of been rejected by them
I find it hard to express myself because of being criticized
I find it hard to express myself even at my place of work because of being sacked going back to square one
There are somethings I don't voluntrily want to do when people ask me to do then but I can't say no because I don't want to look bad
I lack self confidence too
I really need help because deep down I hate it when I can't express my feelings to people
Have been pretending to enjoy pain and stress since I was born and now am 21 years of age,no school,no handwork, always feeling shy but I have one talent which is music but I don't know how to go about it and I don't want to see sucide as an option
I blame my parents for this things because when I was small, they don't allow me to go out and experience life
As I write about this now,I feed myself and instead of them to give me, they are always demanding from me
I don't even know where to start from
Am tired of this goddamn world!

You need to see a therapist, they'll help you develop self esteem and confidence, look for any psychiatric hospital in your state.

Solofresh2:
Hello fellow Nairalanders,
Please I need your advice on this.I find it hard to express myself to people because of been rejected by them
I find it hard to express myself because of being criticized
I find it hard to express myself even at my place of work because of being sacked going back to square one
There are somethings I don't voluntrily want to do when people ask me to do then but I can't say no because I don't want to look bad
I lack self confidence too
I really need help because deep down I hate it when I can't express my feelings to people
Have been pretending to enjoy pain and stress since I was born and now am 21 years of age,no school,no handwork, always feeling shy but I have one talent which is music but I don't know how to go about it and I don't want to see sucide as an option
I blame my parents for this things because when I was small, they don't allow me to go out and experience life
As I write about this now,I feed myself and instead of them to give me, they are always demanding from me
I don't even know where to start from
Am tired of this goddamn world!

Nonsense!
Blame yourself not your parents. Being able to express yourself has to do with self confidence which most kids developed while in school, and other social/religious gatherings. I m sure , you were exposed to at least one of them

donbachi:
"Shy,shy,shy"... Keep shying na.

Shut up! You are childish!

Solofresh2:
Hello fellow Nairalanders,
Please I need your advice on this.I find it hard to express myself to people because of been rejected by them
I find it hard to express myself because of being criticized
I find it hard to express myself even at my place of work because of being sacked going back to square one
There are somethings I don't voluntrily want to do when people ask me to do then but I can't say no because I don't want to look bad
I lack self confidence too
I really need help because deep down I hate it when I can't express my feelings to people
Have been pretending to enjoy pain and stress since I was born and now am 21 years of age,no school,no handwork, always feeling shy but I have one talent which is music but I don't know how to go about it and I don't want to see sucide as an option
I blame my parents for this things because when I was small, they don't allow me to go out and experience life
As I write about this now,I feed myself and instead of them to give me, they are always demanding from me
I don't even know where to start from
Am tired of this goddamn world!

You need to relate with people stop hiding inside, read books, try making new friends, try initiating conversation all will boast your confidence.

You are suffering from GLOSSOPHOBIA. Please click the link below to get/ my book "GLOSSOPHOBIA NO MORE" from Amazon store and get the details on how you can overcome it.

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YOUR CASE IS NOTHING IF YOUR ARE WILLING TO WORK/DEVELOPE YOURSELF.

HOW:
1) YOU HAVE TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OF YOUR ATTITUDE AND STOP BLAMING YOUR PARENT
2) MOST PEOPLE YOU WISH TO BE LIKE ,WHERE ONCE LIKE YOU OR WORSE THAN YOU.
3) A PROBLEM KNOWN IS HALF SOLVED
4)LEARN TO RENEW YOUR MIND BY READING THE BIBLE,READING BOOKS AND LISTENING TO MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER, AND PRAY TO GOD TO HELP YOU.

RECOMMENDED BOOK

AUTHOR; JOYCE MEYER

TITLE: BATTLE FIELD OF THE MIND


ONE GREAT MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER

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GOODLUCK AS YOU EMBARK ON THE JOURNEY OF CHANGE.

Tadeknkeepcalm:

Introversion as a sign of mental illness?
Never heard that before


And yes, introversion and low self esteem are very much linked.
https://www.pickthebrain.com/is-being-introverted-affecting-your-confidence/#:~:text=What's%20more%E2%80%94because%20lack%20of,worth%20leads%20to%20higher%20introversion.

