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So one of my clients wanted to transfer 100k to me for a subscription fee, for some reasons I didn't want him to send it to my main so I told him I'll send him an to send the money to.

My girlfriend was with me, so I asked if I could use her and she agreed. (PS: I use her number a lot and we've been dating for a long time so I trust her with such amount) . So I told her to send me her number, but she was watching a movie and requested I check my bank app beneficiaries. I checked and reluctantly copied the number without checking properly seeing the name had her surname on it, I didn't check the rest.

My client transferred the money and almost 24hrs my girlfriend still didn't receive the money so I ed him and he sent a screenshot of the transfer which I forwarded to her. Immediately she saw it she shouted! That's her dads number, I know I used to send her money through he's some years back so I saved he's details. She quickly called him and that's when she heard the shocker.

He said he thought it was he's friend abroad, so they used the money to buy food stuff and what is left is 40k or less, her mom was even pleading if they can send the 40k. My GF has been crying and begging that I should give them time to raise the money or I should sell her phone. Her entire family have been calling me and I refused to pick, I just want my money back complete.

How can you use money you didn't the source in less than 24hrs? Her Mom is a pastor and Father is an elder but this is stealing! Did you call your friend abroad to ask before using the money? Her dad is retired without pention so I know for sure they don't have a way of raising the money.

After much pleading I asked her to tell them to send the 40k and send the rest before the week runs out, that's when they told her they can't do transfer and it has to be on Tuesday. At this stage, I just concluded they spent all that money, I'm trying to stay calm but at the same time not be foolish. My friend is asking me to involve the police but this will certainly hurt my relationship. Please how should I follow this matter, I need mature advice please. 100k is not something I can dash anyone right now.

You have made the mistake..live with it..police no go listen to you unless you wan waste more money..next time you go shine your eyes well..na you know the hidden business you dey do with your clients wey you no wan use your ..

Love still dey shack this one

Use the money as her bride price, shikena

lilvicky68:
You have made the mistake..live with it..police no go listen to you unless you wan waste more money..next time you go shine your eyes well..na you know the hidden business you dey do with your clients wey you no wan use your ..

There is nothing hidden about the business, he used to be my Sisters Boss in the office. He needed a web developer and she recommended me but told him I was working with Paystack. I delivered an excellent job and host their company website and app. She's in the US now so we deal directly now, this is why I didn't want to use my because my sister insisted I never use mine.

Modified: My sisters Boss is a manager in Shell, my sister used to work in Shell. Her Boss needed a website for his company so she told him she knew a guy from paystack. Not her Brother! Her reason for this was that she knew he didn't want family wahala and needed something strictly professional. I built the website, he liked it and paid through her and she gave me the money. I also built an app for them and several other services, all the funds where paid to my sisters and she will transfer it to me. Now she's in the US and I have to deal with her Boss expressly, if I send him my number it would have the same surname with my sister and hence the red flag and he won't like this despite working with them for many years. The 100k fee is paid yearly for maintenance, hosting and updates. I hope people read this and stop thinking it's a fraudulent deal.

DaddyRochie1642:
Love still dey shack this one

It's very far from that my dear.

grossintel:
There is nothing hidden about the business, he used to be my sisters Boss in the office. He needed a web developer and she recommended me but told him I was working with Paystack. I delivered an excellent job and host their company website and app. She's in the US now so we deal directly now, this is why I didn't want to use my because my sister insisted I never use mine.

Is your girlfriend's family too poor that you're feeling like they can't pay you back?

Normally I will shout shoot

And say issokay!!!!

But this your issue lasan

Nah only one thing I get to say



GO AND LISTEN TO SINACH miracle worker. Peace!!!!

Queenttoast01:
Use the money as her bride price, shikena

how does this make any sense

lilvicky68:

Is your girlfriend's family too poor that you're feeling like they can't pay you back?

I won't describe them as poor in anyway, but they are definitely at the rough edges. This is why I'm worried they acted this way.

shey someone up there has adviced you to use the money as your bride price already...

she's all yours now bro

grossintel:
I won't describe them as poor in anyway, but they are definitely at the rough edges. This is why I'm worried they acted this way.

You can't blame them for spending the money...If I say just 100k now people go talk..

Yoooo .... Within 24hrs 60k don vanished .... Omo *⁷⁰⁹⁹...

lilvicky68:

You can't blame them for spending the money.

Really? What happened to integrity? A good name is better than riches? I understand the temptation was real but I'm highly disappointed. Even if you are going to use money you're not sure of the source, why not make some calls or wait a couple of days!

grossintel:
Really? What happened to dignity? A good name is better than riches? I understand the temptation was real but I'm highly disappointed.