Error... what you guys assume to be confidence according to this write up is pride and over confidence


Real confidence like that of lion related to introvert...Calm, cool and quiet manner




Very good at observing and defend... trust me that's the actual confidence and not GRA gra

Dear op I was once in your shoe and still is.though have been working on myself and hopefully there have been changes
Please don't listen to those who asked you to embrace alcohol and weed,it would only cause damage to your health
Here are some tips for you . I hope it works for you
...try and act confidently
...try new things i.e get a skill
...stop trying to please people.act like you don't care
...care about your appearance. Improve on your fashion,dress stylishly .it will go a long way in boasting your self confidence
...put yourself out there to meet new people.attend gatherings.church gathering or something
...make eye when talking to someone.shake hands,give hugs
Lastly start making choices/decisions based on what you think not what you think others want from you

Peace

Mumu!!...una too de joke abeg!

donbachi:
"Shy,shy,shy"... Keep shying na.

Kobojunkie:
I think you had better consult the dictionary here to better understand what a symptom really is....
When headache is listed as one of the many symptoms of a particular cancer, you are to look for other existence of other symptoms on the patient that also point towards that very particular cancer before proceeding with test and maybe treatment.

You don't simply conclude with just the one, and you also don't rule it out either - you look for more information

Back to low confidence, unlike introversion which is a personality orientation, results from stress.

I give up on your case.
Your comprehension skills is next to zero

You have to 'conquer your fear' before you can make any major accomplishments

Solofresh2:
Hello fellow Nairalanders,
Please I need your advice on this.I find it hard to express myself to people because of been rejected by them
I find it hard to express myself because of being criticized
I find it hard to express myself even at my place of work because of being sacked going back to square one
There are somethings I don't voluntrily want to do when people ask me to do then but I can't say no because I don't want to look bad
I lack self confidence too
I really need help because deep down I hate it when I can't express my feelings to people
Have been pretending to enjoy pain and stress since I was born and now am 21 years of age,no school,no handwork, always feeling shy but I have one talent which is music but I don't know how to go about it and I don't want to see sucide as an option
I blame my parents for this things because when I was small, they don't allow me to go out and experience life
As I write about this now,I feed myself and instead of them to give me, they are always demanding from me
I don't even know where to start from
Am tired of this goddamn world!

well u need serious counselling on how to build ur self esteem, me 09061831265. I would arrange a theraphy session with. U need a coignitive behavioural therapy.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Typical of a pussy ass niggar....
This is what happened when father raised weak men and mother reinforced it

This is why I detest boarding school ....bros op story sounds just a like a kid who spent his entire gnnn life in boarding school

No exposure to the real society...no street ruggedity, no toughness....

Ogbeni start hanging around with friends..come out of your house....visit play house, bar, football viewing centres...get high with beer....play Saturday football with hood niggars ....involve yourself when niggarz are arguing...
I don't know if Ogbeni op is in Benin city...make I instil some street and self confidence into am...as I dey type so....I still dey outside with my niggarz...probably before we go enter house today he go be around 1am

Ur useless

I used to be like you, but not until I started getting high and drinking beer, all tnx to my lodge mates in school that's when I became bold, at least I can talk to anyone now, without fear, no matter who you are.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Typical of a pussy ass niggar....
This is what happened when father raised weak men and mother reinforced it

This is why I detest boarding school ....bros op story sounds just a like a kid who spent his entire gnnn life in boarding school

No exposure to the real society...no street ruggedity, no toughness....

Ogbeni start hanging around with friends..come out of your house....visit play house, bar, football viewing centres...get high with beer....play Saturday football with hood niggars ....involve yourself when niggarz are arguing...
I don't know if Ogbeni op is in Benin city...make I instil some street and self confidence into am...as I dey type so....I still dey outside with my niggarz...probably before we go enter house today he go be around 1am

The bomber himself !

Lattop:
Try dey smoke but no near Colorado

Can that increase his confidence?