If money enter your and nobody call you to acknowledge the money..you no go spend am?

lilvicky68:

If money enter your and nobody call you to acknowledge the money..you no go spend am?

My brother, I won't! Even if I would, I'll wait a couple of days or call people I know could send it. I have clients who do that sometimes and I always try to find out who sent it and what it's for.

They're pastors, prospective in-laws and broke for that matter, oga just forget about the money. Collect whatever they return and count your losses.

You are even lucky you sent it to their and not a random person. You just have to be patient to get your money back.

Just to let you know your bride price is +100 k already that's if they will give you wife

dominique:
They're pastors, prospective in-laws and broke for that matter, oga just forget about the money. Collect whatever they return and count your losses.

Sadly it's the only reality I'm faced with right now. I'm pained but ave learnt an expensive lesson.

Tight corner .... hope you go still marry the girl with this kind issue that occur

Queenttoast01:
Use the money as her bride price, shikena

That is jumping from frying pan to fire �

I see a crack in your relationship soon, mr man, I am not a prophet of doom but your relationship is getting a hit
1. if you use force or you hastened them to pay back causing a lot of inconveniences on their side, you know your girl can never view you the same again.

2. if you play the big man card and decides to take it easy with them, you literally forget about the money, subconsciously some of your actions might be misinterpreted by your girlfriend because her parents are indebted to you e.g maybe you are not in a good mood and you snap at her, she might think that is a result of her family's unpaid debt and so many other scenarios.

My Advice.
if the relationship is worthwhile
let them pay back at their convenient time, use maturity in dealing with your girlfriend from now on because it is very hard for her to choose a side on the current issue.

If the relationship is not worthwhile
Since police charges are exorbitant, you can go to your girlfriend's parent house with 1 Amotekun commander and 2 O.P C , that would be cheaper than using police, Police will gulp nearly half of the money you want to get back.

Convert it to bride price. Afterall you've been chopping Baba's daughter without dowry. So let baba drink wine small. Lol...

Go tell her papa say you be dey hide dey Bleep her daughter is why you mistakingly transfered 100k to his

Her papa go tell you say 100k no go solve her damages you put inside her

Her papa will not be happy with you

Her papa go tell you to transfer balance

If not you will not get access to examine her private part again

If her papa eyes tears ehm he will turn you to he first bank of Nigeria

All because you don catch your self mugu

grossintel:
So one of my clients wanted to transfer 100k to me for a subscription fee, for some reasons I didn't want him to send it to my main so I told him I'll send him an to send the money to.

My girlfriend was with me, so I asked if I could use her and she agreed. (PS: I use her number a lot and we've been dating for a long time so I trust her with such amount) . So I told her to send me her number, but she was watching a movie and requested I check my bank app beneficiaries. I checked and reluctantly copied the number without checking properly seeing the name had her surname on it, I didn't check the rest.

My client transferred the money and almost 24hrs my girlfriend still didn't receive the money so I ed him and he sent a screenshot of the transfer which I forwarded to her. Immediately she saw it she shouted! That's her dads number, I know I used to send her money through he's some years back so I saved he's details. She quickly called him and that's when she heard the shocker.

He said he thought it was he's friend abroad, so they used the money to buy food stuff and what is left is 40k or less, her mom was even pleading if they can send the 40k. My GF has been crying and begging that I should give them time to raise the money or I should sell her phone. Her entire family have been calling me and I refused to pick, I just want my money back complete.

How can you use money you didn't the source in less than 24hrs? Her Mom is a pastor and Father is an elder but this is stealing! Did you call your friend abroad to ask before using the money? Her dad is retired without pention so I know for sure they don't have a way of raising the money.

After much pleading I asked her to tell them to send the 40k and send the rest before the week runs out, that's when they told her they can't do transfer and it has to be on Tuesday. At this stage, I just concluded they spent all that money, I'm trying to stay calm but at the same time not be foolish. My friend is asking me to involve the police but this will certainly hurt my relationship. Please how should I follow this matter, I need mature advice please. 100k is not something I can dash anyone right now.

Man. Most people are happy they found such loyal and honest people and just because of 100k, you can't turn yourself loose & act like a kid.

It has been destined it will happen this way, so let it be and do not disturb the old man and his wife pls.

I want to tell you something today, just pretend as if nothing happen and sow that as a seed, believe me, your next project will be *10 of what you sow. Its working for me because I am also a freelancer.

I have made over #1.2m in 3 months from 2d animations and Website developing. For the custom website development, i am not a pro in that cos it needed coding, so I outsourced at #150, 000.

So, if you are that good, lemme have your so if i have my next website development project, i will let you know.

I do give to people as am led to and its unconditionally. Sometimes, when am in a restaurant or grocery, people come to ask for favors and I give. I do see God bless me more after such gestures.

So, leave it that way. Atleast, you can still manage till another income comes in and next time, use your siblings acct instead.

For the 100k, count it as a pride price for your gf.

Irresponsible men and women. Was there no narration on the text message? That's why you need to very well before sending money and also try to delete beneficiary you are not close to.

I have some artisans I pay money to regularly. I ask for their number everytime I want to transfer. I know if I mistakenly send money to such people, that's the end of that money.

For your case, just be patient and if they can't refund the money, please take it in good faith. There is little you can do in this situation.

Where is the evidence of conversation you had with your girl and transaction notification (debit alert)? Looks like FAKE NEWS

This is a very serious case. But I'll blame her parents, even if they were expecting someone abroad to send money, credit alerts comes with a sender name, as long as the sender name on the credit alert didn't correspond with the name of the family member in diaspora, they had no right to touch the money.

But would you crucify them for that? There's so much hunger and suffering in the land that the word "integrity" seems alien to most Nigerians.

My advise is for you to consider what some posters have been saying here. If she's worth it, just go ahead and propose to her and that money can be used as introduction, her father on the other hand will be lenient with you on bride price considering what he put you through.

If she isn't worth marrying, well you'd just have to forget about that money and move on, see it as your payment for all the sex she's been giving to you, cos you stated it clearly that her parents are currently in a pitiful financial state, meaning asking them to raise such money back for you is like driving them to an early grave via stroke and other depressed related afflictions.

The choice is yours.

And next time be very careful whenever you're doing a transfer, this is one area I don't joke with, I confirm the sender name on my bank app before submitting, if you had done that, it could have saved you all this stress.

Some family are just shameless!. Irrespective of your situation you should always hesitate to spend money you don't know the source.

If it were to be some rich man that sent the money mistakenly he definitely would collect his money back not because he's wicked or has power but because some people are just eager to spend money they don't know the source because of their greediness and covetiousness.

Kate06:


Man. Most people are happy they found such loyal and honest people and just because of 100k, you can't turn yourself loose & act like a kid.

It has been destined it will happen this way, so let it be and do not disturb the old man and his wife pls.

I want to tell you something today, just pretend as if nothing happen and sow that as a seed, believe me, your next project will be *10 of what you sow. Its working for me because I am also a freelancer.

I have made over #1.2m in 3 months from 2d animations and Website developing. For the custom website development, i am not a pro in that cos it needed coding, so I outsourced at #150, 000.

So, if you are that good, lemme have your so if i have my next website development project, i will let you know.

I do give to people as am led to and its unconditionally. Sometimes, when am in a restaurant or grocery, people come to ask for favors and I give. I do see God bless me more after such gestures.

So, leave it that way. Atleast, you can still manage till another income comes in and next time, use your siblings acct instead.

For the 100k, count it as a pride price for your gf.

Like I earlier stated, I'm disappointed but at the same time their is almost nothing I can do. So for now, I'll have to play the waiting card, all my beneficiaries are family but after what happened I quickly deleted her dads number so I'm sure I won't make that mistake again.

AGAIN, have a lot of projects at hand and needed some funds to keeps things rolling until I'm done with them. I try not to take too much so I'm not tied up and burnt out, but as this happened I'll probably take up more offers than I should which isn't good. I could let it go, cause from the look of things they know I can't force them or u shouldn't force them since I'm serious with their daughter. But what they don't know is their daughter is broken, not only is she disappointed she feels embarrassed by their actions. I know this because I'm very close to her, all she's thinking about now is how to repay the money even though I won't let her go through the hustle right now.

In all these ave come to the conclusion that humans are humans, we blame politicians but if given the same opportunity we will most likely do worse. As terrible as it sounds, I'll never trust them with money again, not now not ever. I've also conclude the money is lost, so when she talks about it and say they will pay back, I just tell her if and when they do she should let me know. But she shouldn't say they will or try to make me believe they will because it will only make me feel worse if they don't.

I'll just manage what I have for now, Easter flexing was almost guaranteed but now ave lost the mood for that completely.

There is nothing much you can do about the money, just look for one corner and cry in peace.

AishaYesufu:
Where is the evidence of conversation you had with your girl and transaction notification (debit alert)? Looks like FAKE NEWS

grossintel:

Having confirmed the legitimacy of the thread, here is my advice.

Kindly demand for the refund of your money but within you be willing to accept what they could offer.

Or

Convert it to debt that they should repay at their convenient time or an agreed period of time. God bless